Loving your own company doing things on your own, going places by yourself. Watching a movie at the cinema, eating at a restaurant or sipping coffee on the patio alone. I enjoy my solitude and loving my me time.How about you? š
but you can feel alone in a crowd being alone doesn't mean not being with people just not having a S/O which at times can be a pain you can join groups volunteer at parks museums libraries you can have a whole world at your feet
Many years ago it was very uncomfortable. I guess is because when you got to high school and college, you are surrounded by friends. Anyway, as I grew older I learned that Iām much comfortable being on my own. If I go to the movies, Iād I go shopping, to have lunch, the libraryā¦idk, itās more relaxing. 😊
I guess right now while i'm in school, finishing up grad studies, exercising, trying to better myself in other areas its not 100% important this second and it can be relaxing to be alone. But essentially, yes, I want to meet a girl I can connect with her, do things with her like watch a movie, go to a restaurant , travel and etc. I've been comfortable alone since i've gone to the movies alone, sporting events alone and other stuff. But I want to be with a woman. Being alone forever is not fabulous. I understand people have this notion of -- my career, my friends, my pet (ie: cat or dog).
But eventually, your career ends (money does not equal happiness), sure it provides stability which is extremely important, friends drift apart -- move, get married themselves, lose touch, pets have a shorter life span. As a believer in God, I want to find that right young woman for me til when we grow old together and get reunited in heaven for eternity but that's also based on being a good person to others on earth. People may not agree with that last part but that's how I look at things.
Iām fine without a girlfriend at the moment, but I get my social interaction through things like discord communities, hanging out with smaller communities Iāve engaged with on livestreams, collaborating with music production projects, and the such. There is no shortage of people out there to work on hobbies together when it comes to music and art. From there, I donāt feel lonely since I have internet friends, even if I am single. (I have IRL friends too, but I moved so no one I know lives in my area.) I mean hell, Iām actually mixing the music for a several dozen-person visual novel project right now in one discord server, and Iām working on writing/recording a couple covers in another lol.
Likewise, it also lets me save up money easier, so I can invest in my own hobbies.
Now, thisāll also sound probably weird and introvert as hell, but Iāve also found that roommates and such give me a certain mild level of persistent anxiety. It sort of always feels like Iām always being judged for what I do, even if I know they couldnāt care less. I remember one time a roommate asked me āwhy do you wear jeans at the apartment? Arenāt they uncomfortable? I couldnāt care less if you were just wandering around in boxers.ā Itās small subtle points like that, like the need to wear jeans vs taking them off and feeling more free. Weird, I know, but I don't know how else to explain it 😂
I enjoy living alone. I donāt really care about any social stigma eating alone either at a restaurant or whatever (not to mention Iād often rather just cook myself). I often just bring my phone to think out writing song lyrics or something for my songs then.
Like Iām not fully opposed to a relationship or whatever, but Iām not exactly searching for one either. Iām pretty content with my life. I guess thatās just how I am.
It's a lot less stressful and frustrating. Also I have managed to accomplish some long terms goals due to simply being able fully focus on them without having to also focus on a relationship. It can come off as mean. But after accomplishing some long term goals and several short term goals, I'm not willing to be with someone. Simply because I still have some hills to climb and I'm not willing to pack someone on my back when doing so. That and after my last serious relationship, I'm not willing to open myself up to another person nor am I willing to chance sliding backwards in any way. I have made too much forward progress to risk.
Honestly, when people say you need to learn to be happy alone before you find a partner, it genuinely annoys me.
I know that having a partner makes me feel happier than when I'm alone. Not having a partner is lonely. You can't message or talk to anyone if you don't have anyone that relates or understands you. You have zero physical intimacy, which humans need. But most of all, you don't have someone that experiences life with you frequently. Sure you might have family and friends, but they're not with you as often as a partner and most of the time, we focus on our partners more than our family and friends.
So my answer is no. I am not comfortable being alone. It's much better having a partner.
