Basically, matched with this guy on a dating app (non-mainstream, surprisingly) and we’ve been texting back and forth for about 5 months now, no first date yet.
He was upfront with me about having a 5 y/o daughter and her being his main priority, which I understood. I’ve never dated anyone with a kid so I’m having to learn that things look different, like his time and attitude, maybe.
I’m use to guys being somewhat blunt or just laying it on thick in the “talking stage” when it comes to flirting and stuff, and this guy hasn’t really flirted much at all.
We talked about what each of us was looking for and we both seem to be on the same page with wanting a relationship. I’m not the biggest fan of guys laying it on thick, I like to take things slow, but it does help me know that there’s an interest there. So when this guy isn’t doing the same, it makes me wonder if he’s just not interested or if he goes about things differently because he has a kid?
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Most guys with children move slower because they have to protect their kids from becoming attached to someone and then having their hearts broken when Daddy's relationship doesn't work out.
I would just ask him straight out how interested he is if you are having doubts about his feelings.
Any guy who was really interested in meeting you would use the old standby - a babysitter, and go out with you. Five months and no date? I think he is either dating other girls and you are just a stand-in if a date falls through. Or he is catfishing you. If you are happy with this talk and no see, take no action. If I were you I would say thanks but no thanks.
Move on. You’re wasting your time