What do y’all think of dating apps? Does it work lol?

Question

Man-O-Metal · Accepted Answer

Here's my take. Dating on apps keeps an invisible barrier between the two of you. When you find you don't like someone, it's never a problem because they don't know where your house is, they don't have your phone number, they don't have any information on you outside of what you told them (and what you've posted on social media). Therefore, that invisible barrier still exists. Because of this, some (not all) girls get even pickier with there choices and don't give many guys the chance to break that barrier. Flip the script, say one of these girls gets asked out in real life. Well, if she feels safer behind a screen, what will stop her from saying "no" before actually getting to know something about the guy? Apps cause people to become more timid in real life dating. Again, this doesn't affect everybody. But, I myself, as well as friends and family, have had run ins with people who make shallow decisions because real life dating scares them. I honestly get so much more thrill out of mustering up the courage to go talk to a girl. I don't care if I get shot down. Knowing that I was able to do that is already a great reward. What happened to guys asking girls out in public? Yes it's down right embarrassing, but who cares? I've had way more success in real life situations. And I hate waiting 1-3 days to see if a girl will respond to my message only to have her say no or just never respond.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. Some people think that online dating means you NEVER meet the person IRL! All of their criticisms are based on that misunderstanding. Online dating apps are just a way to make an initial introduction. If both people are agreeable, you exchange phone numbers, talk a little bit, and then you meet IRL. . . and from that point forward it's just like traditional dating.

2. "Dating online allows people to be dishonest." I've had women lie to me in person. Liars are going to lie whether it's online or in person.

3. I have met many nice ladies online, had many first dates, and quite a few led to second dates. And that is the measure of whether it works. If you finally meet and want to have a second date, then online dating was a success.

4. People who don't understand how to date will be bitter about dating whether it is online or in person. Listening to criticisms from the butthurt crowd is a mistake. Look at the statistics and you'll find that it is the most common way now that people meet their eventual spouse.

wheresmrcunnunglis · Accepted Answer

They work if you're willing to put in the work and figuratively "kiss" a bunch of frogs to find your prince charming.

Marshymallow · Accepted Answer

Girl you’re 20. You don’t meet anyone to date in person?

Anonymous · Answer

I think women can have better luck on them, if they have patients and can weed out all the unwanted guys and messages you'll get (many women get overwhelmed and leave or don't go on). But not the apps or sites fault, just the immature people that use them. And society we live in, where ghosting (especially online), is "normal". But there are some serious people looking, but they're hard to find and no guarantee they'll talk to you lol. For guys it's a complete waste of time though and the complete opposite experience than women have.

VikingWarLord · Answer

I did an experiment, traveling up and down the West Coast with Tinder and Bumble.
I did the paid subscription for both.

I wanted to see how much sex I could get from one area to the next. I had so many matches, especially in bigger cities like Los Angeles, San Francisco, Portland and Seattle, etc.. that I could've had sex with at least 10 biitches every night! It definitely works!

MikeInHawaii · Answer

In graduate school, I considered gleaning data from dating apps to show how much people lie on line. Women are obsessed with height. The median height got an American man is 5’ 9.2”. One one site, 85% of men said they were at least 5’ 10” and 50% said they were over 6’. On a site for Russian women, 96% said they didn’t smoke. Russians smoke like chimneys.

Generally, self reported data was about a standard deviation off where it should have been.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Doesn't really work. I think you have to be really handsome or perhaps muscular as a man to be successful on dating apps, you feel like you're being put through the meat grinder. I heard one guy say that you need to make your opening line interesting because she has at least a handful other suitors. Girls can afford to be cruelly picky because there's often a horde of dicks banging on her gates to be let in.

Reaper1985 · Answer

most have been corrupted by modern hookup culture which promotes lust and self pleasure over that of a sexual partner. a relationship should ideally be built on love and pleasing your partner more then yourself.

mayur1598 · Answer

Not at all... Don't believe on someone who you meet on dating app... There are 100% chances that person is lying about something...

clampfan101 · Answer

Not for me. I got no attention and found no one impressive anyway. Plus most sites required payment to interact and are known to be full of bots.
It’s possible to get super lucky with it, but I personally have not found any success.

hoqhuuep · Answer

Unless you're a top-tier guy in my opinion they don't work for men. All the women go for the same handful of dudes.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I met my fiance online. We now have 2 kids. Took 6 months of putting the effort in with various fifferent apps but eventually found someone great.

serious · Answer

Yes for some people that is a very good option. Hence yes, it seems it does work for some people.

Shamalien · Answer

They can work, but it’s almost always the case the girls prefer to hook up with dude’s they can’t have and try to force a relationship from it rather than actually dating on their level

Ins0mn1a · Answer

after i thought... i now would not be in a relationship before we both met at least once... so dating apps are useless...

Duck_Riddell · Answer

Id rather do it in person. there's cat fishers, there's people thatll kinda murder you too. Id do it irl

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Tired it out of curiosity, women there come off as desperate as hell.  I like meeting my women in person not through a screen.

nisnaia · Answer

They have only given me a stalker so not for me.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I've never tried a dating app. They didn't exist when I was dating

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s a gold digger’s Paradise

Curiouslad123 · Answer

Depends but not really because girls get so many matches they talk to like 5000 guys 😂

bamesjond0069 · Answer

It works to get lots of casual sex for me. So im pretty happy with it.

Anonymous · Answer

I dunno I've never liked them or really put forth the effort when looking at one so , not really for me but I have heard about it working for others but I feel weird about them I always feel like I should meet the person in real life

Adogdog · Answer

I have never tried, I probably should though!

Hulk30 · Answer

80 percent of the time no because the datin game currently is about sex online even more so

Anonymous · Answer

You are very pretty so it would work for u

Whatever2929292 · Answer

I never use them never want to

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Don't people use those to hookup?

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It doesn't seem to work, as far as I can tell.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

It kind of works. Just takes patience.

Anonymous · Answer

It can work for very desperate people.

Likes2drive · Answer

Not very good, still trying though

VV3ZZY · Answer

It's too weird for me.

PatriceONeal · Answer

Dating apps cause mental illness

Paul09 · Answer

For women yes. For men not so much. It's horrible.

htmndg183 · Answer

Hasn't worked for me.

Anonymous · Answer

For you? Most likely not. But it can.

melanieeeB · Answer

Waste of time

downtowndiner · Answer

I met my wife on one. She’s perfect.

Slim57 · Answer

Waste of time for average guys

Lucious22 · Answer

Yeah

Fuentes · Answer

Not my thing

shortster · Answer

Not particularly.

Erron_Black · Answer

we can try :)

What do y’all think of dating apps? Does it work lol?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

What do y’all think of dating apps? Does it work lol?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.