Why would a really nice 28 year old guy still be single?

Question

Still single but he goes on a lot of dates

BullShark · Accepted Answer

Most of us guys who choose to be single even if we have options, do so because we don't want to focus on women or dating in general and want to instead focus on bettering ourselves and get financially more stable so that we can have a successful future. Majority of the time if this is the case, we don't go around sleeping with random women either. We just abstain from sex as a whole.

As for the guy you mentioned, the way I see it, he just doesn't want himself to be tied down to just one woman and would rather go on a bunch of dates and experience many different women, keeping things casual. If this is the case, he's either doing it so that he can finally figure out what he really wants in a woman and meet "The One", or he just isn't ready to commit. Either way, you probably won't be able to change his mind otherwise so unless you're okay with him sleeping around with different partners and you do it too, have at it. If not and you'd rather settle down with one partner instead, this guy might not be the ideal match for you.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Because he's a really nice 28 year old.. that goes on a lot of dates. So he knows that he has market value, and is not feeling this burning urge to marry some one and be tied up in something thats supposed to last for ever, but doesn't, why do that?

You're only young once, so why get all tied up in marriage and children? Have fun enjoy, and do all those things you want to do, and do it to the most.

You find someone, think she's great date, have fun... why you need anything more. If she's the right one, time will tell. And if she's not, then she's not because there's plenty of other fish in the see.

You meet these women and they think within a year or two you need to talking marriage and settling down, and having kids. Fuck that. And if they don't like it, then don't date the guy, he'll be fine without you.

Dazed0N0Confused · Accepted Answer

Maybe he's got standards that he hasn't found the girl to fit them yet.
Maybe he's a "professional date".
Maybe he's trying to date these women, but then their true colors come out & they're ugly people on the inside.

I don't know, but I know a lot "really nice" single guys. Normally they're reason is that they like the hookup scene or they don't think they're a catch, so they don't want to be "held down" or "holding another person down".

On a side note, "big fat girls", & guys, can be a lot of fun, can be amazing people, can be more beautiful on the inside than a supermodel is on the outside, & so much more.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

Probably either he has high standards just isn't interested right now. On a side note I didn't know so many people had me blocked until I saw 3 people with their comments hidden from me on here lol

bzcxx · Answer

There are some guys with commitment issues. The aren’t in a relationship not because they can’t find a date but because they’re afraid and unable to commit. These type of men tend to jump around from woman to woman only because they can’t settle for one.

They’re afraid of committing to one girl for the rest of his life. Another reason could be he’s a playboy. Some men refuse to be in a relationship so they can play around - sleep with dozens of random women with no responsibility. They don’t like the idea of having sex with only one woman for the rest of his life. These group of men remain promiscuous until they realise they’re getting old and need to settle down.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

Really nice doesn't really mean anything; so, my ability to speculate on why he's still single is limited. He could just not do a very good showing during dates? The girls he takes on dates may just not have some intangible factor that he's looking for? He may also not really want to be in a relationship at all?

Lionman95 · Answer

Multiple reasons maybe he has a different focus or he is just incapable of finding a partner for a relationship. Even if he´s settled down and has a nice character he might have a boring life or is a bad communicator and that´s enough to be still single.

Some guys never figure out while a woman won´t date them.

U4ea0 · Answer

The college drop out rate is 50%. And the reason for most of those? Chasing women or women chasing men. Dating takes a lot of time and effort and frankly it may just be better to put it down until the demands on your time are less formidable. I didn't date much in college and not at all in medical school. But, most of that was due to disgust at American Women.

Fryday_Knight · Answer

Maybe he does not want to be in a relationship. Perhaps he isn't as nice as they say. Perhaps he is very picky. Perhaps he is a really nice guy but maybe not relationship material. Perhaps he is focussing more on his career, what life has to offer, self development.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Maybe he just doesn't want to commit yet? He's still young and probably still establishing himself.

Don't rush him. He'll date in his own time - or maybe he won't. Not everyone wants romance, sex, or dates.

20yearsolder · Answer

For the same reason there are 27 and 28-year-old female virgins. They haven't found the right person. Maybe they're just not ready to make that commitment and settle down for a lifetime. Maybe he enjoys the single life. Meeting new women

hahahmm · Answer

He's attracted to exactly the kind of woman who is repulsed/afraid of his type. But he's too dumb to realize it & they're too dumb/greedy to know it before going on the date. Eventually he will figure things out.

Vegasrunner · Answer

You answered your own question. A mans sexual strategy is much different from a womans. Men want quantity and 28 is way to young for a man to settle especially if as you say he's going out on a bunch of dates.

NewsReader · Answer

Not enough information about the guy to provide an accurate answer. There could be tens, maybe hundreds of reasons depending on how detailed you go.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Most likely because there hasn't been a mutual interest in continuing on. One wants to and the other does not. It could be for a variety of reasons, but that is not uncommon.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Most really nice guys are single. He probably just doesn’t want to be tied down or is focusing on his career or education.

