Do you believe opposites attract more than similar?

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Novacane · Accepted Answer

I think a lot of people really think that they want to date someone like them but the moment you find that you will realize that it's not all rainbows and sunshine. I think a lot of people have never spent a day with themselves and really seen the person they are for them to date someone exactly like them. From what I noticed opposites really do attract because that person is bringing something new into their life the same way you are to them. It's like yin and yang. There are also stats I saw once that stated that if you were to date someone that is exactly like you, the chances of that relationship working out is a 1/650 chance. (Not sure if that's the exact number but somewhere in the 600 range)

ohshee · Accepted Answer

One hundred % yes we are made of water and atoms atoms broke down equals energy we are made of electricity we are made of energy take a positive wire and put it on one side of a two-by-four one end of a two by four put the negative wire on the opposite side and then turn on the power that energy will head right towards each other until they collide
It's the same thing with people we have energies in our body when two people get along they call it chemistry yes it's parsley chemistry but it's also energy the most beautiful feeling in this world is when two energies can become one

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Depends. If someone likes a challenge, they'll be drawn to someone different than themselves. On the other hand, some people like friends exactly like themselves and can't tolerate difference.

It's a personality thing... I think a good mix of likeness and difference is best. Spice is nice.

sassyredhead · Accepted Answer

You need to have similar values and think alike but day to differences are okay.

Ariana9819 · Answer

Id definitely say similar. For me personally it's important to have similar values, morals and outlook on life. Preferably a similar background/upbringing or at least the capacity to appreciate and understand this.
Being with someone more opposite is fun for a while but problems and conflict always arise.

Me and my current partner have similar values etc and are both very emotional people but my partner wears his heart on his sleeve and is quick to react or gets upset easily and is always worrying whereas I can control my emotions and I'm laid back, pretty chill. Whilst it can be frustrating at times, we have learned a lot from each other and try to balance each other out

kylee2437 · Answer

This is a hard question. I think being too opposite can lead to incompatibility but a relationship where two people are similar can get boring. I think it needs to be a balance. I think two people can be opposites and be attracted to each other based on a similarity that they do have.

Jabberjaw · Answer

Mmmm yes and no

Masculine and Feminine attract
But certain traits and archetype that are in line with one another attract.

A Feminine woman from Montana would likely still be attracted to a Masculine city boy from New York even tho they have different culture and lifestyles and he likely doesn't fit her archetype of what's the ideal man.

But the attraction would still be there even if she doesn't go with him and inevitably chooses a man who is more her type culturally speaking

HopefulGuy94 · Answer

Guys , we are not the particles whose ionic and/or electric charges could be either attracted or pull someone towards us like in physics or chemistry. They r just objects but we r human beings so we have emotions , feelings , moods , physiology or etc. to feel close to someone unlike the particles or objects have. Those who are attracted to opposite personalities are also the ones who are much much more likely to fail the relationship in further steps on the way to marriage. If someone thinks that the opposites are better tell them this one : " Similars are like puzzle pieces that when combined together they complete each other's missing places. If the puzzle pieces are not suitable to be combined the whole puzzle cannot be even done. Whatcha think about it? " lool

Horse-girl · Answer

I personally think that opposites attract with personalitys but not interests. For example two very talkative people would not work as well as one who is very talkative with a listener. Two talkative people would not be able to listen properly to what the other is saying. On the other hand having opposite interests would not work, you need to have similar interests and values for it to work. That's just my opinion. 😊

its_amelia_c · Answer

They can, but maybe in the long run you may run into issues, things that just won’t work out and cause big issues that lead to arguments and disagreements.

I think you really need to have things, at least the really big things that are very similar and you agree on. If not it’s pretty much doomed!

GatewayRealm · Answer

No Opposites don’t exist just parts of ourselves that we deny the existence of. IE if your boyfriend beats you and you always Get boyfriends that beat you up.
Then you are attracted to the Power and wish You Could yourself start beating Others up and be Strong like what You See in him.
Maybe he’s got a lot of money but your Christian and say money is evil what You say is actually what you are Drawn too. That’s why when you Talk about How you Are quitting an Addiction you end up Doing the thing you talk about Hating or wanting to Quit.

Nerdy_Blonde · Answer

This is unrelated to the question but I love her red dress

Debris1 · Answer

Being male and female is opposite enough. We need to have similar attractiveness, beliefs and interests.

Кураж · Answer

I'm not attracted to differences at all personally, I'm attracted to those who are the most similar to me.
Sameness excites me because it's special, most people in your life are going to be quite different from you, and in that way they become quite mundane and homogeneous.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Not more, but they do, however only if also some other compatibility.

having a bit of rough is a thing.

often we see things in others we wish we could be like

however attraction is bizarre really, it can be all sorts of minor things

Blackcosmo · Answer

A little bit of both is good. It's good to share some similar interests and it's nice when you fill out what the other person lacks. One could be shy and the other outgoing. Opposites are really cute in my opinion.

