Do men like an independent woman?

[Anonymous]

As in she can manage to be successful on her own or do men want to be needed? If so, in what way do you want to be needed most?

[Lliam]

Aside from high school, all my girlfriends had jobs, their own apartments, cars, and supported themselves. I wasn't interested in women who needed me for financial support. They loved me for me, not for my money.

My wife had had several good careers before we met and was very self sufficient. She continued to work after we got married and still does in her self employed capacity.

So yes, I prefer independent women who are bright, plucky and motivated, as well as feminine.

[Anonymous]

Being an independent women doesn't mean you can't make your man feel needed and appreciated. It's not rocket science.

I'll say this, if your man doesn't feel needed, he won't be around for long.

[Asker]

No kidding but I’m asking HOW you like to be needed. Tip for you, don’t be rude to a woman. It’s a turn off.

[Opinion Owner]

I wasn't being rude in the least. If your skin is that thin then you have bigger issues.

I have no desire to turn you on, but I also have no problem turning on the women I actually care about.

[Asker]

I think you are intimidated by an independent woman.

[Opinion Owner]

LMAO!

[Asker]

So that’s a yes? 😇 I’m just kidding with you. But seriously, how do you want to be needed as a man?

[Opinion Owner]

It depends on the guy. There's nothing my wife or I can't do for ourselves, but that doesn't mean we don't allow ourselves to do things for each other and show appreciation for it. For example, I let her cook for me and tell her how much I love and appreciate it, even though I'm a much better cook than she is likely to ever be. But I would never say that to her. She thinks I need her to cook for me, and that's a good thing.

She is perfectly capable of driving, but she always lets me drive any time we go someplace together, even if we're in her car.

She's fine with me taking care of the yards and she tells me how much she appreciates it. She let's me take care of servicing our cars (whether I do it at home or take it to the dealer or a garage), even though she could make the appointments and take her car in herself.

Most importantly, she knows I need her love and affection, and vice versa.

It's ok to depend on each other, and be appreciative of what each partner does for the other. It's a good thing, it's what healthy relationships are built on. Many women today are so intent on being "independant" and saying they don't need a man that they lose sight of how important feeling needed is, to both women AND men. They are only hurting themselves in the long run.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO.

[Asker]

Thank you for your input. I guess I understand partnership etc but what about a man being needed emotionally? Men want that too, right?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, men want to be needed emotionally. But I think it means something different for men than women. It sounds cliche but men's emotional needs are met much more through sexual intimacy than women's are.

[Asker]

Makes sense. I am in a conundrum then since the man I want is “taken” and I would love to need him sexually but…oh well.

[Opinion Owner]

Bummer, sorry to hear it.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I don't think they mind as long as you admit that you can't be a successful family on your own. They are needed.

[Asker]

True I guess I meant as a single woman or just a woman in their life (like a friend)

[Ms_Facesitter]

Yes :) I just clarify because many guys will get scared off by the word "independent"

[NathanDavis]

most, if not all of the women in my life... are this

[Anonymous]

I only like women with college degrees that are as good as mine or better. If she is independent but has no career or a bad career then I don't like her.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Yes, confident women are sexy 🙂

[renodnol32]

I do.