Guys, What do you need to fall in love with someone?

[jennifer_bloom]

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Either this is too embarrassing for many guys to answer or they have no clue how to answer this question.

[KirbyFan246]

A Good Relationship is determined by the Following Qualities:

Love.

Only the Loving are Loved, so aim to Be Loving, by being Friendly, Affectionate, Kind, Sweet, Thoughtful of their needs and your own, occasionally vulnerable, open-minded, frisky once in awhile, forgiving, and everything of the similar sort, for the sake of harmony, family, and belonging.

What is love, you might ask? Love is the Following:
Commitment, (Com) Passion, and Intimacy,
Bounded by Trust, Responsibility, Communication, with the Ability to be Vulnerable when needed,
Managed by Two Mature, Consenting, and Loving Parties (You and Your Partner)

[Anonymous]

It does not take much. Once I know I can trust a woman, the love starts almost instantly.

In terms of actions, I will fall in love instantly if she is observant enough to notice one of my insecurities, address it and then reassure me it will not make her run away.

[AMA_ImAnOpenBook]

This is a difficult question to answer, and i don't know that there is just 1 way to fall in love, but i will try.

Obviously there needs to be an attraction. Physically, sexually, emotionally. There needs to be trust. I need to know that she is honest with me, that she is loyal, and faithful. There needs to be security. Being able to be completely open and vulnerable, and able to let your guard down and feel comfortable, and accepted and valued and appreciated as you are. Shared experiences to grow closer. Caring enough about the other person to put their needs before yours, being willing to make sacrifices. Sharing a sense of humor and being able to make each other laugh. I don't know some combination of some or all of these things.

[Ευδεμονια]

It’s impossible to answer correctly at this question, since every person has its own unique way to feel love and sentiment.
In my opinion an easier way to create attachment to someone is to share moments like trips, dinners, movies etc, to collect memories. But the mechanism that brings a guy to fall for someone is something so personal and unclear that can’t be explained so well. It also doesn’t properly depend on the person to fall in love with, since we can fall for someone with standard that are different from what we wanted in first instance.

[Freyke]

I don't. I need us to be compatible and I need time. I never had love goggles on so I don't fall in love. I snail my way into it. I have met insecure people, physically and emotionally abusive people, overthinkers, or people who just want to be with me right away. I can't with these people. If I ask you out I want to know exactly why I asked you out. I want to know Who You Are.

[younis123]

Love takes time and patience for me. To love a girl, she should first be intelligent and willing to discuss anything about life. Loyality is for me the most important quality to determine, whether love could even flourish. I find myself always falling in love with girls that don't just always talk about girl's stuff, but rather they are aware of the world around them and have their own views about how things are.

[Hanrej]

Well first of let me ask you what you mean when you say "fall in love"?
Many men will be saticefied with little. It's enough to have a decent level of attraction, similar values and enough time to form an empathic conection to fall in love.

But... If by "fall in love" you mean he will suddenly behave in a manner you approve of, i. e start spending time, money and energy on you exclusivly in an effort to get to know you with the end goal of it becoming serious like marriage or similar you should keep in mind that just because a man loves you doesn't mean he's stopped loving himself.
If he sees no future with you he won't act on his feelings regardless of weather they're there or not. He won't risk his own security, health and indeed life to please somone he's not 100% sure of.

[alderoth]

Trust would be the main thing, but also there is my level of attractiveness, or what I find attractive. Then mutual hobbies and likes. I don't think there is anything else. I mean, there are other things, but those are the main three right out the gate.

[InstantKarma194]

It's the underlying understanding and trust between the two people which makes a guy think she is the one. And I know that cause I found a person who cared to listen and understood everything I ever said and the way cares and the sweetness in her voice is just enough for me to love her more than anything in the entire world and I know I am in love cause nothing makes sense without her and I just can't stop thinking about her all the time. I will always be really grateful for what she has done for me cause what she did changed my life in an unexplainable way and I just can't be more grateful for that. And that's what makes a guy fall in love or at least that's what made me fall in love.

[Adronicus]

Good communication skills, common goals in life. Good understanding & establishing of relationship dynamics. Her body language matches what she says. Little gestures that show you care. Reciprocation. Trust, honesty.

[ImJustSomeGuyLol]

Shared values and peace. If everything else in my life is stressful or has conflict but my woman is one of the more peaceful aspects of my life. I will fall in love with her 😂

[DaveJord]

I need someone who attentive, emotionally/physically available to me, independent, confident but compassionate and not scared to commit.

[GettingBetter]

She must be cool and bright, I can't admire a dense beauty nor a conniving two-face, most of us can tell instantly!

[DarkWinterNights]

Similar beliefs, traditions and convictions. If we can’t agree on what’s right and wrong the relationship is doomed before it’s even started.

[IJhonnyI]

LOYALTY, honesty literally the main things and would tell me everything LITERALLY

[Intothevoid666]

Compatibility attraction and them not to play games. It’s really simple tbh. I could say what I want specifically but that would be a long list I guess

[jahaims]

For me it's not a choice or one thing. It is the feeling of being complete that she induced.

[serious]

I cannot. That is not possible at all for me. I don't believe in falling in love. For me love is a choice, a decision.

[OldWorldOrder]

I don't find "love" to be a particularly useful word or concept. I can't say that I've ever "felt" that way about somebody, nor do I want to.

[Staximus]

An honest woman with a kind heart who cares as much about me as I do about her, who doesn't have a face like a bulldog? I don't know, something like that.

[achouri]

You need to have a pure heart... sense of humour... and you should be responsible

[TallnBig]

Eyes, your attention
Should I be that lucky I'm hooked EVERYTIME

[IAmPessoa]

I have no Idea? I think time to get to actually get to know them but i couldn't say.

[TheAfrikan]

Am in need of that vice compatibility you know it means a lot to me plus the trust.

[Jltakk]

Confidence in myself first. Believe that I'm worthy of giving someone else a better life.

[Thecubs22]

That's definitely a question that I answer back. Where do I start?

[Wise4myage]

Openness and honesty.

[mT2359]

Ability to Trust and be trustworthy!

[Creampiekarl420]

Love in your heart just the tiny-est bit …but alas

[Adogdog]

Someone who is cute and sweet.

[RandomGuy1030]

A common mission. I dont need a pet human

[soggytoast1528]

Someone who cares about you and how you feel