Would you date a womean who don't have a car?

[alice55]

Like you would need to drive her everywhere, come pick her up for date and bring her to her house after the date.

Considering there's zero public transportation where she live so she cannot do anything and would be 100 % depend on you for going anywhere.

Would you do it or would it bother you in the long run?

I cannot live my little town since I have no car and there's no public transportation here, I doesn't even have a bike. (I'm completely broke too). So I wouldn't be able to pay for anything at all.

Yes

No

maybe

[Sixgunsound]

There would need to be an understanding about expectations if she wants to live the traditional life then she needs to actually live it, not pretend to or expect the advantages of modern social convention if she isn’t willing to accept the burdens and responsibilities. To answer the question I would date someone poor who is rich in personality, skills, work ethic, creativity, and doesn’t expect me to make her rich.

[alice55]

Complicated answer, I'm a traditional personally though

[Sixgunsound]

Most men aren’t interested as much in how much money a woman has, more than who she is what she does what she brings to the relationship that isn’t financial. Where women’s apparent only criteria is what a man brings in his checking account. That’s because men aren’t looking for women to provide for them unless they are not a man. And it’s based on numerous factors of evolution or biology women have historically needed meant to provide for them so that often affects the selection process. I honestly wish there were more traditional women out there because the system has worked for thousands of years but modern Marxist feminism has upset the apple cart.

[alice55]

Yes but for the car part that more troublesome considering I cannot go anywhere I would be 100 % dependent on him so I think most men in the long run would be annoyed at it. Having to come pick me up and drive me everywhere every time for a date or just spending time together cause I'm broke so no uber for me (it doesn't even exist where I live).

[Sixgunsound]

If you wanted to stay home and do the far more important and valuable work of manage the house and raise the kids I can easily forgive not having a car. Many if not most women these days are more selfishly concerned with career and pleasing their corporate masters then they are about what really counts at home however. Ladies, you aren’t going to be able to buy or impress your way into a man’s heart with how much you get paid at your job, because once you reach the point of making more than him he’s going to feel emasculated. Right wrong or indifferent, that’s just the way it is. I don’t really define myself by what my job is anyways, even as the one who is traditionally expected to do so. I watch the kids during the day and work at night until I can finish my professional certification at which point I’ll switch over the days and my wife won’t have to work anymore. We’ve already figured out that yeah it’s going to be interesting financially, but ultimately homeschooling and being present in the kids lives is way more important than her being present in her office managers life.

[Sixgunsound]

J’etudie francais dans l’ecole secondaire, but your studies of English seem to have been much more effective👍. I’d love to see the French countryside some day if tourism starts up again. We have big cities here too who cares, the middle of nowhere sounds amazing.

[alice55]

It's great that you're learning French :)
I'm studying English since middle school truly but I use it everyday so it might be why my study are more effective.
I want to be a housewife carrer really don't interest me which is why I have a hard time keeping a job long terms I loved working with children but sadly it was only a short terms contract. (I worked mainly with children from 2 to 6 years old, sometime older until 11 but mostly small one). It was my favorite jobs.
I don't get either why people are so obsessed with career and all and it's mostly women, men don't care that much usually they just wanna get a job and that's it (at least where I live it's like that).
Middle of nowhere is great it's also a very beautiful village.
I think tourism in France have already start again since many months.
The best in the French countryside are the medieval village

[Sixgunsound]

I wish there were more women in the world like you who valued children more than corporations.

[KostasKouvalis]

I mean hypothetically YES, but at the moment I don't have a car or license myself. But if I DID, that wouldn't be an issue for me. But even right now I would date one. If we're both in the same situation maybe she wouldn't be put off by it, and we could just go on dates to places that are walkable.

[alice55]

When you live in the countryside if both don't have a car then they need to live in the same village

[KostasKouvalis]

Pretty much, yes. And not many places to take her out in the small village

[alice55]

There's no place at all to hangout where I live there's nothing truly,, just going on a walk

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah, I had a feeling. Isn't there a river? And there's probably a church and possibly some cute buildings

[KatherineJ]

It kind of sounds like you need to sort your situation out before worrying about getting into a relationship. You need a job, and some sort of independence before you need a boyfriend. It isn’t fair to even think that some guy should have to do everything for you. A strong independent woman doesn’t “need” a man. She dates because she “wants” a man.

