Do men find independent women attractive?

[Anonymous]

I’m 25 and I’m depresed alone shop for food alone, do errands alone, and all men in public are next to girlfriend and baby. I look like a weirdo as there’s no guy next to me doing errands. Men probably think I’m weird as I’m alone while they all are with a girl. No one is chasing me asking to be my girlfriend or marry me lol, I thought at this age girls lived alone be independent? I thought it was attractive? Why it’s not attractive? I see some girls on YouTube they are alone in their apartment & do all errands alone. But in real life I don’t see any girl my age alone ever, just next to a boyfriend and baby? Why? I have a boyfriend but he lives in families home. I feel like a stupid little girl instead of a grown 25 year old women with a. Man 😔

[Loth2770]

The problem is likely not you or your circumstances, it’s likely your social life. The more you get and talk to people, the more likely you are to find someone that likes you. Doing your normal life rarely leads to quality social interaction and rarely leads to finding quality relationships. I bet if you went out and looked around for a man you would find someone who appreciates you and your circumstances. Getting out is the key.

Whether it’s a local bar, a church, a walk in the park, or a coffee shop, there are places you will find what you are looking for. The key is being proactive about it.

[Asker]

I can’t have friends becuz girls r bitches to me. I’m nice and women just gossip for no reason and act rude. I never have found a real friend , and all girls I meet in my life are jealous of me. So jelaous they don’t want be near me or my friend at all. I have no sisters no fmaily nothing. Just that guy I date. But we still don’t meet fmaily nothing. Just date. Visit me, date visit That’s it

[Loth2770]

You can’t have friends because everyone is a bitch? No, no that’s not how it works. That’s a terrible excuse and a lie. Anyways, I wasn’t talking about other girls, but going out and making friends with guys. After all, that’s what you want. Go out to places and start talking to guys to make friends. Then you can find a real man.

[Asker]

Each time I go out, men stare at me with angry face and one was staring me in my car and then he answered the phone and yelled hey beatiful so loud in front of me so I can know he has a girlfriend. It’ll be hard find a guy meet my family and be next to me daily 24/7.

[Loth2770]

Where do you live? The people sound terrible

[whiskeyontherocks]

Yes independent women are attractive and easy to date.
But emotional independent is not represented in that context
Have you asked your boyfriend to go grocery shopping with you or just stay with you for one week out of the year see what happens?

[Asker]

He would never stay sleep at my studio, he has to go with his mom , and make excuse he don’t like sleep in other peoples homes. His mom makes him food n has a sister that rents studio in their moms home but she lives with boyfriend and has many kids. And he’s just working for his mom do anything for his mom only.

[FilmGuy93]

Honestly, the whole independent woman thing never appealed to me. Every woman I've ever met who made a point about being independent was rude, stand-offish, immature, argumentative, and just generally unpleasant. Think about the kind of lady who seems to think she deserves prizes for being a functioning adult.

So, when a woman tells me she's independent, I generally see that as my cue to leave.

[Anonymous]

Damn you're too hard on yourself relax. Worry about what you are doing and not everyone else. You need to calm down. If you have the money maybe see a therapist.

Women are attracted to a guy who's well pit together and is independent. For men they are more attracted to women who are nurturing, caring and who are supportive.

It's going to be okay you just need to calm down. You will find the right guy.

[Asker]

Yes but since I’m independent why I’m still alone? And all women at stores r Next a man? If being independent was attractive , then y no one is next to me 24/7 ?

[Opinion Owner]

For men it's not attractive. Women think it is because that's what they find attractive In a man. Men like women who are traditionalist. Just stop worrying about other people. You need to see a therapist so you can learn to manage your stress. You're just feeling overwhelmed. It's going to be alright.

[Asker]

So I have no man next to me 24/7 cuz they don’t like I’m independent?

[Opinion Owner]

No. It's because you are really hard on yourself. And your mind is not grounded. You need to stay in moment. You need stay in the present time and stop letting your mind wander off. You're worried too much about superficial things. Like you fanstize about men desiring you if you became independent. You're fanstizing too much about stuff and when it doesn't work out the way you want you get upset because you got yourself all worked up. The guys are going to see all that negative energy you have around you when you get upset. You're worrying too much about stuff that doesn't matter. It's okay to plan for the future but live in it. Stay in the moment. And stay positive. Everything is not going to work out the way you want it that's how life is.

[Asker]

The only reason I’m independent is cuz I live alone I don’t have a guy live with me still

[Asker]

I’m not living alone cuz I want to

[Anonymous]

Well I don’t know what you’re definition of an independent woman is but if it’s one of those I don’t need a man type than no it’s not attractive at all. Some men may be happy w a girl who’s a CEO or whatever but eventually they will get tired of it because she doesn’t have time for them. So while she’s Ms Independent chances are she’s going to end up independent. A lot of women especially when they’re you get get that mentality only to find out later down the road they’re miserable. Have money, the job but no boyfriend, no marriage or kids.

[Asker]

So the bullshit lie of u need be happy alone is not true? Stupid family all my life say u don’t need a guy to be happy, you have to learn be happy alone , love yourself etc. and I grew up to find out thats not true. Only married people are happy. Having partner brings happiness only. When I was 13 all family would get mad say you can’t depend on a boyfriend guy to make you happy , you need be happy alone.

[Asker]

And I’m not independent cuz I want to, I’m independent cuz my boyfriend don’t live with me. He just visits me, so that’s y I live alone. My parents are divorced don’t own a home.

[Asker]

My dream is live with boyfriend but since it hasn’t happend yet I’m stuck living alone. By independent I just meant by living alone I never said oh she is ceo don’t need a man. You are taking independent the wrong way.

