No, I've been alone for months and it's horrible.
I rather work until I'm exhausted than stay in the house just so the loneliness doesn't get the best of me.
Being alone is only good at certain intervals, prolonged aloneness is good for no one.
50-50. I enjoy some solitude and peace of mind, but sometimes it just feels there's something missing in my life. And no one wants to die alone.
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Many years ago it was very uncomfortable. I guess is because when you got to high school and college, you are surrounded by friends. Anyway, as I grew older I learned that Iām much comfortable being on my own. If I go to the movies, Iād I go shopping, to have lunch, the libraryā¦idk, itās more relaxing. 😊
I guess right now while i'm in school, finishing up grad studies, exercising, trying to better myself in other areas its not 100% important this second and it can be relaxing to be alone. But essentially, yes, I want to meet a girl I can connect with her, do things with her like watch a movie, go to a restaurant , travel and etc. I've been comfortable alone since i've gone to the movies alone, sporting events alone and other stuff. But I want to be with a woman. Being alone forever is not fabulous. I understand people have this notion of -- my career, my friends, my pet (ie: cat or dog).
But eventually, your career ends (money does not equal happiness), sure it provides stability which is extremely important, friends drift apart -- move, get married themselves, lose touch, pets have a shorter life span. As a believer in God, I want to find that right young woman for me til when we grow old together and get reunited in heaven for eternity but that's also based on being a good person to others on earth. People may not agree with that last part but that's how I look at things.
Iām fine without a girlfriend at the moment, but I get my social interaction through things like discord communities, hanging out with smaller communities Iāve engaged with on livestreams, collaborating with music production projects, and the such. There is no shortage of people out there to work on hobbies together when it comes to music and art. From there, I donāt feel lonely since I have internet friends, even if I am single. (I have IRL friends too, but I moved so no one I know lives in my area.) I mean hell, Iām actually mixing the music for a several dozen-person visual novel project right now in one discord server, and Iām working on writing/recording a couple covers in another lol.
Likewise, it also lets me save up money easier, so I can invest in my own hobbies.
Now, thisāll also sound probably weird and introvert as hell, but Iāve also found that roommates and such give me a certain mild level of persistent anxiety. It sort of always feels like Iām always being judged for what I do, even if I know they couldnāt care less. I remember one time a roommate asked me āwhy do you wear jeans at the apartment? Arenāt they uncomfortable? I couldnāt care less if you were just wandering around in boxers.ā Itās small subtle points like that, like the need to wear jeans vs taking them off and feeling more free. Weird, I know, but I don't know how else to explain it 😂
I enjoy living alone. I donāt really care about any social stigma eating alone either at a restaurant or whatever (not to mention Iād often rather just cook myself). I often just bring my phone to think out writing song lyrics or something for my songs then.
Like Iām not fully opposed to a relationship or whatever, but Iām not exactly searching for one either. Iām pretty content with my life. I guess thatās just how I am.
It's a lot less stressful and frustrating. Also I have managed to accomplish some long terms goals due to simply being able fully focus on them without having to also focus on a relationship. It can come off as mean. But after accomplishing some long term goals and several short term goals, I'm not willing to be with someone. Simply because I still have some hills to climb and I'm not willing to pack someone on my back when doing so. That and after my last serious relationship, I'm not willing to open myself up to another person nor am I willing to chance sliding backwards in any way. I have made too much forward progress to risk.
I grew up alone.
I changed schools every year for the majority of school time.
I was alone at home when my parents went to work.
It was I think in 6th standard that I began to enjoy the alone time I had. Reading books, novels. Watching movies, studying, nearly everything was done alone.
Now also, when I am in a hostel, if I feel like eating in a restaurant, I go alone and eat whatever I want. Go to watch movie alone because I enjoy the movie alone honestly
I spend on myself. Got myself a $100 worth of Puma shoes.
It is not that I do not have any friends or anything, but I have always kept my distance from all of them. Friendly but at the same time, no dependency or anything. No sharing or anything as I hate sharing.
Thankfully my parents give me 4 to 5 times the money a normal student has in the academic life. Hence, I can afford to be independent and alone any given time.
Solitude is quite different from being alone all one's life. I enjoy moments of solitude, but the prospect of living the entire remainder of my life alone is unhappy.