[alice55]

I don't want to be a "strong independent woman" I'm a traditional woman, I want to be a house wife / mother. I'm really not interested in career at all and I'm afraid to drive, I get panic attack.
And I don't need one, I just want one cause I want to get married and have a family. You kinda need a man for it...(no matter how much of an independent woman you're).

[FictionalCharacter]

I barely learning to drive myself and live in a small town with nothing.

I don’t even have a drivers license and the next town over is 1 hr drive with bigger population.

That I get embarrassed if I told guys to drive all the way here to pick me up for a date.

[alice55]

I never did it either but I'm considering it depending on how many guys are ok with it.

[OlderAndWiser]

Depends on how mean the "womean" is! :) :) :)

[alice55]

I'm nice girl XD

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm sure you are, but I am already spoken for! :) :) :)

[Sunrising]

Perhaps I could live near to you?

I drive, but prefer cycling to keep me fit, would you consider cycling, I've 3 bikes?

[alice55]

I can't cycle where I live Road are too dangerous there's no visibility. I would though if the road weren't dangerous

[DizzyDesii]

I dont drive and plenty still dated me. But they also didn't drive or did drive but didn't have their own car 😂 Uber was our best friend haha

[alice55]

Uber is practicable in those case XD

[RyanEC]

Why can’t you drive if you don’t mind me asking.


But to answer your question if she didn’t live to far I would drive to her home and take her places to hang out.
If I really cared about her I wouldn’t mind too much.

[alice55]

Too broke for a car and I get panic attack when I need to drive, I cry and panic I really cannot do it. There's tons of traffic where I live and i's a village in the mountains with atrocious small and weird road, absolute hell for driving when you're afraid to drive and don't do it good (even the policemen told me the road were nearly impossible to drive here for any young driver).

That's great :)

[RyanEC]

I guess it makes sense to worry about driving if you like in a mountainous region in the Alps.

Well I hope at some point you can practice on easier terrain and at some point afford a car.

I imagine it can be a pain not being able to go where you want.
When I crashed my car a couple years ago and had to wait a few months it was a nuisance.

[Anonymous]

Yes and have. It's not "ideal", but it is what it is. It's not a factor or "deal breaker" when it comes to someone I'm dating. Unless other things like distance between us. Again, less ideal and can make it harder to see each other, but it is what it is again.

[Jamie05rhs]

It would be hard for me to date you specifically, seeing as I don't live in your country. (Otherwise I think you're a great person.)

Answering the question in general: I probably would. Even though it would be somewhat of a hassle. And I would encourage her to get some sort of vehicle when she is able to.

But my advice to you is to try to either move to a place that is accessible to a bus route, or try to obtain a bicycle somehow.

[alice55]

With a bicycle I would only be able to go to the city next to mine which is at 30 min by bike all the others are too far away and not suitable for bike at all.
Cannot move and I'm broke, I also cannot get a car cause it's too expensive in my country, if I work I would have minimum wage and with inflation it's just impossible to get one.

[Jamie05rhs]

@alice55 Aww. :(

Do you have any friends who live in the city? If you asked them, do you think they might let you move in with them? If they say yes, you could apply for a job in their city, and that would give you money to pay rent.

[alice55]

I don't have any friends honestly , the only things I would have are acquaintance to who I didn't talk since many years.

[Jamie05rhs]

@alice55 Aww. 😌. I wish I lived in your country so I could be your friend. I feel so bad for you. 😰

[Chazmatazz269]

She’d have to be extremely special. If a woman can’t meet me halfway, i expect she’s taking advantage.

