I feel like I’ve ruined it with a guy I really like help?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been seeing this guy for two weeks and we’ve arranged a second date! He seemed really into me messaging eachother everyday and sent pictures of his graduation and even his family. I accidentally FaceTimed him yesterday morning, and I brushed it of as an accident but I think it freaked him out. His tone totally changed and now he says he doesn’t want anything too serious / texting every day! I really want to message him saying that it was an accident but should I wait a day or two as he’s genuinely really busy but I don’t want him to come to the conclusion I was seriously calling him :/

[Anonymous]

Was it an accident though, really? lol I ask because a lot of women want to do this, and early sometimes. But maybe it was too much too soon for him (ie "clingy")?

When he told you he didn't want anything too serious, how did you respond to that?

So first let me comment on that. Are you looking for something serious, or leading that way with someone you meet? If so, rethink this guy. Don't get caught up in the excitement and look at what he's saying right now already. He may not be looking for the same thing so you might want to clear that up first and foremost. Make sure you're on the same page. Or, is this a case of you're just moving a bit too quickly for him? In which case you just need to go a bit slower (everyone has different speeds, so you need to compromise sometimes). Depending on what you responded to his "anything serious" comment, I wouldn't do anything right now. Like you responding and trying to convince him it was an "accident" (even if it was), only makes you look more clingy (think if it was reversed, how you'd feel if it was a guy doing it to you). If you've told him you were sorry and it was an accident, then just let him contact you now I think. Or wait a day or two, and then simply text him "hi, how are you?" kind of thing (like this never happened, no big deal), and see how he responds to that.

[Asker]

This is great advice thank you! I was really sleepy in the morning and accidentally pressed it on the Instagram chat to get off the photos he’d sent.. I responded sarcastically but it may of seemed real.. and after he told me what he wanted I said I really understand I liked talking to him and if he wants to go to this exhibition I’d be down, to which he said “no stress” and then “yeah sounds good x” I just don’t know where to go from here I’m kicking myself his tone drastically changed after the FaceTime thing haha

[Asker]

Also how can I resurrect this :(

[Gent207]

I have never heard of a guy getting freaked out over an accidental video call in the AM.
Dude needs to grow a pair and learn to forgive or you dodged a bullet with his silence.
If he can't forgive you for this mistake how is he going to treat you when you mess up in the future?

[duckie837829]

just explain whatever happened and give him a hug, or just talk but make sure both of you get to speak

[Guy13]

How about simply back off and see if he rethinks it on his own. Maybe he will miss 4 or 5 days from now. No expert but it may be worth a try...

[DarkWinterNights]

Why would that have ruined it? He could just be busy.

[driven159]

stop playing games if you did it by accident then tell him people waste their whole playing games no wonder there are so many unhappy people here

[Anonymous]

So, just move on to the next guy.