Why do guys suddenly get mean?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy while working abroad. He was tourist and we spent a week together. We had a really great time and he was very kind. A year later after I relocated to another country, he made an effort to come visits me. And that was a very nice time as well. I took my time to show him around the city and spent time to be with him. For next year he invited me to come visit him, which I felt a bit hesitant, because I didn’t know what we were. However it also meant a nice trip for sight seeing, so I agreed. For the next few months, we texted more, and he had sent me some nice Christmas presents and birthday gifts. When I finally arrived to his country, he came to pick me up and we had a nice evening. But as the days went on, I noticed he was always on the phone and he did not take the same days off as me so we could hang out, which he promised me he would. I confronted him about this issue, because I felt like I was mostly hanging out by myself. When I confronted him he got super defensive and told me I should have made my own plans, and should not rely on him for company. This made me mad, because the reason why I was there visiting was because of him, and I put in an effort to hang out with him when he came to my country. I understand we work and have our own lives, but feel like, sine I was only there a little over a week, he could have made the effort to hang out. After this, he became a bit more rude and mean and I just felt uncomfortable. I don’t understand what happened to him. He was so kind and considerate a year ago, why did he get so mean?

[Sonorous]

No idea. Personally, I wouldn't randomly get mean. And I also would be better at communication. But not everyone can be this God like.