I changed schools every year for the majority of school time. I was alone at home when my parents went to work.
It was I think in 6th standard that I began to enjoy the alone time I had. Reading books, novels. Watching movies, studying, nearly everything was done alone.
Now also, when I am in a hostel, if I feel like eating in a restaurant, I go alone and eat whatever I want. Go to watch movie alone because I enjoy the movie alone honestly I spend on myself. Got myself a $100 worth of Puma shoes.
It is not that I do not have any friends or anything, but I have always kept my distance from all of them. Friendly but at the same time, no dependency or anything. No sharing or anything as I hate sharing.
Thankfully my parents give me 4 to 5 times the money a normal student has in the academic life. Hence, I can afford to be independent and alone any given time.
Solitude is quite different from being alone all one's life. I enjoy moments of solitude, but the prospect of living the entire remainder of my life alone is unhappy.
Furthermore, I have been raised with a brother who counsels disabled people, many of whom are disfigured and unable to find love. Some are ok with it, some are not. Those who are not ok with it tend to be very tired and frustrated by the many who lecture them on the virtues of being alone, and how if they are unhappy about being alone all their lives, then they just aren't doing singlehood right. There is a great deal of evidence we are not evolved to be perfectly ok never finding a mate.
I really enjoy my own company. It's taken many years for me to get to this point.
For me, it's the only way to be. At the end of the day, we ourselves are all we truly have. People come and go, they have their own journies and sometimes those need to be not with me.
But I'm a constant of my own life.
In order for me to bring my best to every relationship, I have to have a strong and loving relationship with myself first.
Im so use to being by myself that i have almost developed a hate for people but so sick of being alone but have accepted that alone is how its always going to be because i will not let anyone get close. Thats what growing up without a father and having hypospadias will do to you permanently damaged inside and out
I push them away because I know how people are and don't put myself in that situation anymore I know the way people are and will not be made fun of I turned away girls to the point that I had a girl ask if I was gay , I wanted to have sex but would not because of what she would say
I have had relationship with girls and only 1 knows about it , I was in my 20's when I found out what I had was even called when I was handed a envolope with my paper work from a surgery that happened in 1981. Come to find out that the surgery failed and should have been fixed but I never was taken in for a follow up I tried to take care of it years ago and that experience was worse than the one I had wgen i was 5
I am the only person that lives in my home. However, I am rarely alone. I have ladies who are in and out of my life. My executive asst is a female that is here a lot helping me get my work done. So I am left wondering about the question. Are you asking about being happy living alone, or are you asking about those unfortunates that can be alone in a room full of people?
Was plunged into loneliness when everyone in my family died, then I got a girlfriend who turned out to be a psycho and now I'm alone again,
I'm getting used to the silence and my own thoughts and the boredom but it's tough, I do have bad days and very bad days but I have to get on with it don't I?
I am the only one left in the family one thing it makes it easy for Christmas and birthdays you still have to live if you are alone or with a huge family
Iām perfectly fine with being alone. Like I literally have no worry with it whatsoever. I enjoy my own time. It does get lonely though and I do love being around others at time. So yes while Iām happy and comfortable being alone, I think being social is always needed. After a while of being alone my thoughts get all twisted and I get sort of depressed 😬
If the people here have not spent time in a solitary place (for example self sufficient on a farm isolated from society.. not prison since taking away freedom is TOTALLY different) then they have no idea what it really means to be alone. Lmao.
Yet, solitary confinement is not the same torture if it were to have humans for you to interact with.
Coincidence yesterday I was watching this document. The woman said something I think I MIGHT say if it happened to me "I'd have rather starved than go without human interaction (for a long time)"
Yes and no. I love being able to do things on my own and I donāt have to consult anyone about making any big decisions but I honestly miss having someone especially on those cold mornings when you wanna just cuddle up to your special person with some hot cocoa, or when youāre having a bad day and just need that long hug from them. Being alone is a blessing and a curse
I'm comfortable in every setting. Whether I'm alone or giving a lecture to 100, or a 1 on 1.
