Boyfriend never invites me out?

[Anonymous]

Hello just looking for some advice! Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years already and recently he started hanging with his friends every Friday night. He is apart of this club where they all drink and have fun! So what’s bothering me I guess is why he has never invited me to join him as he always is saying yea everyone was with their girlfriend and such? Maybe he wants to be single or appear that way? I’m aware I can’t be with him every fucking second but I feel like if the rest of these guys bring their girl why aren’t you? I’m just annoyed at this point. 🫠

[HollyK21]

Have you tried asking him directly? If so what was his reason?

[Asker]

I haven’t as I feel like then it would be a pity thing but soon I will as I’m about to explode lol

[HollyK21]

You should definitely talk to him. Right now your frustration is building, you’re thinking deeply into the situation, wondering if he’s trying to appear single and etc, and eventually you will absolutely explode. That’s what you don’t want, especially when it could’ve been avoided with a conversation. Sometimes men are oblivious, I can attest to that with my partner lol. They don’t mean harm with things they do but just don’t think better of it. It’s not pitiful to just be like “how come you never invite me? It’d be fun to meet the other girlfriends” or something like that would suffice. But it’s giving him the opportunity to do the right thing before anything else:

[Asker]

True thank you so much !!!

[HollyK21]

No worries! Hopefully it’s a good chat☺️