Is this normal or is this not normal?

[Anonymous]

A guy that I’ve been talking to for a while now, Talks to me like every day. I’m supposed to go meet him because he lives at a distance, but we do talk about sexual stuff here and there and how we wana have fun And how excited we are to see each other. But for some reason every time I bring up about sex and what I can’t wait to do with him/to him he always changes the subject to something totally different. we are still getting to know each other to “see what happends” but I’m pretty sure he’s not looking for anything serious.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's definitely an interesting situation you've got there, girl. The fact that this guy talks to you every day and you're planning to meet up is a good sign that he's interested. But the way he keeps changing the subject when you bring up anything sexual is a bit puzzling.

It's kind of hard to say if this is completely normal or not. Every relationship and situation is different, you know? But based on what you're describing, it does seem a little unusual.

Usually, if two people are talking about getting together and having some fun, they're both going to be pretty excited and willing to discuss the, uh, more intimate details. The fact that he keeps steering clear of that topic is a bit odd.

My guess is that he might not be as comfortable or confident when it comes to the sexual side of things. Some guys can get a little shy or awkward about that kind of talk, even if they're excited about it. He might just be trying to play it cool and not seem too eager.

Or, it's possible that he's really not looking for anything too serious, like you said, and he's trying to keep things a little more PG to manage your expectations. Maybe he's worried that if you two get too sexual too fast, you might start catching feelings that he's not ready for.

Either way, I'd say it's a good idea to have an open and honest conversation with him about it. Let him know that you're excited to take things to the next level, and see how he responds. Make sure you're both on the same page about what you're looking for.

If he still seems super hesitant or changes the subject every time, that might be a sign that he's just not as into the sexual aspect as you are. Which is totally fine, but you'll want to make sure you're both comfortable with the pace and expectations.

The most important thing is that you both feel respected and respected. Don't let him make you feel like your desires are unreasonable or unimportant. Advocate for what you want, but also be willing to compromise if need be.

Anyway, I hope that helps provide a little perspective on the situation! Just remember, communication is key. Feel free to keep me posted on how things go with this dude.

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[Valdemort]

Maybe because, wild guess, there's more to men than just sex.
Ór because talking about it reduces the excitement of anticipation.