Why are so many of my peers so judgmental of me who I chose to date? what makes them think they have the right to judge me because I like girls?

[Savannah194]

[OlderAndWiser]

Whenever you follow a path outside of the mainstream, you will incur the judgment of the majority. That is just the way things happen. You can complain about it but nothing will change, so learn to expect such judgments in the future.

[Savannah194]

@OlderAndWiser yeah I have noticed that unfortunately. its not that I like complaining I just wonder what their thinking and their head is at

[OlderAndWiser]

I think some people want to have everyone act the same because if people do different things, then maybe it isn't so automatic that we are all doing the right thing.

[Savannah194]

@OlderAndWiser well what I tell them is this im me only me and I do what I want if you dont like it too bad.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yeah, you can't change who you are to make other people happy. That ALWAYS fails.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Looking at you pic, you seem good looking, so I guess most of 'em are just jealous that you even get any guys while they dont. Also at that age girls as well as guys can be very toxic against each other always being competitive. And of course people are often shallow and immediately judge you if you do unconventional choices

[BarryLiverstone]

They may think it’s not normal or that you std not being honest. But you only live once so pick who you like right?

[Savannah194]

@BarryLiverstone yeah I agree but isn't normal overrated? and I can assure you im std free and might as well enjoy it life is to short😎

[BarryLiverstone]

Are not * what a bad typo lol. Didn’t mean std

[BarryLiverstone]

in my opinion normal is boring at times. If you like someone then go for it!

[BarryLiverstone]

Would also suggest some of them are jelly

[Savannah194]

@BarryLiverstone I agree and yeah I would think so

[BarryLiverstone]

What have they said to you?

[Savannah194]

@BarryLiverstone well im too young, or I should be interested in girls that kind of thing every excuse in the book basically

[BarryLiverstone]

But you are 17.. most of your friends are dating right?

[Savannah194]

@BarryLiverstone yeah true but most of them are in to only guys.

[BarryLiverstone]

When I was 17 my girlfriend was bisexual. She used to say ‘I like people’. So it’s no big deal

[Savannah194]

@BarryLiverstone yeah I am defiantly bi. I just started doing things with my best friend on the basketball team

[BarryLiverstone]

Makes sense. She prob is into you

[Savannah194]

@BarryLiverstone actually yes we had a long talk about it she has been into me for a long time

[BarryLiverstone]

Then I’m happy you all talked and are on the same page. If you are into her then that’s great. Did she say why she hadn’t said anything b4?

[Savannah194]

@BarryLiverstone well she was scared that I wouldn't feel the same way she is much more shy than I am. I mean i have been flirting with her couple years before practice and games.

[BarryLiverstone]

I see. So you may need to take the lead more and she will be shy and wait for you

[Savannah194]

@BarryLiverstone exactly and I dont mind doing that at all, in fact I prefer it.

[BarryLiverstone]

Rock on. Sorry this is your question and I keep asking you things. I’ll stop

[Savannah194]

@BarryLiverstone oh no its no problem I dont mind it at all. 😊

[BarryLiverstone]

You are kind. Followed ya

[Savannah194]

@BarryLiverstone I may be wild and naughty but I got a good heart and ok

[Chthou95]

That's human nature. People are going to judge for whatever reason. We dont love in a utopian society where everything is sunshine and rainbows. The world doesn't work like that. You do have the power though on how it will effect you. Will you let it drag you down or will say "Fuck it" and keep your head up?

[GutsNCascaBerserking]

I really don't know the details? Could you give me some examples?

In some cases they could be trying to protect you? in other cases it could just be jealousy or control

[Savannah194]

@GutsNCascaBerserking ok well I am starting to like girls, date them and you know. I recently started doing my best friend on the basketball team and I have done some things with married women in their 40s

[GutsNCascaBerserking]

Well, the 40 year old woman would be questionable.
They are probably looking out for you
Its okay to be a gay girl!
its more common for girls to be LGBTQ than boys
very normal

[Savannah194]

@GutsNCascaBerserking well I do like doing things with 40 year old women. and yeah that is true im actually BI

[GutsNCascaBerserking]

Well, I wouldn't do that with older women. You are still a teen.
Would you mind checking out some of my questions?

[Savannah194]

@GutsNCascaBerserking I guess cause its considered wrong I just want to do it more and more people fuss about it defiantly does it for me and I can

[GutsNCascaBerserking]

Just be careful, stick with people around our age.. not older women :)

[Savannah194]

@GutsNCascaBerserking but that just sucks though.

[GutsNCascaBerserking]

I understand :) Just wait a year at least
you are 17, and there are laws against having sex with adults at your age.
Just wait until you are 18

[TheMajesticKing777]

People in general are judgmental, it's a humans thing

[Savannah194]

@themajesticking777 dosent seem right to me though especially if what im doing doesn't involve them

[TheMajesticKing777]

If the world always did the right thing, it would be a much better place but unfortunately people aren't perfect, you just gotta know what to listen to and who to listen to, you do what makes you happy

[DiegoO]

Is not like you'll date them. Ignore. That's a personal aspect of your life. They should only be concern of your safety, if they had valid reasons for it.

[pizzalovershouse]

Probably cuz they think they know better than you what's right for you

[Con29]

They are not true friends then are they. Your friends should support and respect your decision

[Oigit]

Mabye because you are not dating them?

[Savannah194]

@Oigit maybe but even if im just having fun casual why is it their right to tell me how to live? doesn't make since.

[Wise4myage]

Jealous A holes.

[Bigjake1019]

They don’t hun