Why do most people find it weird if women date younger men but it's normal if men date younger women?

[Anonymous]

Left: Aaron Taylor Johnson (the actor who played Quicksilver in Marvel) and his wife Sam Taylor Johnson (filmmaker)

Right: David Foster (musician) and his wife Katherine McPhee (musician)

Hollywood actors date younger women with big age gaps. For example Jake Gyllenhaal, Leonardo DiCaprio, Johnny Depp.

[DaveJord]

Its not weird at all for the older people to date younger people thats not thing at all.

Its just assumed that the older person is getting taken advantage in exchange for good sex.

The younger guy is either super insecure or can't get someone his own age,, and wants to date someone that's a mother to him, or he's a gold digger.

The younger girl is either super insecure or can't get someone his own age,, and wants to date someone that's a father to her, or she's a gold digger.

In both situations its older person man or women that people think are taking advantage of situation for sex. Or being used by the younger who's gold digger.

[bamesjond0069]

Because it makes reasonable sense. A typical woman values a man with experience and a good track record at something, career life etc. A typical man values a fertile beautiful innocent woman. So when they do opposite its weird asf and clearly they dont share the same motivations as most men and women. So now were left to guess from our own perspectives and we assume she wants a boy toy and he wants her money or he's desperate and doesn't know any better or if she's still hot its just short term. That makes sense to most people and thats what we assume. And history shows this is many times the case so its not like we are going to change our minds.

[dustybiker]

People like to have an opinion. Even if it has nothing to do with them. It’s normal to have a reaction of some sort, but spreading something negatively only reflects poorly on the person doing it.

[Chazmatazz269]

Typically men are valued for our ability to provide, which older men generally do better than younger ones. Typically women are valued for their beauty, which is generally associated with youth and as we all know, beauty fades with age. So couples who defy these traditional values seem peculiar to those of us who don’t.

[Avicenna]

There are always going to be a range of opinions as to whether someone is doing the right thing regarding their choice of partner. Everyone has their own motivation for choosing a particular partner. I wouldn't date a woman much older than me, and I certainly wouldn't have when I was younger, but to each their own.

[FilmGuy93]

It just doesn't happen very often. Just last week, I had a woman ghost me after she found out that I am 29 and she's 36. This isn't even someone I was trying to date, just someone who texted me by accident and we started talking.

The instant she found out I was younger, she called me "practically a baby" and then never answered or even opened another text.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Probably because in a lot of cases, older women lose their feminine traits, but its rare for older men to lose masculine traits. So its a case of straight men dating women who look "less female". Which, when put that way, does indeed sound confusing.


The reality though, is technically a woman can stay feminine looking her whole life, but most people don't take care of themselves (not that most people even know how to).

[TheUniqueOne96]

Probably because it's less common for older women to date younger men.

There's also the double standard of men dating younger being deemed as 'pedos' whilst women who date younger deemed as 'having options'.

[Guy13]

Mothers are nurturing…and Moms usually value that over sex and beauty which is a majority interest for men in relationship.

Older women that I know are not interested in raising another child (marriage) but only F- them

[Berethor]

Because men tend to be more dominant than women, because men tend to care more about beauty than women, and because old women can't give a child to an young man.

[John-E_63]

People in this day and age or so judgmental, they should pay attention to their own faults. My way of looking at it is, that maybe you were waiting for the right person to be born, and grow up to adulthood.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Maybe because people call it paedophilia. I just don’t know about the latter. When I was 18 and had some romantic feelings to a 55-year-young, people called me a child. That did hurt.

[Shy_Steve]

I think a lot of Women think it's Creepy if it's an older Guy Dating a younger Girl, But you don't hear them say much when an Older Woman is Dating a Younger Guy.

[Jamie05rhs]

Not sure. I guess it's just societal perception.

[Philyouup]

because people
are stupid

[JohnK123]

Lol I think it’s the opposite

[OddBeMe]

Just another double standard.