If a guy hasn't asked to be exclusive after 8 dates shoul I move on?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing a guy who came from Aus for 8 weeks now. We've been on 8 dates (we hang out once a week). We had sex after 5th dates. But we have not had the exclusive talk.

I asked him the other day "Are we in a situationship?"and he said "Maybe? I didn't think about it haha"

Just so you know, I'm from Korea and Korean dating culture is more conservative than Western one.

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[PrettyPriya]

I might be able to help you. I am engaged to an Australian man. I am Indian, where dating culture is a lot different from western dating. It is hard to say what is on his mind. I can only guess at this point. Let’s look at the situation with the details you give.

You have had sex with him after 5 dates. You are still going on dates. Are you still being intimate with him after that first time? If so, has it been every date? I only ask because I wonder if you gave him what he was looking for and now he is just riding that train until it tells him to get off.

I can tell you from my experience, Australian men can be absolute gentlemen and very nice guys. My fiancé is a wonderful man that I wouldn’t trade for anyone. He was also very decisive when we decided to be exclusive.

There was no wavering in the decision. That is because we both knew what we meant to each other. I think that is what is lacking here. If you give me more details, I can revise my answer.

[DizzyDesii]

If he dont ask to be exclusive afterthe first date then i’d move on. I like to get to know someone at least 30-90 days before we go on a date. Once we go on a date, if i kiss you and i like it then you better lock my ass down or i’ll bounce right tf on

[DannyUk2017]

No. After all, you have also not asked for exclusivity, right? So does that mean he should assume you are not serious, and he should move on?
It is not his “job” to ask for exclusivity. It is the job of everyone in a relationship to talk about their needs, desires, and expectations. If you’re waiting for your partner to make all the moves, you’re not really a participant in your own relationship.

[Avicenna]

You should talk to him again and explain that you need an answer soon.

[Wise4myage]

He sounds desperate, but consider giving him more time. Just make sure he knows how you feel.

[In_Trance]

Why not just have a conversation about it?