Where can I find incel guys outside of the internet?

[Anonymous]

I need a boyfriend, and I don't understand other males and they're always rejecting me anyway. I'm so sick of it. It makes me sad. Hopefully I don't get in trouble for saying "incel"

[jhl_x]

If you're not using the bullshit description splattered around the internet and actually using the term to describe guys with no experience with women despite their attempts, then they're all around you. I think there's data showing that sexless or virgin men have become more numerous recently, so it's likely for them to be around but just minding their own business. There are those weirdos who stay at home and kinda make the stereotype, but you'd have to go on SWAT mode to get inside their houses to meet them.

I'm the nerd type that fits the description, but I still go to work, college and spend 2 hours in the gym, and can describe at least one or two guys in the same situation, not with weird behavior but still alone. Same applied to when I was in school. Guys most likely won't talk about it or just lie, with good reason to do so.

[abc3643]

Please answer these questions. With answers, I should be better able to help you.

How old are you and where do you live? (If you live in the USA or Canada, please specify the state or province and county or the closest significant city. )

Why do you believe you are being rejected?

If you genuinely are being rejected, what do you think the reason is?

[Asker]

I'm an 18 year old American in the southwest, I won't specify the state. I am being rejected because the guys I know explicitly indicate they don't want to date me. I believe it's because I'm different from most people in personality, which is off-putting, and my appearance is only average.

[abc3643]

Well, if your personality is "different" there is a good chance that you will find a boy/young man who will appreciate that. You MAY have to look elsewhere than locally though, so you might first have to meet one on-line such as here or some other social-media-like site.

[youngmix]

Pokemon card tournaments, and anything like that (some magic the gathering guys, Yu-Gi-Oh! cards, etc.). Anime conventions. Colleges, especially highly rated ones. Incel's are easy to spot on a college campus. Computer science events, like hackathons. Once again, the incels will be easy to identify. Japanese specialty stores. Comic book stores. Anime and manga stores. And I that's all that comes to mind for now.

If I think of more, I'll add them as a reply to this.

[youngmix]

Star Wars and Star Trek events also seem to attract many incels. Comicon events as well.

[JDBSLAOQ]

if you're in uni/college, theyd be in the computer/IT courses. Sometimes music and art classes too.

youd be able to find them at internet cafes before, but theyre not really a thing anymore.

comic stores will usually have them.

be careful though, usually incels are straight up just bad people- only some lucky ones are incels just because theyre nerds/geeks

[userxvi]

Really you gonna throw the computer nerds under bus... not cool

[userxvi]

those guys save my ass when my laptop not work, they are awesome

[bean2k21]

Just think of the places your self-entitled ass would usually go to find the top 20% of men, and then go somewhere else. Why don't you just stand outside of a juvenile domestic court and look for your down-trodden men that you want to control?

[Asker]

Damn, I'm not trying to control them, I just don't want to be alone. Also, I do not seek out attractive men specifically, just males close in age who are willing to spend a little bit of time with me.

[bean2k21]

When I was your age I studied music among other things. My friends and I were all misfits. Maybe go to a guitar shop.

[Anonymous]

In their basement and you wouldn't be able to date them cause they only want 10 on 10 women and they love to critics everything, they love it so much they actually want to stay single so they can pour their hate at the world.

[NathanDavis]

they won't be outside...

start breaking into basements... lol

[Guy13]

Come again now... you want someone who has no backbone to support you?

[Anonymous]

Boyfriend are over rated. There probably are incel that you know in real life. All incels are not even ugly they just lack social skills so maybe a outcast guy. but what about tinder or dating site? You don't get any match?

[Asker]

I get matches, but they just ask for nudes, which isn't quite what I'm looking for. Also, I'm always worried they're a murderer or an old man or something, which is why I'd prefer to meet someone outside of the internet

[Opinion Owner]

Try to talk to a guy who don't have any friend or who is socially awkward

[Asker]

I'll try, but I'm not psychic, so I don't know most guy's full story

[Opinion Owner]

Do you go to university?

[Asker]

I'm not very smart, so I'm still in highschool as an adult

[Waldoe]

incel.. involuntary celibate... why would you seek that? date a normal guy.

[Anonymous]

incel is just a shaming tactic used by bitter females when a guy doesn’t tolerate their shit.

[Asker]

I was more thinking of the type of guys who participate in incel forums and call themselves incels. I'm also against shaming people for lack of sex, it's hurt me personally to where I went kind of crazy for a while. Despite my femaleness, I wasn't lucky enough to have the option. Don't assume I was seeking out attractive men specifically either, I tried to get a date with every close-aged guy I knew. Then I ran out of options.

[TheMajesticKing777]

You can't find them outside lol

[Avicenna]

Wow, probably only by chance

[OddBeMe]

You want to date an incel?

[Anonymous]

Flattery will get you nowhere. 🤣

[Anonymous]

troll alert

[Asker]

I'm not trolling, I'm just not as understandable as some people because I was forced into a different kind of life than an average person. I hardly have any proper social experience, so I even technically fell under the label for a while.