Sour-rose · Answer

-he's a murderer -taking his time -still don't know hisself - he's not hungry enough

Revenant_Titan · Answer

He’s probably been hurt quite a bit and doesn’t know if he’s ready to get out there again because he may fear he will be hurt again, at least that is what I make of it.

YollyM · Answer

Being nice is not the only requirement if you will for someone to want to pursue a relationship with you. Sure it ticks the first box but there's so much more.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

He could be a serial killer but he could also just be a guy who hasn’t found the right person yet

petitedollbabee · Answer

Because he chooses to be. Not everyone wants a relationship in their current stage of life.

GoodEnoughThen · Answer

Perhaps he's being selective, waiting to find what he hopes will be a good match.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Doesn't want to settle down. He's happy playing the field.

DCooper · Answer

Because he can get what he wants out of a relationship without needing to commit to a relationship.

TonightYouu · Answer

Every guy that’s been hurt doesn’t turn into some red pill woman hating self proclaimed alpha stud

plenty of good guys walk away from dating for good and focus on themselves and contributing to society

dustybiker · Answer

He knows what he wants and not afraid to wait until he finds it.

burlen · Answer

I guess it’s because they happen to be single.

spartan55 · Answer

Because he hasn't found a woman that meets his standards.

HelloImGoodThanks · Answer

Maybe not emotionally ready to be in a committed relationship and settle down.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Why not?  I would guess he either doesn't want a relationship or hasn't found the right one.

Noodle_fan · Answer

there two possibility here 1. he love to sleep with many different women , that is why he decided to stay single. 2. or he is really picky about woman who will be his girlfriend

jshm2 · Answer

Because he isn't as nice as you like to think.

DermalPunch · Answer

Well he probably doesn't want a shallow woman.

AviatorTom · Answer

Maybe he prefers to play the field. There's no rule that says a guy has to have a girlfriend.

Sixgunsound · Answer

He is evaluating his options and getting what he can get while the getting is good.

Avicenna · Answer

If he’s able to have sex regularly he may not see any need to commit

TacosRAwesome · Answer

He's still shopping for his person so to speak. Maybe he's not over his hoe-phase yet or maybe he's just not finding what he wants.

Anonymous · Answer

He is either having sex with many different girls, he doesn't want to have a girlfriend or he hasn't found the right girl yet.

JosyJosy · Answer

Or he sucks at dating or dating is all he wants to do.

Andres77 · Answer

He's got some sense, enough to not get trapped.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Even thou he's age 28 he just doesn't want a relationship.

exitseven · Answer

h hasn't met the right girl yet. Or maybe was in a long term relationship and it went sour.

Anonymous · Answer

He might just want to play the field or he might just be a confident man who knows what he wants and hasn't found it yet

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Probably because he hasn't found a match yet (its why i'm single)

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Probably because he hasn't found a match yet (its why i'm single)

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Probably because he hasn't found a match yet (its why i'm single)

Anonymous · Answer

chances are he doesn’t wanna deal with bullshit from females

I know that most women want to judge a guy based on how many other women like him but some dudes just don’t want the bullshit

it doesn’t mean girls don’t want him

maximumpower · Answer

Not everyone has the driving compulsion to get married. I was 33 and still wish I hadn't. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

TroyDT · Answer

1. He might be a jerk who is good at hiding it for a while. 2. He might be aware of the scam that is current divorce law.

Anonymous · Answer

Most women are too immature to handle a decent man. And most men are immature too I am not bias against Any gender.

Anonymous · Answer

More men want freedom than security... more women want security than freedom.

Anonymous · Answer

perhaps seeing what is out there , maybe a serial dater who doesn't want to commit to anyone yet

Bubbles16 · Answer

Maybe he just hasn't found the right person yet

Guardian45 · Answer

Probably for the same reason a really nice 28 year old girl would still be single!

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

1 He’s a nerd. 2 He doesn’t want any partners.

Fuentes · Answer

Cause he's smart & women tell nice men all the time they don't like nice MEN lol

zagor · Answer

Because he doesn't want to get married, or hasn't found anyone he'd like to commit to yet.

jasco · Answer

Maybe because he doesn't want to be in a relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Cause he is intelligent enough to understand that marriage is a raw deal for men.. And most women simply aren't worth it.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

Maybe because it's difficult to find a nice person at times

BLP11520 · Answer

Is he too picky? Are the ones he dated to picky? Some hidden flaw?

Anonymous · Answer

because he's a player and something wrong with him mentally

Anonymous · Answer

Girls have too high standards these days. And a lot of them are also too feminist.

Anonymous · Answer

if he’s 28 nice and single he’s probably short

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