I don't understand why I'm this way lol I really am just a curious type of fellow. When by myself I can research and discover the world at my own pace, when with people, I can discover the world in them. Each person is a Hollywood story in themselves, and if you're attentive, you can draw out the most wonderful narratives.
Its OK for a while to clear your head and get on with life with noone to get in your way or give you extra responsibility...
But it does get lonely after a short time. You naturally want attention and to feel like you're loved and cared for. Without someone to display these feeling towards you it can be difficult to feel fulfilled in life.
Most of the time. Its what I have know for so long. I get to do what I want when I want. But I do mis having some one. I do better with some one on my life. Because I want to be a better person for them. But beint alone os second best to having some one you love so its nice too.
My SO and I do a lot of things individually, on our own. In fact, we probably do more things individually than together. We have different tastes in many things, though there are also many things we like to do together. Whatever makes the relationship work best.
Very much no problem. I can still survive. I crave sexual and emotional needs, but for that I gotta buy a flashlight (no porn though, cuz porn is toxic), and for emotional needs I can hug pillows that feels good, use ASMR. Work out well, take care of my body. plus there's a sort of relief. So yeah, pretty much of what I want is very replacable as long as I set my mentality to it. Which is what I am doing 🤩
I probably wasn't happy being alone till I turned 40. At 20 everyone's generally in the same position. At 40 everyone has experienced so much of life and has so much baggage and preconcieved notions. I find it just easier to be single than endure judgements of women who have little interest in a relationship anyhow. Besides I'm really not alone. I have Jesus, my family, my friends and 8 billion other people I share this planet with. 🙂
I grew up in Alaska and when I lived there I think they're less than 300,000 people in the entire state I had very comfortable with being by myself but I've got to make a copy of that opening thing sometimes being alone is the rewarding that's excellent right on the wall of my office thank you
Being alone means no drama no arguing no cooking for anyone but you and what you like getting up when you want to go where you want to go and when watch what you want when you want to on tv fish in my boat when I feel like it, I can be a loner really easy I can do anything so don't need someone to do it for me
That is in fact how I got to where I am today where being with some people is like a chore with the "meet me 1)2 way" or a happy medium. By giving you are giving your heart ā¤ļø or whatever you can in your control. It has to be a 2 way street if you are not alone ant NOT 1 WAY. 😊🔥
Yep Iāve been enjoying doing a lot more public evens by myself the last few years. I have always enjoyed my me time when it came to relaxing at the home
Always been. The person you spend most time with through your life is yourselves, rather important to be comfortable in your own shoes. If anything, it's always easier to be alone too.
I'm happy and comfortable being alone. Having a dog to spend time and bond with really helps. Being cheated on in my last relationship made me just want to better myself. I'm in 0 rush to get back to dating because of that
I need a little quiet downtime, but I strongly dislike being alone. I don't like coming home to an empty house or even watching a movie alone in my room. I love company, especially from loved ones.
for the most part I am happy being alone because there is far less drama to deal with. yet to meet a women worth being with long term who doesn't engage in hookup culture and/or has a double digit body count already.
Having one dedicated partner would be nice. But barring that, solitude is often a blessing. No nagging, threats, or manipulation. No feeling taken advantage of constantly.
I love being alone. Depends what type of alone we are talking about. Alone as in relationships. I am currently happy being single!! Having no kids. I love being able to think lol
I am happy š doing things alone. I do things on my own pace go wherever I want without waiting on anyone. I like it. I donāt mind also being with people. But I do need my own time alone.
Yes, It never really bothered me to go to the movies alone or dine alone. Often than I taught my night course I would dine out as a reward for doing that.
Yep, always have. If you grow up being bullied and come from a thoroughly dysfunctional family, other people arenāt a source of joy and comfort. My empty apartment is a sanctuary.
I love those solitary moments. As a strong introvert I cherish these moments a long time. I don't have to argue with anybody of who's being right or wrong.
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