Anonymous · Answer

Its complicated, I'm an ENFP and my bff and business partner is an INFP. We are incredibly similar except I am far more outgoing than she is which means we are just different enough to be a nonromantic power couple... Drives our SOs up the wall bc everyone always thinks we are an item.

TwinkleLily5 · Answer

No, tried it. The incompatibility was to much. Maybe when your younger in your early 20s “opposites attract”, because you’re not set in your ways or haven’t discovered who you truly are.

EyeKnowMeNahYou · Answer

No, I think commonalities are a real thing in attraction. People group together via similar likes and taste but I've never seen a pacifist natural say hmmm that more volatile person is attractive. Lol! But I'd retract and say yes just the same because although similarities are great to have something different about you with someone whom you have things in common with is best. It's like adding spice to a good meal but making it far better.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No. If you've gotten to know someone, then you know there are shared values and relatable things about one another that brings them together. We're not magnets, we're humans. The appearance of someone doesn't entirely speak of who they are, even though there are many cases of which.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Opposites attract the way it was said different i belive in the past.

It spoke about the balance of energies or personalities.

For let's say one person is very cool partying all the time entertaining everyone and there is someone who is calmer and poised.

Sobif these two meet they can balance each other out.

But willingness is important.

Starlight007 · Answer

We as humans tend to get attracted to people who share similarities with us! sometimes the similarities are less and sometimes they are more!

anylolone · Answer

Well, I think similar enough and different enough is what attracts.
You know, basic evolutionary psychology.

It's fun how much of standards in social animals is tercerized.

"My parents reproduced, and so did their parents, in this environment, but nobody likes to end up like the habsburgs, so I guess my neighbor is pretty hot!"

Unless you are an example of the "dogpill" I guess someone has to be similar enough to be human.

menina · Answer

No, I think people tend to feel attracted to those who are similar to them.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Opposite like I want to live on the beach and she wants to live in the mountains... no. But personality compatibility absolutely yes. Must be opposites or it will never work. Someone must lead and someone must follow or else things do not work very well. Someone must fulfill one role so the other can fulfill the other role. So opposites.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

No. There is nothing to that saying. All it means is that some particular visible trait is opposite.

Even if it's not visible on the surface, there is something keeping a couple together, and it's not their differences.

Guy13 · Answer

I know it does for you because everyone is Opposite/Normal when compared to you…. Your whole life will be like, “why do I always attract opposite…can’t I get someone that shares my interest or is like me?” NO, you can not🙃
Best-

sheikalana · Answer

I personally could never date someone who's the opposite to me. Me and my husband have similar interests.

purplepoppy · Answer

Opposites repel. The whole opposites attract is a tired cliche that just ends in misery

Nonamesbetter18 · Answer

Yea opposites attract but there should also be some similars to have a commonality

Berethor · Answer

Men and women have differences by default, but without common goals the relationship is likely to fail, so I go with similar is better, but not too similar unless you gay.

Anonymous · Answer

Both. Example : Magnets are metals and they attract metals. While the opposite poles of magnets attract they are both magnets.
I think there has to be enough commonality for the magnetism to flow through each of them.

Valso · Answer

They probably do but without any common ground they have nothing to talk about and the result will be as fruitful as Kara Danvers' first date ever. 🤣 Without (good) communication to tell each other what they like, even sex will suck.

Citizenkirk · Answer

I believe in comparable comparability over similar comparability. Men are from Mars, Woman from Venus.   Brother and sister planets orbiting the 😎

Stoner710 · Answer

Similar is better. Imagine a leftist with a conservatives your going to have a lot of issues in that relationship

VLAD76 · Answer

Yeah, cause male and female are opposites and that works!

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

I like how guys are equally distributed in the polls section.

clampfan101 · Answer

Opposites can be helpful, but the only opposite I’m actively looking for is gender. lol Similarities can help with so much more, such as understanding.

IsoUser · Answer

To be perfectly honest I truly believe that opposites attract an become probably one of the strongest relationships that a girl and a guy can ever have. I know that it is true regarding my life.

Juxtapose · Answer

No, I want somebody with compassion, loyalty, humor, bravery, etc. Why would I want an unloyal, humorless, cowardly jerk?

Crankor · Answer

Opposites is what creates curiousity, similar creates relatability. Too much of either can be a bad thing

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Well they definitely attract... But after a while when the magic is gone it gets ugly...

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Opposites are a hot intense flame which is fun short term, long term it simply can't work because personalities, vaules and beliefs can't co-exist.

Ihatethewill · Answer

I like girls who are different, yet have small similarities to me. I like learning new things from her. Also I don't want to date another me.

Anonymous · Answer

Newness is attractive. After the newness of their oppositeness wears off you'll grow to hate them.

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

No similar have an instant connection

Mrpool96 · Answer

I think it's depends upon the individual intrests

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, that is true in many instances, but not all.

Joker_ · Answer

compatibles attract

msc545 · Answer

Yes, a lot

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