[alice55]

You're a weird dude

[alice55]

advantage of what

[TheMajesticKing777]

Well there's a difference when it comes to a town and a city, I feel like I'd have more patience for this situation if I lived in a town and not a city, traffic for starters would be much better lol

[alice55]

I live in the countryside, there's not much traffic. There's some around 5pm until 6 pm because of school and work ending but that's it

[TheMajesticKing777]

Where I live it's traffic 24/7 my foot lives on the brakes

[alice55]

That's horrible, in those case often having a bike or just walking is faster.
I drive one time in a big traffic city (was years ago) and it was horrible

[TheMajesticKing777]

Yea I'm sure pandemics work a lot better as well, all the space you got to shoot guns and plant crops, sounds like easy living and peaceful, not running into some nosey bastard every corner 😆

[alice55]

During the pandemic where I live they were policemen patrolling everywhere and checking our authorization so

[TheMajesticKing777]

Yea that sounds pretty problematic is the air fresher? I'm sure it is

[alice55]

Not even XD
Cause there's tons of truck driving through my city

[TheMajesticKing777]

Well there goes that, but it's probably still less polluted than city air

[alice55]

Yes, it's less polluted, our air pollution is on the OK side usually so not that great but not that bad either

[TheMajesticKing777]

Sounds like good air to me

[alice55]

It could be better, on the scale there's dark green, light green, yellow, red, violet and we're on the yellow part

[TheMajesticKing777]

Sounds refreshing lol

[TheMajesticKing777]

What color is worse?

[alice55]

purple

[TheMajesticKing777]

How do you check, I wanna see my city, it must be purple lol

[alice55]

I put the name of the city in the meteo app of my iPhone (I'm not sure if android have it too)

[TheMajesticKing777]

Meteo app? Never heard of it, must be an iPhone thing 🙃

[alice55]

Surely
I had it when I got my phone, like I just open my phone and seen the app who was already part of the phone app

[alice55]

It's one of my favorite app

[TheMajesticKing777]

It's pretty cool that you have that app, I'm sure there's other cool apps you can get that android can't, at least I hope so, for the price it better lol

[alice55]

Yes, I love it.
Apparently there's a lot more app on apple than on any others android phone. But I haven't' check everything so
My mother bought it for me and I choose this one cause I can keep it a very long time all the others phone die quickly

[TheMajesticKing777]

What iPhone did you get, is it worth it considering they release like 3 new phones every year with new shit, kinda makes the older ones outdated with the features and stuff and that's one of the reason I believe Apple are just stingy and money hungry ha

[Wubs3000]

Like everything? I wouldn't want to have to take them to go get groceries and stuff but dates, out of town appointments, stuff like that sure. But just get a bike lol if its a small town

[Wubs3000]

I'm dumb I didn't realize you were broke and tbh I don't know how expensive bikes are but you should invest in one they are very helpful

[alice55]

no just going on date, for grocery and all other stuff I go with my mother but I don't want to use her as a taxi when going on date like if the date is late at night I don't want to bother with it. So that would only be for going on date and hanging out together.

I should get a bike yes but I'm terrorized of driving one next to car, there's no bike road and no protection for bike either, also car driver hate bike here so yeah I'm really afraid of going a bike alone surrounded by car and big traffic.
My town is so small I can do everything by walk but there's nothing here nothing at all, just house a school for small children. To go to the next city I could go on a bike but I'm too afraid.
Also yeah bike are very expensive here

[Wubs3000]

I wouldn't be mad about picking a date up

[BarryLiverstone]

If she didn’t have a car she could Uber it sure I’d pick her up sometimes. But if she’s not making any money no, bluntly I wouldn’t see that relationship going anywhere. But gl, hope it turns around for you.

[alice55]

Can't use uber where I live, I'm literally in the middle of nowhere.
Thanks for the answers.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s rough. Do you wanna move or are you there close to family?

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome.

[alice55]

I live with my mother
I don't really wanna move, I like where I live truly it's just not very practicable to meet people, also when I'm working I work often part time (cause it's the only things i find here) so it don't make much money.

[BarryLiverstone]

I understand and admire that. I live here in Florida to be close to my family. Well if it’s a small town then everyone knows everyone. Best advice would be to tell some friends you wanna meet someone and see where it leads. Regarding dates if you can walk to a park or local restaurant that could be a start. Gl

[alice55]

I don't have friends they all moved away in big city for university and stayed there for finding work.
I cannot walk to a restaurant or anything since there's nothing where I live, I would need to drive 10 min to go to the closest store.
I can only walk to a park that's all.

[BarryLiverstone]

Last shot: how about church? I’m sure that’s not within walking distance either but most churches will help you get there on Sunday’s. Seems like small towns usually have one or two good churches and you can make new friends there

[alice55]

There's a church in my village yes but it's closed cause nobody cause there anymore, I live in France and it's not that religious here except for some very old person so they wouldn't be able to help me neither would be able to make friends, here the only person that live here are either old people or married couple with children. People my age don't live here or they're druggie.

