My boyfriend never goes to parties with me?

[Anonymous]

EVERY Saturday he goes out with his friends, I've never been to any party with him!

He always does this "boys night out"

Sometimes we meet on sundays after and he feels like shit since didn't sleep all night

Today he literally cancelled our date because he was feeling really bad

He is 45 and his friends are between 40 and 60...

Also his friends compliment me non stop and say how lucky he is, how pretty i am, etc in his words

But he never introduces me to them, oficially, i dont get it... whats the point?

[Daniela1982]

Well maybe while he is doing his "Guys night out", you should be doing your "Girls night out". Two can play that game. In fact, if you could find out where his party is (probably a strip club), you could go there with the girls and have some fun of your own. Just don't be surprised when he gets jealous when you ogle all the guys there. But seriously, when guys do this, it is because the spark has gone out of the relationship. When your other spends more time with friends than you, it is a time for you to reassess your relationship. For some it is better to be alone, than with the wrong person.

[EmmaMary]

@Daniela1982

I really couldn't have put this any better myself... Extremely well done.

[Daniela1982]

@EmmaMary :)

[Truth0225]

He doesn’t introduce you because maybe he’s afraid one of his friends will try to fuck you.

[Asker]

He contradicts himself
Once he said he doesn't like the way his friend looks at me because im more pretty than his wife
Other time he says we should go out ,4, with his friend and his wife
While before that, he tells me how his friend cheated on this wife
I mean its so weird and wrong and confusing

[Truth0225]

Yeah he think you will end up being attracted to and fucking his friend. He’s insecure about it

[Asker]

All his friends are 40+
And all of them told him how lucky he is to have and that im beautiful, pretty yiung fine lady
And all that stuff
When he said"Dave said told me you are very pretty"
And i asked... and what did you answer?
He said:"I know"

[slatyb]

Indeed, what is the point? You clearly aren't a priority for him.

[Asker]

He always tells me where he is and with whom

[Asker]

Not sure if its a positive point for him

[slatyb]

But he's not with you.

[Sixgunsound]

He’s either embarrassed of you or there’s someone there who doesn’t want you to see.

[Asker]

Or he is embarassed of his friens

[Sixgunsound]

Most guys don’t have embarrassing friends over the long term. It’s just too difficult to keep up with and has embedded social costs that at some point will outstrip the ratio of benefit of keeping them.