Why are guys so mean after a break up?

[squirrelgirl31786]

I don't understand my ex at all. So I talked to my ex Friday night and he said he might give me another chance in the future and that he will text me sometime. Well I lost it Saturday and texted him he said as of right now we won't be getting back together ever. You don't listen to me. Goodbye. I tried talking to him to apologize and his answer was no. Could he be acting like this because he's mad? Do you think if I give him one or two months no contact do you think he may change his mind? He gave me chances before so I don't know if he will change his mind. Please help what to do! I know I shouldn't of bothered him because he needed space but I missed him. He has changed his mind before in the past but I don't know if he will again

[Anonymous]

Its not true that only guys are mean after a breakup, because girls can be the same way too. Its totally gender neutral, and only depends on the individual.

Your question doesn't seem to be clear with respect to who initiated the breakup. If it was you who dumped him, then there is a good chance that he might accept you back in his life at some point. But if it was him who dumped you, then your chances are significantly low (although its not impossible).

By the way, you mentioned that he changed his mind many times. Irrespective of the reason, it seems to suggest that he's an immature, fickle minded guy who changes his mind often. Hence, I'd definitely recommend you DON'T get try to get back with him. You don't really have to be with someone who changes his mind so often.

[Anonymous]

You send a mean "good bye forever" text, and he is just supposed to forgive you? Why should he?

If you break up with a guy and hurt him, he's going to be mean, not nice. This is common sense.

Why can't you get that?

[TheClockworkPrincess]

He seems to be upset about it and he has every right to be. He said that he would give you another chance in the future when things cooled down and you threw it back in his face by sending him a 'goodbye' text. In my opinion, I can't see him giving you another chance after that. You should have just let him be and given him some space like you should after breaking up with someone. If you still really like him, give it some time before contacting him again and let him know how you're feeling. He might still feel the same way and then you'll have a happy ending... Hopefully. Just don't pester the poor guy and let him figure out what he wants before trying to talk to him again. Good luck.

[bettybets]

He may just be upset and need space but I'm telling you, there's nothing you can do to change his mind. I annoyed my ex and he ceased talking to me for 5 months. I saw him fairly recently and we were cordial; he was even excited to see me I think. But he didn't talk to me while I was there and hasn't tried to contact me since. He may just not be interested in talking to you anymore for good. But your situation isn't the same as mine and your ex is probably different than mine so things may not be that way for you.

[martyfellow]

This doesn't sound insurmountable. It's been a while since you posted this. Has he changed his mind? I'd put money on him talking to you again after a few weeks of recovery.

[OnyxianGhostsLove]

Jealousy?
Maybe he felt humiliated from it?
Guys can be very fickle at times.

could you answer some of my questions as well?
I need advice and support.

[asianfreak]

There are mean guys like that, but many girls are mean as well after breaking up.

[beastman88]

women can be just as cruel and unusual