How normal is this?

[Anonymous]

What could be the reason behind a guy changing his number and deleting his social media? I had only known him for a few months and our last convo was positive. Not sure what he had going on but he just disappeared. I’m so curious as to know why?

[_Maya_]

I could give you 101 scenarios. Maybe something happened with someone else that caused this drastic measure. An ex? A friend? You? I doubt that last one if the last conversation was a positive one but you don't know what else is going on in his life. One month so pretty new so you can't be sure there wasn't something that predates you two talking that could have caused this. If this was recent then I would give it a little bit of time and see if he reaches out to you with the new number. If not... write it off as a loss and move on I guess. Not much else you can do at that point.

[Asker]

Yes very much true, I really don’t know what he had going on other than working and school. I wished him a happy near year and we had a small convo. Few days later I noticed he was off all his social medias and I called to check up on him and realized his number had been changed. He always texts me back and nothing. I was just hoping he is okay to say the least. But you right life goes on it’s just super weird to me never seen a guy do this.

[_Maya_]

Could not agree more that this is super weird and quite drastic of a measure to take. If it were me I would just be patient for a bit and see if you hear from him once the dust settles with whatever is going on with him.

[Asker]

Yes true that is what I would do. It actually bothered me some I mean I enjoyed our convos and we had a connection it bothered me he would just disappear without saying anything and ignoring my texts. I mean if you need to step away from the world I get it but as my friend you could be honest and tell me you need space! Idk…but yes I will do just that.

[_Maya_]

I won't lie. I would be bothered by it as well. While I can understand if something major happened... even then I would have the common courtesy to let people that aren't involved know I was just taking a break and give them my new number.

[Asker]

I totally respect his need to take a break from the world with whatever he has going on but geesh to just disappear in thin air after and communicate nothing not even a word is a bit much but hey I guess we cannot control people. We only have control over our own actions. Now it just has me wondering is he okay, was it me, does he have a girlfriend, is he in jail, is he in the hospital, the list goes on and on lol butttt like you said I guess the ball is in his court, life goes on, just makes me a bit weary now getting close and connected with people. How people can just walk away like it’s nothing and ghost people it’s cringy

[_Maya_]

Yeah that is a good way of describing it... cringy. I hope you get some closure at some point. I would be going nuts too trying to figure out what happened. Sucks...

[Asker]

I knowwwww ughhhh buttttt there is nothing I can do :-/ thank you for your input much appreicated!!!

[_Maya_]

Yw sweetie. 💜

For some more input maybe my good friend can give her opinion. Tho I bet it is similar to mine. @islathewitch

[IslaTheWitch]

present! but what's going on @_maya_ ?

[IslaTheWitch]

ugh... this crown again...

[_Maya_]

@IslaTheWitch just thought the asker could use another perspective about the situation.

Oh no! The crown!!!

[IslaTheWitch]

@_maya_ I will take a look, thanks for tagging me

[IslaTheWitch]

Changing phone number AND deleting social media could happen only if something drastic happened.

I would vote for breaking the law or messing up with someone more powerful. He literally tries to cease to exist.

Maybe he messed up with someone he shouldn't?
Maybe he assaulted someone?
Maybe sex with underage?

Whatever it was, keep your distance. It's not worth risking.

[Asker]

I agree it had to be something drastic and for him to not say anything literally just disappear says a lot too that it must be something negative or something he did not want to share with me. I guess life goes on sometimes we just won’t know things!

[IslaTheWitch]

He can also shield you by breaking contact and not sharing. It's better that way, believe me.

[Asker]

Yeah your probably right now that I think of it that way.

[laly520]

this is pretty sus as if making sure not to leave any trace

[Asker]

So you think he has a girlfriend?

[laly520]

yes thats a possibility

[Asker]

Very much giving that or an emergency happened in his life either or

[laly520]

from personal experience I would say there is another girl in the image

[Asker]

Yep! I’m quite 100% sure if it actually

[laly520]

try to test it maybe? like a surprise showup or something

[Asker]

Well we never got that far, we never even went on a date we literally were only texting/calling for about a month. We live about 30 mins from each other.

[laly520]

for how long have u known him

[Asker]

We had been getting
To know each other for about 1 months but we were friends on Facebook longer

[laly520]

oh not for too long, I think u need to plan meeting him in person someday, it might help

[Asker]

Well I had planned on it buttttt now he has disappeared in thin air I don’t know how to reach him and it sounds like he does not want to be reached. He did try to see me a few times of course just bad timing

[laly520]

do u know any of his friends or family members? or maybe look up his full name n try to find his social accounts

[Asker]

I do not everything was so brief and he deleted his Socials, that’s how it started. No snap, Facebook. Never knew of a Ig either. It’s so weird

[laly520]

he is only a player or probably already with another girl

[Asker]

Yes that’s what I been thinking