I dealt with someone who wanted to move super fast.. then actually another person after that.. they were both narcissistic sociopathic liars... very manipulating... soooo sweet in the beginning then things became too suffocating... but this guy you are seeing may not be the case.. when some people are single they know what they want when they find it. Maybe he just feels like he found a keeper. If you like this guy, My suggestion would be to say yes to exclusivity. If he begins to demand too much of your time or you see yourself giving more emotionally and physically.. then just part ways. A person true character ALWAYs comes out... with narcissistic people, when u see glimpse into their true personality that's when u start to see the bad they've been hiding... narcissistic sociopathic people dont like when people dont see them as this bundle of perfection n it's almost like you see a total opposite side of who they showed u before.. main thing is, if it goes bad or u see sure red flags-dont ignore them! Be strong n walk away!
No? If you feel that you're not ready to date then why you're dating? 3 weeks is not that you want to make a decision whether or not if your there is about a person. He may be ready, but if you're not ready then just let him know that and take your time. When men are certain about what they want, they tend to not turn back from their choices. They usually think long and hard about what they want. Trust me when I say, you would know a person whose only rushing if it's in 1 day. And it's very rare to know right away who you going to be with.
I think that’s normal after six dates. It would be for me. I usually try to make a move by then and if the girl lets me I will ask to be exclusive because I’m not the type of guy to get sexual with more than one girl at a time.
I ask for the exclusivity so she understands that she’s the only girl I’m focused on and that I want to be the only guy she’s focused on. I only get exclusive after things have been taken past friendship though. By date 6 I should have already kissed her and gotten sexual with her in some way. For me, asking to be exclusive by date 6 is normal.
You're overthinking, i'd say going exclusive in 3-5 dates is very normal, or it's unlikely to happen/someone is dragging their feet.
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I mean, I don't want to say it's too early because everyone moves at their own pace - I would be worried if it was three dates, more. I'd say just be cautious, see how it plays out before you jump to conclusions.
If you're trying to find love, don't half ass it. Always dive in. You said you like him. Don't complicate it more than that. 3 weeks if you've seen each other most days of those 3 weeks is plenty of time to get to know whether you're okay to try a relationship with them or not.
Exclusive can be for many reasons. One is safety like you've both are clean std wise and you are only sleeping with each other. There's some comfort in that. Doesn't mean it's going to lead to love quickly or marriage but its a bit easier if two people can get to know each other in a trusting situation.
Well I had a guy taking for granted we were exclusive after three dates so... I don't know what's up with some people. And to answer your question, it depends. It could mean he's really desperate which also means he'll be clingy and probably struggles with insecurity (desperation shows he has a hard time finding someone which would make him insecure) and insecure people often act controlling because they're so afraid of rejection and that you'll find someone better. So taking all that into account i'd tread forward carefully and not promise him anything until you know him better. You shouldn't have said yes if you're doubtful in the first place though.
That might happen yes, it might also happen that you decide your not into it and given that women have a far easier time dating today than men do, that women are far less invested in relationships than men are in general then I'd say it's he that should be worried not you.
no, why would that mean that? I choose to be exclusive IMMEDIATELY, it has nothing to do with "whirlwind romance" or anything like that, it has to do with the fact that I like to focus my entire effort into what ever relationship I am in and the sooner I can do that the better off I am (seems stupid to split your time and energy amongst multiple people, you start off the relationship already having your foot out the door.).
Asking to be exclusive is no big deal? Its just tht you enter a relationship together and not date others at the time. It doesn't make you have other obligations like yoy can't eat cereal in the morning. If it doesn't work out you can just break it off and go back to date others again, dont stress it too much
Three weeks sounds about right for two people who can agree that they have feelings for each. If you say "No I don't want to be exclusive" you're basically saying "I'm not so hot for you, I'm keeping my options open for someone better." Tell him exactly how you feel, make sure its for the long run and serious. Also find out about his past relationships through his friends or ask him.
I like the Idea of Exclusive if you Both really enjoy each other Here, dear. However, Go Slow with Joe and Find out if it is Everything you Both want. xx
Seems a little soon to me, like by a year or so! But, hey - I'm "old school", so maybe you can pull it off sooner.
Just be sure to be in each other's company, in a variety of situations, over a long enough span of time, to get a gauge on how he thinks, responds to problems, etc., and a true level of your compatibility.
do not be excusive with any man , especially if you have just dated him for three weeks ! for he is up to something with either you , the money you may have , house or car that you may have or he thinks you have ! Thanks
Maybe he's worried about losing you to someone else, and that's why he's wanting to be serious so quickly
In my opinion, 3 weeks is too soon to become serious with someone. It takes longer than 3 weeks to get to know each other.
Be honest and tell him you want to take it slow. But reassure him you are exclusive with him ( only if that's what you want too)
Well normally if you are sating someone you can see after one or two dates if he suits to you or not. If you are fallen in love to him or not. So dating though there are no feelings for him is strange. And yes you two should be exclusive after this time.
Wow I would expect you to be exclusive within one second of us dating, when I date it is totally monogamous
Yes you should be worried, it means he is started to get bored from you, these type of people are childish and don't stay attached to people once their needs are fulfilled.
I'd say you've run into something called a red flag. What IS the rush? You don't know this guy well enough to be exclusive. You might want to rescind that...
Three weeks is so vague because three weeks could mean it’s been 9 dates or 3. but it’s all up to you, when in doubt always trust your gut.
I don't see a problem. You are showing how culture has shaped attitudes towards avoiding monogamy.
If I feels the need to ask that.. it's not a good sign, my reply would have been very harsh, maybe break-up right at that point
I would trust your gut sense instincts. There is nothing wrong with caution and trusting your senses. But that alone, is positive to me.
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