What is the minum age What to do about it?

[MrAndrei]

Hello. I am 39 y old single , most people think i am in 30-34 range. I feel very attracted to some of the girls aged 20-26 . Do you think it is creepy for them to be aproached by a guy my age? Should i target older women? I have a deep anxiety related to aproaching oposite sex , and this add more to it. In case they dont like that, what can i do to look younger or attractive : i want to lose more weight , wear good clothes, display more confidence ( which is the most difficult part ). Thank you.

[kylee2437]

Most people think you are 34 because your profile displays you are 34. A man that is 39 in my personal opinion should be going for someone in that age bracket because a woman in their 20s does not have the same goals as someone heading into their 40s. A woman in her 20s is still trying to figure out life as a whole. A woman around your age will probably take you a little bit more seriously because she will have the same focus in life as you.

[MrAndrei]

I dint want women my age. Most of them are boring because they lack the creativity that is specific to the youngers. Second they think marriage or settling down is a key to hapiness which is wrong. Third they are not interested in sex too much because they already had enough. But i didn't as o was virhin until 29. So i dont want them.

[kylee2437]

That’s on you, but it sounds like you aren’t thinking of long term if you care about sex and adventure more than marriage /settling down. That’s your first issue. You are better off not trying to pursue girls for relationships. You are out of your mind if you think a 20 year old doesn’t want kids and marriage at one point of another.

[kylee2437]

Or another*

[MrAndrei]

I dont want like to be judge on that.. i rhink marriage does not work well on longterm so i think longterm. I had already had 3 long term relationships totalling more than 10 years, so i know how is to be married. but i dont know how is to be young.

[MrAndrei]

People think they are smart when they state they think long term but actualli its only ignorance.

[kylee2437]

But you just proved that you want something that isn’t serious by saying you don’t know how it is to be young, so why pursue something when you can live life on your own and be young? This is the issue with people is you people are too afraid to be alone but then are selfish when it comes to your emotional availability. You want to pursue a relationship as if majority of women don’t want marriage or don’t want to settle down and that is selfish

[MrAndrei]

What I really want is too complicated to be expained here. I was emotionally available. I was the one who stood last in relationship. you got me wrong.

[kylee2437]

I don’t think I’ve got you wrong here. You explained twice that you aren’t into marriage or settling down. I never said your marriages or whatever ended because of you, but your goals of what you currently want won't put you in a situation for another sincere relationship. Sex and adventure are temporary fun while getting to serious points of a relationship.

[MrAndrei]

I had way more experience than you in these long term relationship , because i stayed in them mire than half of your age. So i dint think your opinion on this matters to me. Too much. I dint want an argument. Thank you for all the replies anyway.

[kylee2437]

If you think age determines who gives good advice, then definitely don’t date in my age bracket because you just spewed your ignorance and you seem like the kind of guy that wants to be with women my age because you think you are above them. Ew

[MrAndrei]

I told you thst i have more experience in long term relationships which is corect. I dont think i am above them. i think its better to finish this stream of replie, as you took it personally for no justified reason. It is my life and itcis my right to try to do what i want. I never forced anyone into anything. If iwas 130 y old everyone would want me dead right? Cause no one lives that much. I dint line to be judged just because i wantcto experiment a different path. I am a researcher , i am a smart guy.

[kylee2437]

And side note - you are a creep if you want 20 year olds for their youth but refuse to take advice from someone that you are interested in dating.

[MrAndrei]

I am a reseaecher at my work

[kylee2437]

No you said my advice doesn’t matter because you have more dating experience , which is a huge red flag on your part

[kylee2437]

Idc what you are - your views make you look like a creep and a half

[MrAndrei]

I meant regarding long term relationship only. Not everything of course. I dint disregard you.

[MrAndrei]

Actually it is possible you have more dating experience than me, bu relationship experience its a different thing.

[kylee2437]

Yes but you can’t say you having more experience disregards my advice. You think 20 year olds only want fun and sex and most times that’s not the case and if that’s the case, she’s probably only going to go for someone your age if she benefits out of it.

[MrAndrei]

I read what you write i take advice be calm i just want you to sound likevmy mom regsrding marriage thsts all.

[MrAndrei]

Not to sound

[kylee2437]

Yelp the only way a 20 year old is going to go for you is if she benefits out of it (money) , hate to break it to you but if I want fun and great sex I’m probably going for a guy in my age bracket which isn’t a guy heading into his 40s

[MrAndrei]

I care for gour opinion but not on marriage subject , ok?

[kylee2437]

Welp*

[MrAndrei]

So you imply i cannot be as good in bed as a giy your age..

[MrAndrei]

I will try to be. I am very determined

[kylee2437]

Who knows , but a guy in my age bracket is more desirable than a guy that isn’t and you wouldn’t be in my age bracket. My friend dates guys your age but it requires them giving her money

[MrAndrei]

I dint want to be s sugar daddy either

[MrAndrei]

I prefer to be alone than that.

[kylee2437]

It’s only going to get harder for you since what you want is sugar daddy status.

[MrAndrei]

At 30 i was more fit than most people in their 20 . No i am a bit iverweight but still can climb mountains or walk long distances. I am not the typical 40 y old guy.

[MrAndrei]

Qho watches siccer and drink beer

[kylee2437]

What you can do doesn’t change your current age. Your age already makes you less desirable by women my age.

[MrAndrei]

Dont think so. There are people endinf their live at 29 becsusexof drugs. For sure thst is not smsrt or attractive

[kylee2437]

That literally has nothing to do with subject of matter. Bottom line is you are 40 and aren’t in relative first priority attraction to women in their 20s

[MrAndrei]

Yes i might be less desirable i agree because of age , but noone ssked me my age befote wanting to talk to me.

[MrAndrei]

So it is more s psichological bareer.

[MrAndrei]

Yes its true. Buy i not aiming for 20 26 its ok.

[MrAndrei]

And i am only 39

[MrAndrei]

When i was 35 i dated a 28. She said i was looking very good

[MrAndrei]

Also a 26. And she wad also interested.

[MrAndrei]

The oroblem was my anxiety not becsuse i didn't want to keep them..

[kylee2437]

I’m not going to convince you anymore. You want to argue more than you want to take advice. I am the only one that reached out for advice and you want to argue instead of seeing perspectives of someone of an age bracket you are trying to go for. Huge red flag.

[MrAndrei]

I know i have lower chances. I agree. Butcthe question was if they think i am a creep or you would think that..

[kylee2437]

Probably would think you are a creep unless if you are offering money

[MrAndrei]

I am awarecmy chances drop with age

[MrAndrei]

You are mean now..

[MrAndrei]

If Michael Phelps would ask you for a date , would think he is a creep? He is 37

[kylee2437]

Michael Phelps isn’t an average guy lol you can’t compare a celebrity to yourself.