Do you feel that it is wrong to just loose interes in a woman and not be with a woman who wants me to put all the effort in but she does none herself?

[Anonymous]

I don't feel those women are worth my time to be honest. What I mean and I meant to say loose interest. I mean a woman who expects to be courted but really gives nothing back. I am not looking for something "traditional" but you can't have your cake and eat it too.

If you expect to be courted but still expect me to do everything and everything like that. I am not really into women who expect me to make all the decisions. I am not her dad I am sorry I can't make choices for you. I don't want a woman where I have to babysit her and stuff like that.

I really am not into one see if she shows no interest in me and I am trying to pursue and chase her I am going to figure she isn't that into me and to be honest she really isn't either way.

It should really work both ways you should both be pursuing each other. I am not going to get into all my dating standards and stuff but there is actually women out there who can show me interest in me and some even who go way above and beyond and I even feel bad sometimes.

So why not be with someone like that? I don't understand why both men and women pursue one sided relationships where they have to put in all the effort and get little to even nothing in return? Like what are you getting out of it? But that is another question

[Guy13]

Damn, you badly need to beat-off or get laid…WOW🙀🥳🥳🙀

[Asker]

No not really lol. There are more important things then sex. As I said I don't get it since there are women who are willing to give someone attention but some people chase after these type of people and simply tell me that I am a bad person or something for not pursuing someone... when it is one way

[Espresso-Grande]

If there's no mutual interest and effort, walk away.

[Asker]

You're right about that amen

[Espresso-Grande]

If a woman isn't fully invested in you, she's not worth your time.

[Asker]

Right and that goes the other way if a man is not fully invested in you then he isn't worth your time. You're right things have to work both ways.

One sided relationships are miserable

[Espresso-Grande]

They are. I have been in that situation and I'll never put myself through it again. It just destroys you inside and takes a long time to pick up the pieces

[Asker]

Sorry you been though that and I agree with you

[Espresso-Grande]

Thank you.

It seems like most people come across the wrong type of people during their life. Out of the millions of people in the world it's so hard to find someone who will love you and be there for you just as much as you do for them. Most guys I've met are generally emotionally unavailable 🙁

[Asker]

Yea some guys are and some women are too. Not all men. I think there are soulmates out there. I think sometimes people try and change each other when two people just aren't meant to be. We all have our own standards and what wants and needs we all have.

Such as some people need constant affection while others really hate it. So if you have someone needing affection with a person who hates it... Nothing wrong with either of them... But not gonna work.

But then you are right there are some one sided people and plenty of men just after sex and nothing else it really not only destroys themselves but the women they are just using as well.

Then they wonder why they in the end can't find a good woman... You can't have your cake and eat it too. (lol I don't mean it like that) but you get my point. If you want a woman with good morals... Then you have to have good morals yourself. But then you also just want to sleep around

[Espresso-Grande]

You hit the nail in the head. That's all so true. I'm a very affectionate person so i couldn't be happy in a relationship without affection. I love giving and receiving affection.

😂I totally get your point. It all makes sense what I've said.

[Espresso-Grande]

On**

[Asker]

Yea for sure! What is sad is a lot of people I don't feel like can't just say this isn't going to work we are better as friends (if that sometimes) but try and change each other when there are people out there who meet both their needs it's just not each other

[Asker]

I am the same as you. I mean maybe there is a point of excess but yea I need affection as well

[Espresso-Grande]

Yeah I agree! I believe it's better to wait for the right person than just settle. Having my heartbroken hasn't made me look on men, love and relationships in a negative way. My heart not closed to love. I think the sad and bad experiences can teach you what type of life and relationship that you do and don't want for yourself. It teaches you what works and doesn't work for each individual.

Lots of people do try to change their partner. But not one should change who they are just to becone what someone else needs. That would mean they don't really love you for who you really are.

[Asker]

You are exactly right. Some people take their bad experiences out on everyone of the other sex. Which really chases anyone good off since I don't want to be with someone who hates men. If something really had has happened and she has trust issues then I understand that but I get your point.

