Does punching a wall once make me abusive?

[Anonymous]

So I have a narcissistic boyfriend who likes to always put me down and is emotionally and mentally abusive well one day I asked my boyfriend to tell me how my cat was doing cause he was laying on the floor behind the chair the cat was in and I was on the phone with the vet and he told me to get off my ass and do it myself when he was right next to the cat and well from all the built up abuse and shit I’ve dealt with for 7 years I lost my shit and punched the door no where near him? But he keeps throwing that on my face but yet he’s pushed me etc and that’s the only thing I’ve done? Is that abusive to hit a door?

[NotTacocaT6969]

He’s confusing abuse with an outburst.


EVERYONE has outbursts at some point in their life.


It’s definitely not abusive to intentionally direct an outburst at an inanimate object as long as it’s not a frequent occurrence.


However, him putting his hands on you is abuse, even if it doesn’t necessarily hurt, he’s still using physical violence to control you.


Him constantly bringing this outburst up to bring you down is emotional abuse.


He sounds like a teenager with that behavior.

[Anonymous]

It’s basically self abuse to stay in that toxic situation. He throws that in your face to make you feel crazy, and treating your mental health like a game is not something a loving person will do.

[dynamicyandere]

No, it’s not abusive to hit a door. If he’s calling that abuse towards him, that would be him gaslighting you. Violent behavior? Yes. Abuse? No.

[Asker]

He told me it’s abuse towards him and keeps bringing it up if we argue about anything whatsoever

[dynamicyandere]

hit a wall*

[dynamicyandere]

I see. He’s trying to change the narrative to make himself look like a victim. He’s being manipulative. I think you should find a way to leave.

[mandyfire98]

Why are you still dating a narcissist? Do you enjoy being treated this way?

[Asker]

No but feels so hard to leave

[slatyb]

Why are you with him?

[ArtemisSilver]

Sounds like he's an ass and you need to chill out.

[KrakenAttackin]

Pffffft

[Asker]

Is that a yes or no? Cause I don't know but it keeps being thrown in my face