Help me I’m ruining my relationship with him?

[Anonymous]

I’m 23. My boyfriend 28. When me and my boyfriend went on a break he started seeing this girl, he met her twice. Obviously it hurts me but what can I say.

We are back together now and she is really frustrating me, trying to text him, chasing him, not letting him go. I get it’s not her fault and more his for leading her on but it’s really affecting my mental health and it sounds so immature that I’m letting another woman affects this. I’ve told her to block him and he has but she’s constantly posting digs about me and how she’s hurt or even then she will post his initial with a heart then delete it and post how sad she is. I get it’s not her fault and also his but obviously since I love him and I don’t know her and she lives 4 hours away it’s really effecting me.

I keep mentioning her everyday, it’s been 1 month maybe almost 2 and I still keep bringing her up. He keeps saying he’s sorry and how I need to forget and overcome this and stop caring about her and stop viewing her profile because it just is pushing me away., I am finding it really hard to get over. I don’t know what to do. I actually want to break up with him over this because it’s making me feel sad knowing someone had my boyfriend for a bit and still cares about him. We keep arguing everyday. He’s saying I need to grow up and forget about other females who he made a mistake with and who he does not care about but I’m finding this hard. I’m a mom, my son is 10 months so I’m still on maternity leave and I just find it hard sitting at home, I do miss work and a distraction. :(

[MzAsh]

It sounds like you’re going through a whirlwind of emotions right now. It’s completely normal to feel unsettled when past connections keep popping up, especially when it seems like they’re leaving a mark on your current relationship. Have you had a moment to think about what boundaries would look like for you in this relationship? What do you need to feel secure and respected by your partner?

[Anonymous]

I’ll never understand women, you all fawn over the fucking lowest tier trash men because they’re cute, and spend your entire lives miserable. You’re all sad little miserable creatures

[slatyb]

Sorry, if he's not giving her attention then you have to stop. He's not in control of her.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, what a tangle we've found ourselves in! 🌹First off, your feelings are totally valid. It's hard not to feel shaken when echoes of a past fling keep haunting your current love story. But here's the deal – dwelling on this drama is like replaying a movie you didn't enjoy the first time. It’s understandable that it hurts, but focusing on this outside noise is only going to amplify the negativity.

Here's a flirtatious twist: why not use this challenge to strengthen your bond? Sit down with your beau and share how you're feeling, minus the pressure. Communication is your golden ticket here. Talk about forming a united front, making it you two against the problem, not you against each other. 💌

And hey, why not sprinkle in a little self-love? Indulge in some pampering, dive back into hobbies you love, or even explore new ones. It’s tough with a little one, I know, but carving out "me time" is like a love letter to yourself.

Finally, if the social media snooping is feeding your anxiety, consider taking a digital detox. Sometimes, the best way to heal is to temporarily step away from the source of distress. It's like taking a breath of fresh air. 🌬️

Remember, love, relationships are about growing together. This could be just the hurdle you need to leap over to find a deeper connection. Keep the faith!

[noohair]

Who wanted the break in the first place?

[Asker]

It was Mutual

[noohair]

A break means a break so he did nothing wrong.