How do I know if I am ready for a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I have been single all my life and never gone out on a date. Recently I am talking to a guy and he wants a relationship but I am so confused about what I want. How do I know if I am ready? He is a really sweet guy who understands that I have never been with anyone and is really patient with me.

[Screenwriter]

He's a sweet g uy and is patient. Sounds like good material to me. You're looking at fine qualities.

Try it and take your time. Go out for something simple. Breakfast is a great date or lunch. Go Dutch. Pay your own way and he pays his. Do coffee dates to get to know each other. Museums. In many cities there are free museums once a month, or the zoo or aquarium, through your library. It might be called a culture pass or some such thing. Ask.

Or often there are simply museums that have a free day weekly for locals. Walk in a park and chat. Have a street taco or hotdog; a mini picnic. Take your time and enjoy yourself. Sounds to me like you're ready.

[Asker]

All of these things sound like a great idea. Thanks

[mermaidcancermoon]

If you're resdy you'll be ready to share your life, mentally stable, physically stable, and really desire to be around that person.

[Asker]

I am quite content being single honestly

[serious]

Well, only think I can think off is you should know the guy you are dating as much as possible. I mean he will also have flaws and defects in him, you need to ask yourself if you can tolerate them, handle his flaws and yet like him/love him.

Depending on his core nature, his flaws if you think you can handle them, deal with them then you know you are ready for a relationship. However, after knowing him you come to know that his flaws are such which you cannot tolerate at all, not even for a second then you should just stop dating him.

That would be an indication that you are not ready for a relationship.

That is my opinion.

[serious]

Thanks for the MHO

[Asker]

you are welcome

[Wubs3000]

Its super normal to feel confused when you actually get to the step of a first partner. I would go for it. You can never really know until you try it

[Asker]

How do i put in the effort? I just feel like he is trying so hard to get to know me better and i feel like I am not putting any efforts

[Wubs3000]

start conversation, ask him out, make statements of love.

[Asker]

Yeah I will. Thanks

[cute_short_nerd]

Take a chance. Worst thing that could happen is he tries to bed you and will throw a hissy fit when you say no. Keep a tazer and pepper spray on ya, worst case scenario he's a "nice guy" that ain't so nice.

[TacosRAwesome]

You don't know until you try.