As a Christian, conservative white American male why am I struggling with women in my own country? Do I have any fighting chance at finding someone?

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It sucks to say but its as if women in my own country don’t value or want people like me.

When all I’m really looking for is just someone who will actually be a decent person. Someone who will want to marry and raise kids in the future. Someone who isn’t selfish and only focused on career (like most women nowadays). Someone who reserves all praise for Jesus and puts family first.

But unfortunately I cannot truthfully say that this is a mindset I perceive most women in my country of having.

So maybe it is just my area and I’m unlucky, but I’ve already met women online from other countries like Mexico, Brazil and the Phillipines who professed pretty similar views to the ones I have.

So I’m debating whether or not I should just relocate to another country.

Or if maybe somewhere hidden in the ashes, I still have a realistic chance at finding someone.

Either way its just been frustrating. Having all my dates end in failure because we discover we fundamentally aren’t compatible.

Anyway, I’m just starting to run out of patience. I almost just feel like giving up.

But maybe there is something I could be doing better.

Either way I still think often about all the women I could be getting with if I lived in these other countries, and how unfortunate it is that I don’t have the finances or education to secure this option in the near future.

RolandCuthbert · Accepted Answer

This shit is hilarious. You blame your dating issues on your race, your fake belief in Christianity, and your gender.

You take responsibility for nothing. And you want to land a hot, beautiful loving woman.

Your issues are your confidence and your esteem when dating women. And women do not fall in love with men they have to feel sorry for.

To All the Men Who Think They Have Been Friendzoned, Passed Over, etc. Here is a Little Advice...

4. The most important thing. Women like men who attract other women! I would have thought this was common knowledge by now.

So since that is true. Don't just approach your "crush" and hopes she likes you. Always date a few women. If you are young, I would suggest dating many. None of this has to be serious. You don't even have to be attracted to them. Go to the movies with them, go bowling, skating, to the zoo, park, play sports, go to the bar, have a group of women you can go out with. And always focus on having fun, laugh, smile, flirt. . . all the while, keeping your crush in the loop. Even if it does not work, more than likely you will eventually meet someone where the feelings are mutual. But you will find it easier to ask your crush out on a date and you will find she will be more open to your advances.

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

This is boiling down to very strict standards to go hand in hand with giving up very easily.

Dating is easy, finding the woman to be your ride or die is the hard part. If you are than hellbent on looking for a Christian woman or women that hold similar views as you, why not so Christian dating sites? Go on mission trips to grow as a man and meet people and help people doing that? Why not move to the midwest where there is a fair amount of Christian women (would be a hell of a lot easier than moving to a whole other country).

Bottom line, you are a defeatist and struggle because you are not taking the time to invest in yourself as a man and finding your passion. Being a man focused on women will only lead you down the path of insanity.

If you are a Christian, focus on devoting yourself to God and serving those in his name to help spread his teachings and help those in need. Establish a solid career and accrue wealth. Find a passion that you love and use that as a motivator to grow in and possibly benefit and earn from. Work on yourself before anything else. You bust ass and work, you will attract the people you want by surrounding yourself with the people and tools that can help you get to where you need to be.

Gloree · Accepted Answer

If you were in my country you will be taken by now. Personally, while growing up, I dreamed of marrying a white guy who is a Christian, but I never could afford travelling out of the country. Your profile is exactly what I dreamed of for so long. Gosh. I've got misty eyes right now. Don't worry, you will find someone. It's still early. She is out there.

Bratsondanielle · Accepted Answer

In 2022 I think most of us have grown out of the idea that the invisible man with superpower above the cloud is a big deal but I'm sure if you don't immediately blast the girls with that fantasy and pull out a bible or kurahn or whatever is your favorite... then yes... there is someone for everyone

Pizaz · Answer

You are kind of clear on what you want. Not to specific though, raise a, family with, someone who is decent... What does that intale though? And what more specifically are you looking for?

Falling in love is more than just compatiblity, there is passion and excitement in there too.

Dnice1 · Answer

Don't give up. It's always hard to find a good one. They'll come out of nowhere sometimes. You just have to keep living life and if someone comes into life and gets to know you, that you like pursue them. If it doesn't work out just keep on rolling. You just have to have patience and condo in yourself. So out yourself out there and live life.

Nobleone · Answer

Because this country has been socially engineered to hate people of your exact demographic. A young white conservative Christian is considered public enemy number 1 in America.

TrueConfection · Answer

I think a lot has to do with your location. There are still parts of the country with morals.

Avicenna · Answer

Why aren’t you attending multiple churches to meet the kind of woman you want to marry snd have kids with? It is indeed easy to get hookups but hard to find a woman who wants to have kids that you’d want to have them with.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

You’re looking in the wrong places. You need to meet them through people you know, friend-groups, and social gatherings, like churches and group activities. Online, bars, clubs and colleges are all full of women you’re incompatible with.

slatyb · Answer

Plenty of single women in evangelical churches. Try Christian Mingle or churches in your area. There are more evangelical women than men. You should have your pick.

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

“As a christian, conservative white male in my own country” I’m not sure if this is supposed to be satire, or this guy is acknowledging his privilege “My own country”

LazerBean · Answer

Do you live in a red state? If not, I would relocate.

MountAverage · Answer

"It sucks to say but its as if women in my own country don’t value or want people like me." And they're right. Most women are smart enough to know what type of men to stay away from.

jshm2 · Answer

It's not that you are insufferable. But you are just not worth breeding, let alone being with.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

If you live in the states then just move to a new state.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Why did you emphasize the part about being white? If you're willing to marry someone from Brazil, then obviously that part doesn't matter.

RuthlessAggression · Answer

Just look at what your group is doing to america I'm a white, JEWISH straight male

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Have you looked in churches? Look for a proper traditional church that actually teaches values that doesn't let girls sleep around.

driven159 · Answer

grass is never greener on the other side just same grass with weeds

Fuentes · Answer

I got 99 problems, but a B**** ain't one

Anonymous · Answer

Convert to Islam

BLP11520 · Answer

sure

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