[convo_king89]

well I don’t have a car either, so I would understand. But being able to do things would be hard.

[Anonymous]

If she’s cute, hot as fuck men will drive an hour to get her lol if she’s an ugmo then hell no.

[alice55]

I'm pretty so I guess they would, more important is would they keep doing it during many months?

[Opinion Owner]

It depends on what they’re looking for. If they’re interested in you as far as a relationship then yes chances are they’d continue to do it. If they’re just trying to fuck they may or may not do it as often. If they’re only after it once, once it’s done than no they’re finished. If you’re willing to be fwbs there’s a good chance he will do it for a while. I’m not so sure I’d do it all the time if we’re fwbs, just when I wanted to get laid.

[Surely]

As long as your “compensation “ would equal the guys expense! I guess a guy would do that for you.

[alice55]

I'm pretty and nice but I'm guessing you're more taking about sex no?

[Surely]

@alice55There would have to be an end in the not too distance future. Would be a different story if you lived with or near your “driver”.
How did you get in this situation, anyway?
After reading some of your replies. I guessing that you are referring just for dating purposes and not to work, doctors, shopping and all of the other things?

[alice55]

My parents they wanted to live in a calm area because my father was sick so he needed calm and peace so we go and lived in a village lost in the wild and we just never moved but then we became poor cause my father couldn't work anymore and my mother was a maid so we didn't have any money, i couldn't go to college for this reason and that's it.
And it would be just to go on date no others things cause for others things my family drive me but I can't really ask them to go drive me for date and pick me up especially if the date is a night.

[Avicenna]

100% probably be too much unless maybe if she lived with me

[NNWSSEnew]

Yes I don't drive either.
All these darn hills in the city let's lose weight same time I would tell her

[zagor]

Yes, but if she didn't have a license that would be a bigger problem.

[alice55]

I have a license I just get panic attack when I need to drive and fell down crying and panicking.

[zagor]

Have you tried to do something about it?

I used to work with a girl who would only drive familiar routes like to work, the store and to see local family. She wouldn't drive to the airport, or in strange cities, at all. When she traveled (by air) for work they had to make sure someone else was also on the trip to drive.

[WonderingManII]

Sorry to hear about your situation. It depends on the quality of Woman.

[Redstang88]

Honestly not likely if she had no plans to change that

[Alwayreckles93]

So why is it okay for a woman not to own a car but if a guys doesn't own a car people see it as if it was sthe end of the world. Your 25 that is ridiculous why are you carless?

[alice55]

Why are you so agressive? And I literally spend more than 3 months py years being a caretaker for my grandparent so it would be stupid to own a car and just let it at my house (no point in having a car here cause there's public transport where they live and I take the train).

And why are you trying to give lesson to people when you're only 21 and divorced? Keep you advice to yourself;

[Alwayreckles93]

I'm actually 29 little girl.

[Anonymous]

Does she not know how to tie her shoes either?

[alice55]

Don't need to she wear sandals.

[Opinion Owner]

Touche' 😆

[BrookeS]

Just because she doesn’t have a car doesn’t mean you shouldn’t date her.

[Adogdog]

Of course I would!

[alice55]

It's great ^-^

[Adogdog]

🤗🤗🤗

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yea. There's nothing wrong with that

[ArtemisSilver]

I'd rather Uber but it wouldn't bother me

[alice55]

Uber is too expensive also there's no uber where I live they only work in big city here, we only have taxi and the price is very very expensive

[ArtemisSilver]

Maybe an ebike would be the way to go. It's almost as fast as driving because you can take alternative routes and skip traffic.

[alice55]

There's no ebike where I live, those only exist in Paris and Lyon (extremely big city) and even then most doesn't work anymore because people trashed the bike, stole them or kicked in the river...
Also it's definitely not fast at all and there's no traffic where I live cause I live in the countryside.

[Guardian45]

I have dated women who don't or can't drive.

[slatyb]

Where?

[alice55]

what do you mean?

[slatyb]

Where does she live? In some cities it’s very common to not own a car.

[Slim57]

Nope

[eagle1951]

sure