Furthermore, I have been raised with a brother who counsels disabled people, many of whom are disfigured and unable to find love. Some are ok with it, some are not. Those who are not ok with it tend to be very tired and frustrated by the many who lecture them on the virtues of being alone, and how if they are unhappy about being alone all their lives, then they just aren't doing singlehood right. There is a great deal of evidence we are not evolved to be perfectly ok never finding a mate.
Honestly, when people say you need to learn to be happy alone before you find a partner, it genuinely annoys me.
I know that having a partner makes me feel happier than when I'm alone. Not having a partner is lonely. You can't message or talk to anyone if you don't have anyone that relates or understands you. You have zero physical intimacy, which humans need. But most of all, you don't have someone that experiences life with you frequently. Sure you might have family and friends, but they're not with you as often as a partner and most of the time, we focus on our partners more than our family and friends.
So my answer is no. I am not comfortable being alone. It's much better having a partner.
I really enjoy my own company. It's taken many years for me to get to this point.
For me, it's the only way to be. At the end of the day, we ourselves are all we truly have. People come and go, they have their own journies and sometimes those need to be not with me.
But I'm a constant of my own life.
In order for me to bring my best to every relationship, I have to have a strong and loving relationship with myself first.
Im so use to being by myself that i have almost developed a hate for people but so sick of being alone but have accepted that alone is how its always going to be because i will not let anyone get close. Thats what growing up without a father and having hypospadias will do to you permanently damaged inside and out
I am the only person that lives in my home. However, I am rarely alone. I have ladies who are in and out of my life. My executive asst is a female that is here a lot helping me get my work done. So I am left wondering about the question. Are you asking about being happy living alone, or are you asking about those unfortunates that can be alone in a room full of people?
So-so really.
Was plunged into loneliness when everyone in my family died, then I got a girlfriend who turned out to be a psycho and now I'm alone again,
I'm getting used to the silence and my own thoughts and the boredom but it's tough, I do have bad days and very bad days but I have to get on with it don't I?
It varies, short bursts of it, not a problem.
however I like company and need that interaction.
does not always need to be a sexual partner, can just be with friends.
With a sexual partner, I need that emotional connection or itās almost like being alone but with someone.
My depression does kick me in the tits when alone.
Iām perfectly fine with being alone. Like I literally have no worry with it whatsoever. I enjoy my own time.
It does get lonely though and I do love being around others at time.
So yes while Iām happy and comfortable being alone, I think being social is always needed. After a while of being alone my thoughts get all twisted and I get sort of depressed 😬
If the people here have not spent time in a solitary place (for example self sufficient on a farm isolated from society.. not prison since taking away freedom is TOTALLY different) then they have no idea what it really means to be alone.
Lmao.
Yet, solitary confinement is not the same torture if it were to have humans for you to interact with.
Coincidence yesterday I was watching this document. The woman said something I think I MIGHT say if it happened to me "I'd have rather starved than go without human interaction (for a long time)"
Yes, even too comfortable.
But being alone for too long is a waste of time.
People help in every aspect of life and especially, at my age, in having a family.
If not for that, or if I had more time, I'd spend more of it alone. I don't feel lonely.
I'm comfortable in every setting. Whether I'm alone or giving a lecture to 100, or a 1 on 1.
I don't understand why I'm this way lol I really am just a curious type of fellow. When by myself I can research and discover the world at my own pace, when with people, I can discover the world in them. Each person is a Hollywood story in themselves, and if you're attentive, you can draw out the most wonderful narratives.
Kind regards,
Its OK for a while to clear your head and get on with life with noone to get in your way or give you extra responsibility...
But it does get lonely after a short time. You naturally want attention and to feel like you're loved and cared for. Without someone to display these feeling towards you it can be difficult to feel fulfilled in life.
Most of the time. Its what I have know for so long. I get to do what I want when I want. But I do mis having some one. I do better with some one on my life. Because I want to be a better person for them. But beint alone os second best to having some one you love so its nice too.
Yes and no. I love being able to do things on my own and I donāt have to consult anyone about making any big decisions but I honestly miss having someone especially on those cold mornings when you wanna just cuddle up to your special person with some hot cocoa, or when youāre having a bad day and just need that long hug from them. Being alone is a blessing and a curse
My SO and I do a lot of things individually, on our own. In fact, we probably do more things individually than together. We have different tastes in many things, though there are also many things we like to do together. Whatever makes the relationship work best.
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