Why would a really nice 28 year old guy still be single?

[Anonymous]

Still single but he goes on a lot of dates

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His last girlfriend was a big fat girl

[BullShark]

Most of us guys who choose to be single even if we have options, do so because we don't want to focus on women or dating in general and want to instead focus on bettering ourselves and get financially more stable so that we can have a successful future. Majority of the time if this is the case, we don't go around sleeping with random women either. We just abstain from sex as a whole.

As for the guy you mentioned, the way I see it, he just doesn't want himself to be tied down to just one woman and would rather go on a bunch of dates and experience many different women, keeping things casual. If this is the case, he's either doing it so that he can finally figure out what he really wants in a woman and meet "The One", or he just isn't ready to commit. Either way, you probably won't be able to change his mind otherwise so unless you're okay with him sleeping around with different partners and you do it too, have at it. If not and you'd rather settle down with one partner instead, this guy might not be the ideal match for you.

[DaveJord]

Because he's a really nice 28 year old.. that goes on a lot of dates. So he knows that he has market value, and is not feeling this burning urge to marry some one and be tied up in something thats supposed to last for ever, but doesn't, why do that?

You're only young once, so why get all tied up in marriage and children? Have fun enjoy, and do all those things you want to do, and do it to the most.

You find someone, think she's great date, have fun... why you need anything more. If she's the right one, time will tell. And if she's not, then she's not because there's plenty of other fish in the see.

You meet these women and they think within a year or two you need to talking marriage and settling down, and having kids. Fuck that. And if they don't like it, then don't date the guy, he'll be fine without you.

[DaveJord]

Yeah, she was fat, really? Did she make him happy... sounds like you should be an up grade, unless he's blowing you off and that upsets you?

Whats your preoccupation here with this guy?

[Asker]

I'm wondering before he met me. Inthink he is happy with me he can't seem to keep his hands off me and his roommates says he's a lot happier

[DaveJord]

So if everything is going fine whats the problem? You're just getting inside your own head because he's 28 and single?

Let me tell you, there's a lot of Terrible women out there... so being 28 and single tells me that he's smart and is just waiting for the right one and being selective about it. 28 is damn young... no issues with a 28 single.

[DaveJord]

There's no guarantee, he might be a creep later, but that's always the risk for men and women both in dating. You never know until you know. But if he seems to be a great guy up to this piont do not over think it, or try to get out a head of it too far.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Maybe he's got standards that he hasn't found the girl to fit them yet.
Maybe he's a "professional date".
Maybe he's trying to date these women, but then their true colors come out & they're ugly people on the inside.

I don't know, but I know a lot "really nice" single guys. Normally they're reason is that they like the hookup scene or they don't think they're a catch, so they don't want to be "held down" or "holding another person down".

On a side note, "big fat girls", & guys, can be a lot of fun, can be amazing people, can be more beautiful on the inside than a supermodel is on the outside, & so much more.

[LazerBean]

Probably either he has high standards just isn't interested right now.

On a side note I didn't know so many people had me blocked until I saw 3 people with their comments hidden from me on here lol

[Juan4574]

It is the same user.

[DaveJord]

Awe, you got secret admires! Yeah, people block me to. I have no idea, but then again I pull my punches and tell them what they want to hear either
... lol

[DaveJord]

* I don't

[DarkWinterNights]

It comes with the territory of having opinions. Some people can’t accept that.

[DaveJord]

@DarkWinterNights yeah last time I got blocked it was some chick posting in bikini asking how do I look? Off course all guys were like oh baby you look so good..

I said something like... "do ypu really want me to tell you how you look in that bikini honestly? Or do you just like positive reinforcement you guy from random guys, even time you flash some cleavage and ass on social media? Because although I appreciate the pics, honestly you judt look like an attention whore.

I got blocked! 🚫 As did everyone other person, that didn't say she was anazing.

[bzcxx]

There are some guys with commitment issues. The aren’t in a relationship not because they can’t find a date but because they’re afraid and unable to commit. These type of men tend to jump around from woman to woman only because they can’t settle for one.

They’re afraid of committing to one girl for the rest of his life. Another reason could be he’s a playboy. Some men refuse to be in a relationship so they can play around - sleep with dozens of random women with no responsibility. They don’t like the idea of having sex with only one woman for the rest of his life. These group of men remain promiscuous until they realise they’re getting old and need to settle down.

[JamesDiaz11]

Really nice doesn't really mean anything; so, my ability to speculate on why he's still single is limited. He could just not do a very good showing during dates? The girls he takes on dates may just not have some intangible factor that he's looking for? He may also not really want to be in a relationship at all?

[Lionman95]

Multiple reasons maybe he has a different focus or he is just incapable of finding a partner for a relationship. Even if he´s settled down and has a nice character he might have a boring life or is a bad communicator and that´s enough to be still single.

Some guys never figure out while a woman won´t date them.

[U4ea0]

The college drop out rate is 50%. And the reason for most of those? Chasing women or women chasing men. Dating takes a lot of time and effort and frankly it may just be better to put it down until the demands on your time are less formidable. I didn't date much in college and not at all in medical school. But, most of that was due to disgust at American Women.

[Fryday_Knight]

Maybe he does not want to be in a relationship. Perhaps he isn't as nice as they say. Perhaps he is very picky. Perhaps he is a really nice guy but maybe not relationship material. Perhaps he is focussing more on his career, what life has to offer, self development.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Maybe he just doesn't want to commit yet? He's still young and probably still establishing himself.

Don't rush him. He'll date in his own time - or maybe he won't. Not everyone wants romance, sex, or dates.

[20yearsolder]

For the same reason there are 27 and 28-year-old female virgins. They haven't found the right person. Maybe they're just not ready to make that commitment and settle down for a lifetime. Maybe he enjoys the single life. Meeting new women

[hahahmm]

He's attracted to exactly the kind of woman who is repulsed/afraid of his type. But he's too dumb to realize it & they're too dumb/greedy to know it before going on the date. Eventually he will figure things out.

[Vegasrunner]

You answered your own question. A mans sexual strategy is much different from a womans. Men want quantity and 28 is way to young for a man to settle especially if as you say he's going out on a bunch of dates.

[NewsReader]

Not enough information about the guy to provide an accurate answer. There could be tens, maybe hundreds of reasons depending on how detailed you go.

[BCRanger10]

Most likely because there hasn't been a mutual interest in continuing on. One wants to and the other does not. It could be for a variety of reasons, but that is not uncommon.

[DarkWinterNights]

Most really nice guys are single. He probably just doesn’t want to be tied down or is focusing on his career or education.

[Sour-rose]

-he's a murderer
-taking his time
-still don't know hisself
- he's not hungry enough

[Revenant_Titan]

He’s probably been hurt quite a bit and doesn’t know if he’s ready to get out there again because he may fear he will be hurt again, at least that is what I make of it.

[YollyM]

Being nice is not the only requirement if you will for someone to want to pursue a relationship with you. Sure it ticks the first box but there's so much more.

[crossdressingrihno]

He could be a serial killer but he could also just be a guy who hasn’t found the right person yet

[petitedollbabee]

Because he chooses to be. Not everyone wants a relationship in their current stage of life.

[GoodEnoughThen]

Perhaps he's being selective, waiting to find what he hopes will be a good match.

[Fireguy17]

Doesn't want to settle down. He's happy playing the field.

[DCooper]

Because he can get what he wants out of a relationship without needing to commit to a relationship.