Why do guys become mean to girls?

[Anonymous]

I’ll try to keep this brief but need a man’s input. There was a guy, 4 months in with him (casual dating maybe in my opinion). We talked in hs, I didn’t want an rs but he did and we lost contact when he graduated. Years later, we exchanged #s and I ghosted him (he didn’t remember my name).

Years after, he gave me his # when I approached him, then I offered mine. We talked otp for weeks then met up on a park. My needs weren’t being met. He never planned a date only 2 but he convinced me it was effort when he came to see me after work or after running errands. He wouldn’t give me a time or when he did, it was just to chill. Only kept up with planning when I mentioned to do it but I used to say it harshly so we’d argued.

2 months in he said he didn’t want a rs (red flag ik) after he said looks like it’s gonna be a challenge between us and he wants peace. He don’t want to go through arguing. Moving forward I told him how we both should work on our issues, he agree. Fast forward, I told him I had an sti. He was comforting and said he’ll feel safe when I’m on meds which I agreed. Overall, he was affectionate. My issues were poor communication no plans and gifts. I had asked for us to do something for valentines, he said he’ll try like how after his errands he said we can do what I want and he’ll try.

Fast forward I blocked him because I needed a ride and he said he’s was going with his coworker and didn’t want to drop both of us home. Then called me after to say he’s otw after not answering when I called. Any input? Men only

[Master_Debator]

I did a quick scroll down... and yeah, chicks literally will go for you if you treat them like shit. No lie there.

Me though... why I would become mean... time and experience. You won't believe how many women I thought were walking angels on earth... and then I got to know them too well.

I'll put it like this. Those of us that get women, been with lots of women, and make it look easy to get women... what's the difference between us and these blue pilled simp guys that think women can do nothing wrong? They will work their flesh off to the bone for a woman while I'll make her work and support me. They don't have the horror stories of women like I do because THEY BARELY DEALT WITH THEM.

Put it another way... why are all these women that go Lezbo coming back and trying to warn people about women? You think it's random that those girl-girl relationships have almost a 100% chance of domestic abuse? I honestly think the only reason it exists in stright couples is because of the women... maybe the men do the most damage, but the root cause of it, you can't convince me she didn't do something to make that happen. When those lezbos start bitching about women and their ways... man... I can only confirm what their saying. I mean, I dealt with the same shit.

I feel like I'm just ranting at this point... but you show me the woman and I'll show you a bunch of evil shit she's done once I get to know her well enough. Then they blame the men that they make hate them so much. Bitches... you raised us and treated us in ways that made us mean. If it wasn't our own mothers telling us to shut up, be quiet, and sit on our ass it was teachers at school. Shit goes deep and all these women are the true problem. Ever noticed how every crime ridden dude with bad morals acts like a woman? I'm just throwing that last question in there as food for thought.

[spartan55]

This is easy, the juice wasn't worth the squeeze for him. You were giving him the full throttle girlfriend experience, and that's not what he wanted. He told you that, right? Valentines Day and you aren't his girlfriend... lol. No guy is going to do that.

[cherrytreeblossom]

so you had one bad relationship and now all men are evil, huh?

- an sti doesn't come from nowhere, he had more than enough reason to not think of you as wife material beside the repeated ghostings and breakups

- i dont often hear of people receiving gifts outside of real relationships

- planning sounds like relationship stuff, casual dating sounds more like spontaneity to me

[Asker]

What other reasons? I ghosted him because he didn’t remember my name. A rs is not needed to plan a date, if they want to see you, common courtesy should be in advance.

[cherrytreeblossom]

"We talked otp for weeks then met up on a park. My needs weren’t being met. He never planned a date only 2"
- talking for weeks is NO relationship?
- what needs outside of a relationship? if you're talking needs, you're either in a relationship or currently in bed with someone.
- planning 2 dates in addition to all that seems even more obvious to me that it was a relationship. also, you're making it out to be too few. so how many more dates did you want planned? and at which point will it become a relationship? 5 dates? how many bases wouldve he had to reach to achieve relationship status?
i think you totally were in a relationship, it just left you utterly dissatisfied

besides all that, you seem quite frigid and i dont understand how you could think that he's the bad guy here after all that you did. it's not like you gave him too many hints that things were progressing. no wonder he wasn't invested either towards the end.
poor guy.

[Anonymous]

They want in your panties, If they can't they get a tantrum like children who didn't get a toy they wanted too.
You know, the difference between men and boys. Only men get the prize while boys get spanking.

[Alex-Snow]

This sounds like a strained relationship. He is a ship without a rudder. How old are both of you? Are you sexually attracted to each other?

[Asker]

Yes and early 20’s

[BuddyShort]

because he is way out of your league. you're not in his league of status or looks. stop trying to get men you have no shot with and make yourself attracted to the guys who are putting in effort.

YOU are the problem.

[slatyb]

Immaturity, insecurity.

[Asker]

From who?

[slatyb]

The guys who are mean.

[Nikki1989]

Immaturity and insecurity.

[beefcakebradybatson]

They believe in bullying women.

[ABC1x1x]

Its the best way to get chicks.

[Metoo67]

What STI do you have?

[Zionne]

women being women