If a guy gets 0 matches online and 0 dates offline but has lots of female friends who all love him as a friend, what’s the reason?

[Anonymous]

He is physically unattractive looks wise

His personality is unattractive

He’s too nice

He has no flirting skills

He doesn’t dress well enough

Other

[Anonymous]

It's mostly D and then A. He might not be the best looking but I doubt he's physically unattractive. I can almost guarantee he doesn't know how to flirt though. It's not necessarily about the words, but it is about how you say it. One could say "Dang you're so pretty" and another could say the same thing but say it in a flirty way so it comes off as romantic instead of friendly. Confidence is great but it's not all about confidence either. Sometimes being too confident gives off player vibes and most girls don't like that, so there really has to be some social awareness and humility. I know it's complicated but that's just how it is.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh and in terms of online, there's an algorithm. If you're new, you're last in line unless you are extra good looking. Looks are more important online but if I had to guess, he is only liking the most attractive girls and since those girls have endless options, it's unlikely that it's completely possible that she hasn't even seen the guy's message or like. Height is also a big factor. If he's 5'8 or shorter it's going to be much harder than someone who's 5'11 or taller. Also, as a general rule, since it's harder to express oneself online, emojis must be used. Also, more than 3 words. Also, if her name shows, use it. Unless you really know what you're doing online though, it's a waste of time because you'll be crushing your self esteem.
These are all my brothers words by the way, a straight male who is shorter than 5'8 but he knows what he's doing. He used to get 0 matches. He didn't have kiss first kiss until his mid 20s by the way but now he dates the hottest girls so maybe this'll help you

[Opinion Owner]

Reflecting on this message I see that I started saying unlikely but then I realized it's not that unlikely but it's completely possible. That's where that part of the answer messed up

[Asker]

“but if I had to guess, he is only liking the most attractive girls and since those girls have endless options, it's unlikely that it's completely possible” statistics from all the dating apps show that girls swipe right far less on average than most guys but girls still get significantly more matches on average.

[Opinion Owner]

Not really sure what you're getting at. I don't disagree with what you're saying and those were my brothers words but he doesn't disagree with you either. If you think it doesn't add up its because you have an opinion in your mind already and you want clarification.
And just to clarify, you spoke of a specific scenario of a guy that you're speaking of. Not most guys or girls. Girls without a doubt get much more matches. I don't have to fabricate anything here.
He's not swiping right on everyone right? If he is and still not getting any matches, then yes he's physically unattractive 100% especially if it's one of the more shallow apps where it's just about swiping based off looks.

[Opinion Owner]

If he is being selective, I'm saying there's a a complete possibility that she doesn't even look at the guys profile due to the fact that she has so many guys. Most girls don't just hoe around like the media says. Girls have the privilege of that opportunity if they want it but most girls are selective too. So if a guy is selective and a girl is selective, the girl will have many more choices so if this guy doesn't stand out in some way then of course his profile will be skipped or not even seen. But like I said, if he really is swiping right on everyone and it's an app like tinder then yeah he's for sure unattractive or he definitely has terrible pictures because there certainly are girls with lower standards. If the guy is holding an axe with blood in each pic girls will not like that. That's an exaggerated example but sometimes the pics just make a guy seem boring or crazy or something bad. It could be even be that he looks like a player but in an app like tinder, being a player isn't that bad especially if she really just wants to hook up. If it's an app where a girl specifies she's looking for marriage, there is a very high chance that the profile will be passed on unless of course this girl does not know wth she's doing and she just absolutely loves the way this guy looks. So just to make it clear, I'm not saying looks don't matter especially on an app like tinder but looks aren't everything. Girls nowadays are very familiar that there are guys like Ted bundy and the tinder swindler and more. You see girls falling for this stuff on the media because it's a big deal, not because it happens to the majority of girls. And because documentaries of these psychotic guys are becoming more well known, I believe girls now are more careful than before.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so my final verdict is that, if he is really swiping right on everyone, he is 100% physically unattractive or pics are just terrible. If he is selective, then that doesn't mean he's butt ugly. He probably has no game though. My imagination tells me he's not just swiping on everyone because he has so many female friends but obviously I don't know the guy so I can't say for sure.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh and I just want to say again that we're talking about this specific guy here. My brother for example was extremely selective on this app coffee meets bagel and he matched only every 2 months. He started to lower his standards because he was matching so little but like I said, he has been with some of the hottest girls and I wanna emphasize again, online dating for a guy is a waste of time if you don't know what you're doing. If a guy is too shy to meet outside, he should take some classes or something. My brother was literally mute for 5 years due to his anxiety, so it's not like personality is unchangeable. Some people say they don't wanna change who they are, and well if that's the case, then I don't know who or what can help

[Asker]

The particular guy I’m talking about swipes right on everyone and has lots of female friends. Females would still be friends with unattractive guys in guessing. Just not date them.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh then if he's been on the app for a while, he should stop. The best thing he could do is work on his appearance with working out, dressing well and stuff like that. That does wonders. If he's able to be friends, there has to be some girl who will be interested in him in real life. My brother meets all his girls in real life too.

[Asker]

He works out and gets nice clothes. I thought girls would happily be friends with unattractive guys though?

[Opinion Owner]

I think guys are looking for a black and white answer but it truly is not that simple. Maybe he doesn't work out efficiently or his clothes are too nice and he comes off as pretentious. I'm not saying this is what it is. I'm simply saying that it's possible. And girls would happily be friends with guys who look decent. I wouldn't say girls would be happy being friends with someone unattractive. Maybe a few would but most girls genuinely care too much about their reputation to be hanging with someone unattractive unless his personality is just amazing in which case meeting a girl who wants him romantically is entirely possibly especially if he has his shit together like a nice job and positivity. I'm not saying every girl will like him. There's a good chance many girls will reject him. In fact, my brother said he got given the cold shoulder in a club with 10 consecutive girls. Also, online is a waste if he's physically unattractive. It's not weird to talk to girls during the daytime and if the approach isn't creepy girls will appreciate it even if they won't go out with you. My brother says even if he gets rejected by 1000 girls but finds one who is amazing and truly loves him then who the hell cares about the 1000 rejections? He also says with experience and confidence, the looks on a girl don't matter as much if she has an amazing personality. Not saying she can be super unattractive but if she's a 6.5 looks but 10 personality he's without a doubt not gonna say no. But online, he would most likely skip her profile because online is all about quick filtering and this is especially true for girls looking at guys. Hope this helps.

[Asker]

Well yes everyone is different. But I think there are patterns. There are a minority of guys who who just get date after date after date and they have no problems with girls. And then you have the majority of guys who might get a few dates here and there. And then some guys who get nothing.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. Those are generalizations. And it's good to be aware of the probability based off stats but to tell a guy he is done for 100% without a chance would be mean and it would be a lie.

[Asker]

But some guys are significantly more or less desirable than others. And

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I said it's good to be aware of this. I do think a guy should be aware if he's less desirable but also great to be aware that he can improve and do other things to make him appear more attractive.

[WhitneySnow]

Probably A. Maybe D too. Of course some guys have a girlfriend and also have lots of female friends and there’s nothing wrong with that.

[Reaper1985]

if a guy gets friends zoned by almost every girl he knows. sounds like it's a mix of all options listed plus maybe confidence issues.

[boggboss]

He ain't found a girl that finds him attractive

[exitseven]

He is unattractive. It is what it is

[MCheetah]

A through E.

[Anonymous]

He's not hitting on his female friends enough.