Feeling down when you’re up?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend sometimes wants to have sex and I don’t. I tell him that and he’s understanding but he then thinks he’s not good enough, that I don’t find him attractive, or that he did something wrong. What do you recommend? I like to play with him and I like when he plays with me, I’m just not always in the mood. Most times he’s good about it but sometimes he doubts his worth and it breaks my heart. I just want him to know how much I love him. Any advice? Thanks!

[Guy13]

Rub his back. Show love differently. Attend to him but not “sex”. I would be very touched by you deeply…if you turned me down but still showed me love…”I’m not gross 🤢 to you after all”. Get it ⁉️

[Asker]

Thank you! This is really helpful and definitely sounds like something that will work

[Guy13]

You’re very welcomed. You may find it soothes him as well as sometimes gets you excited 😊. Good luck 🍀

[Avicenna]

You can reassure him but it’s up to him to believe it. You can’t force him to.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

All you can do is tell him how much you love him. If that is not good enough for him, then you could be in trouble.

[Asker]

Thanks! I do that as often as I can. We’ve both been hurt in previous relationships so it’s just trying to get past that.

[BarryLiverstone]

Tell him why you don’t want sex

[BarryLiverstone]

What did he say?

[Asker]

He said he understands and we will work on it together. Thanks!

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. Glad you know it takes work. Do you see him making an effort?