Would you date someone who doesn't have a car/cant drive? Why or why not?

Unless you live somewhere that has great public transit, or have a medical condition the precludes you from driving. I'd say they need to drive. It's too much work to be the only driver in a family. My exwife didn't drive, so I'd goto college, on my way home I'd run errands, take her to work, then goto work myself, head home, then pick her up, maybe run another errand. And days off we're me driving all over running errands. If we needed to go do laundry at the laundromat, guess who did it. Groceries? Me again. Pick her sister up? Me. Fuck that, never doing it again.
I'd date & have dated someone who doesn't have a car or knw how to drive as long as getting one & learning how to drive is one of their near future goals
Where I am there is NO public transportation I stay in a VERY rual (country) area so if you don't have a car or live near where you work your dead in the water (so not having a car would be rough but as long as tht is something they want for themselves in the future then sure) but they don't want to learn how to drive ever then I don't think I could shoulder that
LOL yea welp guess my friends and ex were right. We’re also in a rural area with little to no transport and i kinda gave up on wanting to drive when i started getting the shakes and my nerves got worse. So yea ig thats what they meant when they said no guy wants that
I don't know how to drive so I feel like I'd be a hypocrite if I said I didn't wanna date someone because they couldn't drive or didn't have a car. I live in the city and take the bus everywhere so it's not really necessary for me to drive. Plus i don't see well so i don't feel i would pass the vision test to even get a license lol. I wouldn't mind if a guy didn't drive. We'd just have to Lyft or Uber everywhere.
Yea uber here high af lol plus we lack pub transport. I do prefer he have a car but im willing to help him save for one. I also dont think ill pass the test because of my vision and shakey arm
Cars are material things. Possessions. They mean sod all in a relationship. Abilities, like driving, and somewhat the same.
All that matters is being loving and caring. ANy guy that cannot be that is not worth considering a s even a casual date, let alone a life long partner.
I agree. I dont even see guys that way... but my friends say guys wouldn't want me if i can't drive. I find that bogus especially since both these girls have cars and can drive, yet theyre the ones single
I have known you on GAG a long time. No guy is going to turn you down if you cannot drive. Hell, where I live in West London, it is better NOT to have a car. Buses and trains every few minutes. Quicker, too!
Lol but we lack public transport in ny city, so i mean he prob would have to drive
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I don't currently have a car, but have had a girlfriend who didn't have one when I did, so I am OK with it.
Totally understandable. I mean this time around yea one of us needs a car because we need to be able to see eachother, but i wouldn't just not date a guy who didn't have one.
Yeah, make sense to be flexible about that. It is hard enough to find the right person in terms of personality, character and interests that we shouldn't make other things dealbreakers.
agree. I dont even see guys that way... but my friends say guys wouldn't want me if i can't drive. I find that bogus especially since both these girls have cars and can drive, yet theyre the ones single
That is sill. I have never in my life heard of a girl not having a car being a dealbreaker.
I mean my boyfriend was kinda getting annoyed that he was the only one who could drive, so maybe its true I don't know
TBH, I think most guys want to be the one driving. I know I would rather be the driver than the passenger.
Hell yes. A car is a car. I am dating a human, not a transformer.
I’m sorry Des.
I would date a guy who didn’t have a car.
Okay. I dont even see guys that way... but my friends say guys wouldn't want me if i can't drive. I find that bogus especially since both these girls have cars and can drive, yet theyre the ones single
I agree with you.
I’m gonna sign off soon, but text me later if you need to talk.
I don't get the back story between all this.
But I would date someone who didn't have a car but knows how to drive. Only cause driving is my passion. I love driving whether its a 4 wheeler or a car. I love the adrenaline that you feel when you drive on a clear road going fast. Because I love it, I want my SO to have the same interest as me. Otherwise people will just think I'm some crazy person that cuts lines and going so fast for no reason. It's not like that, being in the car behind the wheel. I love it. That's why on my bucket list, I have to drive a supercar.
I ADDEd the backstory for people who know me and was wondering about the updated status of my relationship
I dont drive myself YET, I took my test last year but due to certain events where a close friend i class as family was struggling with his health, he decided to end it and messaged me the morning of my test... telling me of his intent, it just was bad timing as it was the morning of my test and I failed on silly things because the driving was not my priority that day...
then my own health has been up and down (mostly down) so i stayed away from even attempting to learn until i got it sorted... I have owned a 125cc motorcycle and have driven manual and automatic cars.. i do seem to have issues with the clutch due to my left leg (as it it is that one i need here in the UK) but hopeful i will be driving this year :)
Yea i kinda gave up on practicing driving after our car broke down and kinda just didn't wanna try again
Yeah, I would I personally don't know anyone who would break it off with someone or wouldn't date someone if they didn't have a car or didn't know how to drive, it shouldn't really matter and it doesn't to me. I'm glad to hear that you finally broke up with him though, I know it's tough, especially since you feel you still love him so everytime you think of him, associate that with a bad memory of him or something that he did that hurt you and that might help you get over him and of course the main thing about getting over someone is no contact with him.
I'm sure you'll be fine, guys won't care if you don't have a car and if they do then it's a good thing cause then you'll know that they're not good enough for you if they'll only be with you for a car...