Plenty of good people out there who feel the same way. You just have to pray and know God has someone out there

[Espresso-Grande]

Yeah, I'm the same. I couldn't be with a guy who distrusted all woman based on past experiences. You can never prove yourself to people with serious underlying trust issues.
It's unfair to judge an entire gender based on past experiences. Even if all have been bad.

Yeah, we have to hold on to hope. What else is there really

[Asker]

You're right and you get MHO

[Asker]

You understand.

[Espresso-Grande]

Thanks a lot for the MHO and chat :)

[Asker]

You're welcome been a pleasure talking to you. If you aren't a absolute blessing and treasure in someone's life already you will be for sure

[Espresso-Grande]

Pleasure talking to you too :) Well, that's such a long story. 😂
Even when you've got so much love to give, some people just don't want what you have to give or they aren't ready for it. But I believe there's hope for us all.

[Asker]

You're right about that some times we find the wrong people. Other times we find the right person at the wrong time.

Yea there is hope especially for someone like you. I wished I had someone like you in my life right now but then again maybe it is just not the right time right now

[Espresso-Grande]

That's so true. It can be the wrong person or the wrong time. You never know, our paths could cross and we wouldn't even realize we'd spoken in here 😂

I'm like you, I crave to be with the right person.

[Asker]

Yea that is crazy to think you never know. But for sure yea I agree with you. I mean I just never find most of the women appealing who some guys drool over.

I have noticed the best and even most beautiful women are good Christian women. They are always sweet and supportive and not ALL of them not a say lukewarm or cold Christian. But the ones who really love God.

So many relationships when they start having sexual relations it is all that it even becomes anymore

[Espresso-Grande]

So true! Most people are only looking for just one-night-stands. They aren't looking fur an emotional connection. They aren't interested in getting to know someone on a deeper level.

Too many relationships fail because they don't communicate with each and and won't make compromises for one another. They became stubborn and self-centred and put their own feelings, needs, wants and desires first all of the time, without even considering their partners feelings

[Asker]

You have hit the nail on the head. Many people both men and women are very one sided. Where the other is expected to bend over backwards for them. I am sorry I am not very limber in that way... I will do anything within reasons for someone who does a lot for me but it should go both ways.

People who just sleep around also I feel like ruin the romantic and emotional connections and healthy sexual ones in the brain. Personally I would like to wait until marriage. Even despite that the cons outweigh a few seconds of pleasure and destroying my soul just wanting a one night stand

[Asker]

Many have no concern over their partners feelings. People who are one sided deserve to be with another person who is since many times they can really do real damage to someone.

It is funny seeing them together LOL. But people who expect someone to do EVERYTHING for them but give nothing in return. You aren't getting anything out of that

[Espresso-Grande]

I think exactly the same as you. I agree 100%.

I could never have sex someone who I didn't have an emotional attachment to. I would need to have feelings for him.

I think people have far too many unrealistic expectations from their partner. They have a list of "do's and don'ts" and "should's and "should nots" No one can live up to that expectation. People seem to walk away as soon as issues arise within the relationship, instead of working together to overcome any obstacles or problems that life "throws at them". I'm the sort of person who will always consider my partners needs and feelings. But I couldn't be with a guy who wasn't willing to do the same for me. My parents had a great marriage. I've always longed for that type of relationship.

[Asker]

That is why I am personally waiting until marriage. Yea plus when someone wants sex early on or even the first date I say rule them out now.

I was reading a thing called demisexual and I was like... I thought this was supposed to be normal lol

[Espresso-Grande]

Good for you. I'd that based on religious grounds or just your preference?
Haha
a I am def demisexual 😂I can't separate sex and love. I think most people can though.

[Asker]

Well me being a Christian I think sex after marriage and I really just find just having sex to be quite degenerate and degrading to both people as well as porn being really bad.

The best women out there for me personally are the Christian women. TV shows really depict them in a way that the true believers are really not anything like that. Really amazing women

[Espresso-Grande]

I admire you for that. Not many people these days care about religion, God or meeting the right person before having sex. It's refreshing to hear someone still thinks that way

[Asker]

Yea it really sucks