Do You Think Being Charismatic Is Something People Are Born With Or Can It Be Learned?

Question

My answer:

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

I think some people come to it more naturally then others but I do believe it can be learned. In fact I would say I have learned it. I was very shy as a kid, not noticible or charismatic in the slightest. Now I can pretty much own the room if I want to. I think it requires certain behaviors and temperments which can and do change in your life.

This is what gave me charisma, I knew who I was, I knew what I was capable of and I was confident enough that I didn't have to be the center of attention. I was/am quick witted, but because of my child hood experiences I also am always trying to cheer people up and looking out for people. This has given me that "warm" charisma.

Basically the best quote about charisma is, "Charisma is the ability to talk to a person and have them walk away feeling like both of you are awesome.", that is what I do because for me I do geniunely believe in people and want them to be happy and I have the confidence to be unphased by most things, a quick wit to turn negatives into positives for myself and others, and a genuine concern for others (basically I joke that I am a puppy dog but that is kind of my personality, love for every one and appreciation for just how awesome life can be (with the occasional dark humor thrown in for good measure). So long story short I would say its learned but their are elements that come more naturally then others.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think “charisma” is a natural trait that we all have—but some have it more than others; and for those who have it in abundance, then we say these people “have charisma” or are “charismatic.” Certainly behaviors/skillsets that make people “more charismatic” can be learned/developed, but to me these people aren’t “being charismatic” but rather they’re “acting (like how they learned to be) charismatic.” See the following articles, which discuss charisma & charismatic leadership...

wolfcat87 · Accepted Answer

My daughter was born very charismatic. She got it from her father. It can be learned a bit the way I learned it, but the learned version can never quite compete with a naturally born charismatic person who just oozes the stuff!

Her father could walk into any room and just get a free pass to do anything plus free stuff handed to him. She is the same way, everyone just automatically follows her lead, gives her what she wants, and does what she wants. When she turns on the charm it is so strong that it almost hurts to look at! Certainly not something easy to resist. People will act down right ridiculous to be on their good side. Her father says no one ever questions/challenges him except me. No one else in his entire life. It just doesn't happen. I can understand why.

When I turn on the charm, most people will be on my side and give me what I want. It just does not happen to nearly the same degree it does with them. Never has. Learned charm is nice and helpful but resistible. Natural charm is irresistible. One is a knock off of a name brand, and the other is the real deal.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

I think it can be both. There are some people who are just born with it cause they have a naturally outgoing personality. We hall have that one person or popular kid in school that everyone flocked to/liked cause their that socially good with other people. And then you have people-like me- who just aren't that good at it and can have a hard time talking to other people. I'm still a very shy person, but when I do work up the courage to talk to someone I do it as long as I feel comfortable and know that person wants to engage in a conversation with me.

TCredo · Answer

Always wonder with attributes like this how much is nature vs. nurture - and if, in this example, someone who could be highly charismatic, is born into a crap situation that stifles if not eliminates the potential attribute to develop.

For charisma, I do think it's part of the wiring that some folks are born with and some are not. And I'd say for those with the natural trait, there is still learned behavior opportunity with how best to use the trait. Good traits wasted or not properly leveraged are a shame :)

SystemOfTheMachine · Answer

I think charisma and charm can be learned. I used to be an extremely shy person, but then I started getting into acting and hosting karaoke or open mics at bars and I started to realize that I could be very charming.

I think there are things that you are born with that can affect your ability to be charismatic. The most obvious is your attractiveness. A good-looking person will often get a an advantage in this area, though it is not a guarantee. I'm sure we can all think of attractive people that have terrible personalities that make them abhorrent.

I feel that a person's personality heavily determines there charismic ability. And given that in psychology some say that about 60% of the personality is determined after birth through nurture, I believe it is a skill to be learned.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I'm an introvert, however when I socialize and drink alcohol, I become social and charasmatic. I also am a happy drunk, so none of that slop with emotional breakdowns and rageaholic bullcrap :)

I think charisma can be learned because along with introversion comes stage-fright. I play in rock bands, lead guitar, so I'm front and center. I was a mess my first few shows, and someone suggested that I down a couple of beers before performing.. that did it. Alcohol loosened me up so well that my playing even improved enough to notice. Alcohol is a slippery slope, so kids - use alcohol sparingly, it doesn't take much.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Probably a bit of both actually. A good friend of mine back when I was in my 20's had a lot of charisma. I think mostly he was born with it. Funny thing is not everyone with charisma is that well liked. Some people don't want to hang out with someone who is that animated and outgoing. Sometimes even hanging out with that friend out in public was a bit much.

jshm2 · Answer

Charisma, like confidence is not something tangible that exists.