Thank you for great advice. I dont even see guys that way... but my friends say guys wouldn't want me if i can't drive. I find that bogus especially since both these girls have cars and can drive, yet theyre the ones single
That's right, it is bogus and even if a man will only love you under such conditions, what kind of love would that be anyway, if you find guys like that or like your ex boyfriend then don't take it forward with them, there are plenty of good guys out there, you'll find yours soon enough you just have to be able to see who really is a good guy and who isn't...
I mean he still loved me regardless but he stayed on my azz about getting a license and car when he was still in the process of getting a car himself... like damn at least I saved for the apartment
I knew a few people like that, I call them judgmental hypocrites, they criticize and judge everything about you when they're in no position to do that or they've done the same things or if they say you should do something or have something when they don't even do or have it themselves, or if they say you shouldn't do or have something when they do or have the same thing...
Damn no way lol no way. Can’t believe this
Well it depends really. If you live in the city It’s not that important. But if you live in an area where just getting to the convenient store is a challenge cause it’s far then yes she should have one for herself even
Otherwise she can never just be like hey I’m coming over
No it’s always going to be hey can you come pick me up lol
Yea ik i need a car but my nerves bad and ion wanna drive.. and lol my mom will drop me off haha. But yea i broke up with him then regretted it and then pissed him off so he's done with me
Ya at least get a liscense lol. You can at least take your moms car to the movies or something haha
Damn can’t believe it just like that huh
It’s probably good for you. You need time away and a break from all this. Go back to focusing on you. He was barely there either way. More like a voice in the background
I couldn't care less about that living in a big city with all sorts of public transport where a car would actually be more of a hassle than a bonus.
I do have a drivers license and am a pretty good driver but I only ever drive when I really have to (i. e. when I'm home on the country side)
It's harder on the country side because I'd wanna date someone independent and if they don't have a car and don't know how to drive that's definitely not a given
Yes,, I would... It would be quite hypocritical for most to say no, knowing they'd be crushed if
someone rejected them on the
basis of not having money or
material means. But the shift
in balance is more guys would
date a girl without a car but we
can't say the same for most girls.
I wouldn't date someone who doesn't have a car and can't drive my reasons is because I live in the countryside so if you have no car you can't have a job neither can buy bread.
Too it would annoy me having to drive him around all the time, it wouldn't be fair for me to pay everything.
I understand... but i wouldve still given gas and i hardly go anywhere so we only wouldve gone had he ask me... or if we lived together, i’d need a ride to work but i get it
In most big cities there really is no need to own a car. They are expensive and getting around isn't difficult without one. I wouldn't see the big deal as long as you are mobile and able to get around on your own. It would only be an issue if she continuously used me to be her chauffeur.
YEA i live in a midsize college town so lack of public transport here in the countryside... but yea he prob worried he’d be my chauffer... i dont even go anywhere though unless invited so I don't know why he felt so bothered
Well I don't think there are any 'real' reasons to not date a girl/guy that does not own a car, the only thing is that it is much easier to have one.
So if I am dating a girl that constantly needs to be picked up/dropped off and isn't mobile herself, it would annoy me I'm sure.
Not at first, but surely after a while.
I have a vision problem that stopped me from getting a car. I see well otherwise and could probably get a license if I go trough a bunch hoops but I have been terrified at the possibility of hurting people due to eyesight. At the moment I am kind of resigned to waiting for self driving cars.
It sucks a lot when It comes to dating though.
Yea i wear glasses and have a vision prob and now my arm shakes. I dont wanna be behind the will
😕 sad news.
Nah.. I don't mind if someone doesn't have a car. There's no reason for me to want a girl with a car - I want the girl not her car 😂.
Besides, I don't have a car of my own.
1. I can't afford one right now
2. I'm too lazy to go and get a driving licence 🤣
3. Even if I buy a car and get a licence, I don't have the means to maintain it.
So yeah... I'm not buying one until I know that I can maintain it
I have plenty of cars and if she can’t drive it won’t be a big deal to me, only thing I’d mind is if she’s scared of car rides (cars are my hobby after all)
Lol i mean if you drove too fast i’d worry bt im not afraid to ride in a car. I just have bad nerves, arm shakes, and bad eyesight to where i dont wanna be behind the wheel
To your question, yes I would
And also I'm sorry that you're heart broken! I really wish for you that you get over this and finally get what you want and deserve!
Yea im not as heartbroken anymore but sucks because we were so close to moving in together... i saved for the apartment, he saved for the car... i was looking forward to getting engaged and all that. I dont feel like starting over again... so im looking into AInor IVF
Maybe… Where I live now you sort of need to have one to live. If I lived in a more walkable city with good public transit and she could run her own life without a car and didn’t want me to taxi her around everywhere then I wouldn’t care.
"They also told me how no guy these days will want a girl who doesn't have a car/not trying to learn to drive"
When did your friends become the authority on what guys look for in a girl? They probably won't date guys who don't have their own vehicle and are projecting their own biases onto guys thinking that our preferences are the same as their preferences.
I find it funny they said that because theyve been driving for years and are single...
One just became single because her dude wanted to settle and start a fam and she didn't. The other just hasn't gotten a man
Nope. She would be too dependent on me like a child. Some guys like that but I don’t. Do yourself a favor and get a car because you’ll have more freedom.
Yes, course! If only that was my only limitation... I would have been dating a long time ago!! But I would want to show a girl how to drive, because it is an important skill to have
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