Is this normal lol what does this mean?

[xJayleenx]

So me and my boyfriend only hang out for a few hours in the morning on Friday before I have to go to work and from 3:00 pm to 11:pm on Sunday. And what I don’t understand is why I’m the only one always making plans for our Sundays together? Like if it wasn’t for me saying “let’s try this food” or “I want to go here” we would just hang out in his bed every Sunday because he never plans anything unless it’s our anniversary or Valentine’s day but other than that he doesn’t really plan anything anymore I don’t know why?

[VIVANT]

Jay I 💯 prefer hanging out in bed to going out to eat but it’d drive me nuts to never go for a walk 👀👀 like does he not need fresh air 😂

I think him not planning stuff isn’t too remarkable since he’s content spending time with you. If he was dodging time with you, that’d be different. You REALLY have to genuinely like a person to be happy doing nothing with them, so I take it as a good sign in its own way — in my opinion, it’s only A problem if it gets boring for you.

So I don’t think it signifies a problem of interest for him - or you - it’s just if the huge diff In how you like to spend time bothers you. It’s not normal or abnormal it’s all just preferences. 😊

[VIVANT]

I was reading some of the comments. I don’t think you’re feeling bad bc of where you guys are but bc you feel ignored. It’s a common theme and I’m not sure how to approach it bc there is alone from we enjoy spending time together in diff ways and in diff intensities to we care about spending together different levels.

How often do you feel ignored. Not worrying about him loving you- bc that’s just a worry which anyone can have lol— but how often do you feel ignored. I-10 what do you think?

[xJayleenx]

I’m not sure I’ll say maybe 4/10

[xJayleenx]

But I feel like he doesn’t love me like 7/10 sometimes

[Screenwriter]

How long have you been together? Is it that he's just lazy and depends on you to do the planning since you've always done it?

[xJayleenx]

Over two years

[xJayleenx]

Yeah he has only planned a few times lol

[Screenwriter]

Sounds like you want HIM to do some work. Better ask him to or this will sim ply continue.

[AviatorTom]

Guys let the girl do most of the planning because that way, she gets to do what she wants. Very often, she doesn't like our plans and either refuses to go, or changes the plans to suit her. It's the same reason we guys generally don't buy gifts for girls... they almost always return them. It's better to just give a gift card or go shopping with them.

[Whatever2929292]

I mean yea... I mean you can make plans. He can't read your mind and know what you want to do. So you just have to pick something to do. That or you can always take yourself to go do something as well.

What's wrong with hanging out?

[jennifer_bloom]

I think a lot of people like to take the path of least resistance cause it’s easier and requires less energy, I know before my last physically demanding job, I would always race to the sofas any time I was in a public building and had to wait for attendance by staff, after standing for 8 hours a day 6 days a week, I do not grab the first chair I see anymore but it’s about habits, and how they are formed.

[Lori11]

You should be direct and ask him that. You cannot read his mind and he cannot read yours, you gotta communicate, be straight.

[motownplayer2000]

Because it’s more fun that way. Men we don’t have to do a whole lot to have fun. Maybe he wants to spend time with just you chilling instead of going out to do things like spend unnecessary amounts of money.

[TallAnon]

Because he would be fine doing nothing. Same here, honestly. I prefer chilling to going out.

[xJayleenx]

I just like to go out to eat and maybe go to the supermarket or store

[xJayleenx]

Because I have such a huge lack of time due to my job

[TallAnon]

Yeah, we don't. Hence why we make no plans.

[xJayleenx]

He enjoys it too he said

[xJayleenx]

I kinda have to go out because I’m always trapped doing wires at work lol but then we always go to his house afterwards so that’s okay I like that tok

[TallAnon]

Sure, he's fine doing it with you, but he would enjoy not doing it too. He's just diplomatic.

[TallAnon]

"I kinda have to go out" - See, that's how we are different. I haven't been out for months, lol

[TallAnon]

Perfectly content.

[Sparkie460]

He seems like the type of guy that doesn't have to do anything to be with you. As long as he's with you he's happy. How about if you asked him what he wants to do with you when you get together.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would sit down and have a deep conversation with him

[RealMarek]

You keep doing the work and planning, so he sees no reason to do it himself?

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's cause he'd much rather hang out in his bed with you. I mean think about it a sec he's a guy does he want to go out or get laid

[Deku2009]

Do you usually make plans them tell him or do you ask him fist if he has ideas

[Andres77]

Is he still just on his phone sfter?

[xJayleenx]

No not right away

[Andres77]

But how much?

[xJayleenx]

It doesn’t seem to be for long. He still checks his sports from time to time yesterday he was just mostly distracted by the tv lol

[Andres77]

You being right next to him is not always the same as being WITH you.

[xJayleenx]

True he was a but distracted by the movie but we still cuddled a bit. I had to tell him to lie down so that we could cuddle though. I was a bit sad because I felt like he didn’t love me for whatever reason yesterday but I do have a tendency to overthink and I could’ve just been hormonal yesterday. It’s always me that’s super excited to see him and acting all crazy he’s very smiley when we’re together but he’s always tired I think I felt like he didn’t love me yesterday because I was staring at him in adoration while cuddling and he was just distracted by the movie lol 😂

[xJayleenx]

I genuinely can’t tell when a man is lying about loving you and when love fades away so that scares me

[xJayleenx]

He’s always talking about having kids with me and he was looking at apartments last week

[Andres77]

Maybe he's just not that affectionate.

[Andres77]

But still loves you in his own way.

[xJayleenx]

He has always been super affectionate maybe he’s just more when it leads to sex

[xJayleenx]

But when we were on the couch together not doing anything sexual he was always giving me forehead kisses

[Guardian45]

Can you fault him for preferring to spend time in bed with you on Sundays? I can't.

[WhitneySnow]

I think he likes hanging out in bed with you

[downtowndiner]

Perhaps he’s introverted and is happy to not be out at all. Maybe he’s just lazy.

[Gent207]

Talk to him about it!

[Sonorous]

He might just wanna save his money 🤣

[ChiTown33]

Have you told him this?

[saffoler]

He seems to be lazy.