It's something that people believe either in themselves, or others. Similar to a superstition (or delusion) it holds sway with a particular group or sector.

It is why you have leaders, personalities and celebrities who connect with particular demographics, but repel others.

AndrewMG · Answer

I'm a more nurture over nature guy, but there's a part of me that believes that certain skills are almost ingrained in a person/linked with DNA. So I'll sit on the fence and say Charisma can be learnt but it needs a willing student for it to have an affect!

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I used to be a quite shy kid but i learned, i taught my self, how to speak, the words i choose, the way i tell things, my body language and facts because if drop some BS in their! You are done. There is the pretenders and there is the ones who don't pretend. And just like real gentlemen and fake ones exist and the fake ones are everywhere, same thing goes for the pretenders. I learned, i did fail and did wrong but that's how i learned. If some are born with it! In my case, i never met one, yet.

Anonymous · Answer

I would say natural because it depends on what kind of environment you were raised in , what events you went through and how it shaped your personality.
factors that you can't control. being charismatic is natural
other can only pretend to be charismatic

Dongtai · Answer

Both. Some people are naturally charismatic while others can learn it. It’s not really hard to be charming.

All it is is making people feel really good when they’re around you. You can do it by making them laugh, complimenting them or just listening to them talk about something they care about. It’s all about giving off positive vibes. You’re basically the light of the room. When people are around you, you make them glow and in turn they see your glow and become attracted to your light. That’s all there is to charm.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

I'd say 90% environment, especially your family as you grow up. I think your parents and family environment make a huge difference in this sort of thing. I don't think it's something you "learn" though. It just rubs off on you.

The other 10% is something you can learn and practice. Even if you are brought up in a negative downer environment, I think you can get past that enough that eventually it will come naturally.

ILoveAnime · Answer

I think it can be both a natural trait and a learned behaviour. My sister used to be a little brat of a child from what I was told and remenber and can still be a pretty bratty adult. But she knows how to charm people to do what she wants, she learned that. It doesn't hurt that she is a stunning woman.

spartan55 · Answer

Like many personality traits, good or bad, I think it is a mix of both. Some aren't born with natural charisma, but can improve it various ways. Some are born with it in spades, and don't need to work on it.

likelyOK · Answer

Mostly born with people can try and fake it but usually it’s easy to read and they actually think they are more charming then they are

MotherEarth2020 · Answer

My husband has that natural talent. He can walk up to anyone and you feel like you known him forever Me I don't have that talent.

FatherJack · Answer

I would say a combination of the 2 , if you truly desired a trait , you can work on developing it , I have the confidence bit , but would not describe myself as warm... unless you are a ferret , then I am as soft as shit !!

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say it's mostly learned behavior. Children can learn from an early age how to behave to get what they want. Being charismatic draws people to you, and enables you go get what you want. A person can learn to be charismatic , regardless of their age. It can definitely be faked. I'd say most charismatic people fake it , but they probably won't realize they are.

TremorJay · Answer

I think hardworking happy people are naturally more charismatic. So I'll go with natural. Anything else is just a tactic

Sir_Glance_A_Lot · Answer

I think it is a little of both. You can be born with certain personality traits, but you have to hone those traits to really bring out the best qualities of them.

tUCK_Frump · Answer

I think anything can be learned if willing to try. But hard to master.

Charisma is something you develop from within, but you must develop yourself. You can observe it and imitate, but to truly be charismatic, you teach to yourself and mold it to your being.

This is seriously hard to describe.

Avicenna · Answer

I think it's inherited, but also that we can maximize our potential charisma through experience and training.

Do You Think Being Charismatic Is Something People Are Born With Or Can It Be Learned?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Do You Think Being Charismatic Is Something People Are Born With Or Can It Be Learned?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.