[Asker]

There are single moms living alone independent as men cheated on her and left.

[Opinion Owner]

A man can being you happiness yes in a different way. But ultimately it’s you who needs to make yourself happy as far as unfulfilled goals. A man May make you happy for a while but all the things in your life that make you unhappy won’t be fixed by a man. That is what you need to figure out. Trust me not all married couples are happy. Some stay together for financial reasons, their kids, etc. How old is your boyfriend? Why is he still living w his parents? I think you would benefit from talking to someone in your life who has been together for a long time, preferably married to ask them how they survived all these years as a married couple. It may be time for you to meet someone new, meaning a new man who aspires for the same things you do. But as I mentioned before look at your life, find out what things really make you unhappy then try to fix them. Otherwise all your problems will carry on into a new relationship. It’s not the man’s job to make you completely happy.

[Part2603]

Nobody cares about any of that. You're walking around the grocery store and you think that guys are thinking to themselves "She's an independent girl. That's why she doesn't have a boyfriend to shop with?"

You're nuts girl.

[Asker]

I’m just saying why every women is shopping with a guy and I’m the only one alone? I have a boyfriend but we just meet for dates that’s it. He’s rarely with me doing errands or other stuff so I feel single n just alone 24/7. I’m just surprised how I don’t see any women being independent, I only saw one women today grocery shopping alone that’s it, in tiny crop top showing her stomach. She seemed happy tho minding her own business.

[Part2603]

Yeah, maybe you're just sharing your emotions and it's not as big a deal as I'm reading into it.

I get you, we all feel a little sad, like something is missing from life. I mean maybe you can invite your boyfriend to go grocery shopping with you. Maybe you can work on you so you don't feel alone in your thoughts.

I know I never think about running errands with a girlfriend, my thinking is more kind of the time I spend with a girl should be carefully apportioned. But if you feel you're past the novelty stage, and you want a more comfy relationship, then maybe that's something you can work toward. How long have you two been dating?

[Asker]

One year and half, we we’re friends before that like 4 years

[Part2603]

Huh. You'd think you'd be way past the novelty stage at this point. I'm curious, how did that friends for four years beforehand play out?

[Fireguy17]

Yes, I always have.
I'm not into high maintenance, you have to be with them every second of the day.
My life doesn't function that way, so I need a strong woman that has a life and can function just fine alone, or together.

[jshm2]

It's because you're lacking a close family and support network.

What else were you expecting in your situation?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

The other couples might be leaving together and you are not that's why they are doing errands together

[Asker]

So every women is living with their boyfriend except for me then? I felt nice seeing one women shopping alone she seemed happy paying and then putting her bags in her car. Felt refreshing to see.

[Asker]

Maybe couples live togeher once they have a baby, maybe that will happen to me 😔 but with no baby I’ll continue alone going on dates with him only

[Asker]

Feel the grocery shopping dates is only once u have a baby. My brother n girlfriend dated as teens n young adult but then once they had baby n married dates stopped n dates were just shopping for food. I feel I’ll have that phase until we have baby not before 😔

[Asker]

Cuz then wen I’m married or have baby I’ll begin miss the fun dates as boyfriend girlfriend and just be going 24/7 on grocery shopping dates at older age.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

You are kidding right 🤣..

I mean this you can talk to him if you want to shop with him lol you have to lure him in

[Asker]

I’m not kidding. My brother and girlfriend are more traditional and u date at fun places when u are teens to young adults then once u marry they began going on shopping for food dates.

[Asker]

Wen they were young my age they just went out for fun like restraunts zoo, arcade, they only began shooting together once they married. Once they married fun dates stopped. just Costco dates is what they do every weekend.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

That's not a date that's called doing chores my lady lol...

And for some reason you are so particular about grocery shopping why is that?

[Asker]

We did go on a shopping date 2x but it was long time ago. We shopped at a dollar store then a home decor craft store.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Why do you like shopping date?

[Jamie05rhs]

Sugar, I keep telling you you need to find a better boyfriend. He's not making you happy. Why don't you break up and find someone else?

[Asker]

No other guy likes me.

[Asker]

I was at the store and a random guy was staring at me with mad face. He looked like a stuck up guy.

[ArtemisSilver]

Sounds the problem is that your dating a man child.

[Anonymous]

How often do you like to fuck?
Are you affectionate
Are you bitch and hassle two deal with?

Outside of those thing I really don't care what you do?

[JohnK123]

25… u just got out of college then…? get a stable job then just find guys around u lok

[JohnK123]

Lol*

[clampfan101]

I think it’s very attractive.

[Asker]

Y I’m alone then? I don’t see anyone find it attractive,

[clampfan101]

That’s quite surprising. I thought just about all guys wanted an independent woman. Independence is such a great skill in a relationship, and suggests having another thing I find attractive and great which is intelligence.

[Snakeyes7]

I don't see the issue with that.

[Asker]

Lol all men here are saying it’s not atractive. I think they took it the wrong way, I meant like no girl is alone and at the stores all women r just next to a guy? I have a boyfriend but he’s not next to me 24/7. Y women can’t do anything alone now a days? Men here only want gold diggers since they said they don’t find it attractive for a women have her own job. Single mothers r independent cuz men leave them and only used them for sex. So y men say it’s unattractive if they r the ones that leave girl after sex lol

[Snakeyes7]

I think it is more like many women think that independence is synonymous with the belief that they need a man like a fish needs a bicycle and that those who believe that tend to be obnoxious.

[PatriceONeal]

Do you not know indepentant literally means alone.

[Talkingtotheone]

nopee