Generally speaking, what does 18-19 old girls look for in a potential boyfriend to be a stay at home girlfriend for without being a "gold digger"?

[Anonymous]

[dynamicyandere]

It’s all about about genuine chemistry and deep connection, regardless of age.


Gold diggers are shallow.


You need to be able to tell the difference between a deep connection and a shallow one.


There’s no magic formula for this. But, YOU must be a deep person yourself before you can really attract and connect with another deep person.

[dynamicyandere]

That answers the gold digger part.

As for the stay at home part, that’s philosophical.

You two need to be on the same page and share a similar philosophy about that.

My girl (met her at 20) has worked before and will work again if she needed to. But, I genuinely enjoy providing for her and she enjoys me taking care of her. It allows her to spend more time with me and also not be stressed out about work. It helps her be present with me and that improves our quality time.

We joke about her being my sugar baby but we both know that our connection is deep. She’s my ride or die.

[dynamicyandere]

Another thing. You don’t want a girl to be with you because she’s doesn’t have a choice. You want a girl who CAN get a job who IS capable who COULD be independent, but she’s choosing to let you take care of her because it creates a lifestyle that makes you two happy.

[LazerBean]

I'm not sure that I exactly understand your question, but I will answer how I can.

I got married at 19, to a man who I wanted to spend every spare minutes with. He feels the same way about spending time with me. That would have been hard to do because of how our professions are. With me not having a regular job (I help with his some though) I am able to do that.

[Asker]

What I tried to ask for is, how do I get a 18-19 old girl to want to be my stay at home girlfriend who does not just want money.

The biggest problem is girls seems to lose interest at the mention of them not continuing their education or getting a job.

[LazerBean]

Most women are not going to give up a secure future for a "boyfriend". Which is smart. If you aren't going to marry them and provide all the traditional benefits of a traditional husband, you are very unlikely to attract a woman who wants a traditional lifestyle.

[Asker]

But I can't exactly ask her to marry me right away either, thats most likely an instant no from anyone except gold diggers. And the longer she waits to decide not going to get a higher education or a job, the less likely she is going to be a stay at home girlfriend / wife.

[LazerBean]

Yes, I'm not suggesting you propose right away. I guess what I was getting at is that what you were wanting from a woman is extremely unlikely to happen because it is so high risk.

[Anonymous]

Girls that age just want to have fun.