Why would he follows me on social media after he broke up with me?

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Why would a guy who left me because I’m a virgin says he still wants me and perhaps we’ll have s@x someday. He followed me on social media after break up. Does it mean he doesn’t want to be the first and waits to be casual with me?

RangerBlue22 · Accepted Answer

Weird how he followed you after breaking up. There is a gray zone for some couples when it comes to social media after breaking up sometimes. If the breakup was done sadly/respectfully often feels mean or something to unfriend them. I guess if you agreed to keep things friendly it come off that way. But still he friended you AFTER dumping you.

I recommend unfriending him but don’t block him (yet). He wants to keep you “in his orbit” for maybe something in the future. Also given your a virgin you come off as more “pure” to him and he likes having that somewhere in network.

At some point he’s going to start dating someone else if he hasn’t already. Then he will likely post about it and you will see it. When that happens it’s not going to give you a nice warm and fuzzy feeling on the inside. He’s probably thinking it might drive you to reaching out to him and giving it up just out of jealousy of wanting him back.

Anyway you deserve better than all that mental torture. He broke up with you so give him what he asked for. Unfriend him. Block him if you can’t handle what he will likely post about in the future. I know a part of you probably still has feelings for him but it’s not worth it.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

There are many possible reasons. You point out one... he still likes you and may want you in the future. Another possibility is that he's wondering if he made the right decision, and is looking to see how you do after the breakup. And one more possibility is that he wants to see how bad you feel about the breakup, which is an ego thing. The only way you'll ever know which it is, is to ask him, and I doubt you'll do that.

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

Some men avoid sleeping with virgins if they were looking for something more casual. Many virgins tend to value their “virginity” a lot, and I guess it’s more of an emotional intimacy thing. Some men do not want to get involved in that. What he meant by “perhaps we will have sex someday” is when you have lost your virginity to someone else and he does not have to take it. I bet he thinks you would be up for something more casual then. Or he thinks you would be more experienced and less inclined to be “clingy”. There is a stereotype that virgins tend to be somewhat clingy, that could probably be it.

Either way, my best advice to you would be to stop mulling over why he does not want you and to block this gentleman immediately. He does not seem like the type of man your parents or anyone who cares about you, would want you to get involved with. Maybe he wants to know what you are up to, and may hit you up if he sees you with a new man or if you recently broke up with someone else. That’s stalking, basically. Block his account and move on.

DermalPunch · Accepted Answer

Setting up a spot in your mind so you will be second guessing yourself while he's on to easier targets. I. e. girls that put out.

He's about himself and doesn't really care about you girl. DM him and say you've had a change of heart. Watch how quick you pop back to the top of the list.

Don't give up that cookie girl.

coachTanthony · Answer

He wants to feed his ego by seeing you miserable and most times people post their "Whoa as me" crap all over Social.

sage2021 · Answer

He is just a player! He just didn't expect to run into a virgin. If you hadn't been a virgin he would have had sex with you just like he does with so many other women. He didn't want to stick his hand in a snake pit if you know what I mean. Gotta get rid of that one for sure!

Anonymous · Answer

He sounds like crap to me lol. He dumped you, and then still had the nerves to follow u on social media and go on with his sh*t saying that perhaps you'll have s*x one day...

Like, how come he's deciding it by himself after all?

I don't know, it just sounds too shameless in my opinion.

Sorry if I said too much

Alex8736 · Answer

I actually had that done to me before which if they leave you for someone else thinking the grass is greener elsewhere they follow you and if you move on with someone else they start hating on you which makes them a hypocrite cuz they cheated and left you hanging

BlueScorpio · Answer

He wants to to keep you sd secondary option while he goes off to sleep with women who are already sexually experienced or active. Yet they swear up and down they don't want women with a high body count.

ohsheeT · Answer

Because even though he broke up with you he wants to know what you're doing at all times so if he can find anything out he will try it through social media he's going to be a pain in your butt for a while

glennos89 · Answer

There is only 1 way to find out if he is into you and that is to make a move on him before this other girl does so. Better start texting him and let him know you like him. Otherwise you might regret it later

bea09 · Answer

I can't lie, he probably 1. just wants sex, 2. he's making sure you're not going out with someone else or 3. he's still into you but maybe doesn't want to mess things up between you because of your virginity. he may not want to take it because of the stereotypes around virgins.

no matter which one it is, he doesn't really seem honorable or respectful. block him, or just ignore him.

richgentlem4n · Answer

If he doesn't want you because you're a virgin then he's a big scumbag. Do you want a scumbag? If no then block this guy and save yourself.

rienna888 · Answer

Either way he sounds disrespectful. He respects you because he knows you value your first time but disrespectful because he only wants sex from you.

YourNightOwl · Answer

Seriously? He wants to See what you’re up to. Creepy. If a girl tosses me , who cares!. Good riddance. As far as Im CJ cernes If a person doesn’t want uiu F them. Don’t follow them like a little bit@h! Plenty of hot girls to spoil and love. Her loss!

MiseriaCantareAFI · Answer

How could he have "left you", if you're still a virgin That just means you "stopped being friends", you were never together therefore you can't have "been left"

addie14 · Answer

He is stalking you or he could still want to be friends

Anonymous · Answer

If he turned you down because you are a virgin  Dump him don’t ever message to him even if he does also if he follows you on social media you remove him From your friends list block him Too

MzAsh · Answer

He wants to bang, anyone, but he’s not willing to take your virginity.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

To controll you. He can see if you post but new relationships or if you miss him block him asap and if he creates another one report him for block invasion.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

Because you already said it, the weirdo wants to fuck you in the future.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Want to see what you are up to. Kind of stalking you. Can you block him?

RHK36 · Answer

He doesn't want something serious with you, but still wants to have sex.

lisangel · Answer

It keeps you in reserve. If he can't date another girl, he will go out with you. you should block him

Hardworkingguy · Answer

Probably because even though you're separated he still finds you attractive or he just wants to see how quickly you move on with someone else

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Complicated question. Why would a guy leave a girl for being a Virgin in the first place.. unless he is impotent..

nickaboy · Answer

Funny how you care about a man that doesn't actually want you.

Terrisolovely · Answer

To see if you have moved on to see what you up to to see if you still making depressing post or have made on or to keep tabs

Anonymous · Answer

Dunno, but really have dignity and decline him

SphynxUK · Answer

He’s just keeping tabs on you. Block him.

Charlesbrandonf · Answer

He wants to bed with you someday if not today.

chocomilk99 · Answer

To stalk u n kill u for cheating

Brandi555 · Answer

Let him go. Your better off.

Anonymous · Answer

He is a fagbag

TheAfrikan · Answer

He is still interested in you

rohitbiruli008 · Answer

He doesn't take you seriously

La_isla_bonita23 · Answer

He still loves you..

panamared1 · Answer

spying

Why would he follows me on social media after he broke up with me?

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