What do guys realistically look for in a girl they want to settle down with?

[Anonymous]

Just asking because I actually want to know, so please only comment if you are genuinely giving an answer and not trolling :/

[Anonymous]

Although times have changed, a lot of what men want has r when it comes to a relationship. A majority of men want a girl who is feminine, isn’t argumentative, likes to fight. I don’t mean you can’t have disagreements but there are some women who just argue for the sake of arguing. We’d like someone who is loving, caring, knows what her man wants before he does. Someone who listens because honestly a lot of women don’t listen when it comes to men talking. A lot of women say they can handle the truth but they can’t. Especially when you bring up something that you don’t like that she does or doesn’t do. A lot of men want a wife, a SAHM, assuming he can afford to provide for her as well as kids. Most of us don’t want strong, independent women. That’s not to say that she has to stay home all day slaving away cooking, cleaning, kids. These days I’m pretty sure those types of things are much easier than they were 20-30 years ago. W dishwashers, washing machines, vacuum, etc, etc, you’re not actually “slaving” away like women did long time ago. You’re not scrubbing your clothes in a bucket of water or down by the creek. Of course when kids are of a certain age they’re old enough to go to school, so even less time you have to spend watching them. One last thing, a woman who can cook. What most women find attractive in men, it’s usually the opposite for men. Most men aren’t as concerned at all w her career, her having her own car or her own house or making six figures a years. Those are things that women are usually attracted to. For men it’s usually looks because honestly that’s what we see when we first meet someone. After that it’s personality. Because even w all those looks she can be an ugly person who no man wants to commit to her. They will smash her, but they won’t commit to her. That’s why there’s so many women who are pretty, make good money but are still single. Because it’s her personality.

[Asker]

Honestly this is a very good comment, and you executed it nicely without being overly sexual or rude. So thank you for that, times have definitely changed now in my age range I haven’t heard any guys talking about wanting a SAHM, which is okay with me since that’s not something I want to do. I like working and I love my job, now that won’t make me act like I don’t need a man because I’m more independent because I know men like to know/feel they are needed so of course even though as someone who’s more independent, I know I can go to the grocery store but “hey sweetheart, do you mind running to the store to grab this?” There are different examples that just the one I can think of since I need to go grocery shopping lol. Now I like how you didn’t use all women because I have been refraining from using all men since I’ve notified that guys don’t tend to like that. As a woman myself I’m attracted to a man who can cook and do stuff around the house too, I don’t care about his money we both work why should I be attracted to your money or your car?

[Opinion Owner]

A lot of men may not talk about a SAHM because they get shamed for wanting that. A lot of women call them misogynist who just want a slave. But I get it, in today’s society almost both partners have to work. You may not care about his money but a lot of women do. Many women want a man who makes as much as she does or more. Many of them won’t date a man who makes less than her. Men on the other hand have no problem dating some girl who works at McDonalds so long as she’s pretty to him w a good personality.

[Asker]

There’s a lot of Many’s that you mentioned for women but there’s not very many’s for men.

[Ironic_Method]

Someone reliable seems to be the arrest desirable trait from what I've seen. For me, I married someone who I would be best friends with even if all romance and attraction wasn't there. Financial literacy is also sexy. Someone who is interested in self growth and most importantly, someone who wants to be with me.

[Berethor]

Men are usually don't asking for much, the picture below basically tells what is needed.

[Asker]

For you probably, but no one else has commented what you’ve said. plus the question was what are they looking for in a girl not what they want a girl to do, maybe reread the question?

[Asker]

Also I’m going to assume you are single? That being said you probably want sex right now. Please do not comment any further if you aren’t going to answer the question for what it actually is. I worded it the way I worded it because I don’t want to hear about how sex is the only key to a long term relationship/marriage because I’ve noticed the immature ones are the ones saying that.

[Berethor]

I answered, looking for a girl that cook and clean, and put out, also looking for a virgin.

allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin

[Asker]

Are you a virgin?

[Asker]

You actually didn’t answer saying that, you said not much and then added the picture about making sure a guy’s balls are empty? Also if your not a virgin yourself but expect a girl to be a virgin wouldn’t that be a bit hypocritical because you can’t give the girl the same?

[Asker]

Also a girl is expected to put out but does not have to everytime you want it, so if your going to unhappy because your “balls aren’t empty” that’s actually sad. For me who is a virgin, I’m not looking to makes sure a guy I’m with’s “balls are empty all the time” if that’s what a guy is genuinely looking for get with a girl who enjoys having sex all the time. Not a virgin who has no experience either due to saving it or doesn’t really care for sex.

[Berethor]

You can follow me and I would message you, I am not going to answer if I am virgin in public, I am not anonymous like you, and I am a man. Why it bit hypocritical for a man to want a virgin if he not a virgin, women don't tend to care about virginity, while men do. What the problem to put out everytime your man wants it? women tend to be passive in sex anyway. It make sense for a man to be sad if he is unsatisfied. I prefer a woman who is both keep the balls are empty all the time and a virgin, I know that it the best of both worlds, if I have to choose between a girl who enjoys having sex all the time and a virgin, I choose a virgin, it just best to have virgin who is not asexual, as for saving it, the picture was talking about marriage anyway, didn't it? so it not a problem.

[Asker]

Because a man what’s someone who’s untouched after running through every woman who will give him some. I for sure don’t want that shit. Men care about virginity because it’s something that can “conquer” once the virginity is gone no one else can have it it’s viewed as an achievement to some men.
At some point women are going to start wanting men to also be virgins, because women are starting to move just like men especially the generation I’m in, so it’ll be fun. The term “making sure his balls are empty” is disturbing and disgusting. There are woman who haven’t had orgasms from there partner but yet the man expects to be left satisfied everytime? How does that make any sense? Why should you be satisfied if you can make the women satisfied. Also when a grown man who’s in his 30’s an up says he wants a virgin it sounds absolutely weird…. Sorry but if your going to make a follow up comment after this maybe don’t make sure emphasize you want a virgin or continue to use the balls emptying thing.

[Berethor]

I respect that you want a fellow virgin, it pretty smart, I also want someone untouched and not dirty, yes there is also the conquest thing, but it less important, at least to me. Why you think that bakks are disgusting? men's orgasm are easier to achieve than women's, so it make sense for men to expect that more than women. Yea it harder to find a virgin at my age, but I don't want to give up, and compromise.

[Asker]

🤨 hmm… so because a woman’s orgasm takes longer, there’s suddenly no need for her to have it. More like you can’t control your urges. I’m not sure what bakks are so can’t answer that. The conquest thing is disgusting too, let the girl ever find out that how it was viewed even a smidge and she’s going to feel used. How do I know? Well because I’d feel like shit If I found out that a man I was with basically got with me because it was a conquest do I care that it was only partially part of the reason? No, it was still part of the reasoning. I’m a virgin would definitely make sense that I want another virgin

[Berethor]

Women also don't need to empty anyway, so it less needed for women, the conquest is called deflowering, a proper term. Yea go for a fellow virgin, it's a good choice.

[Asker]

Uhhh… that’s weird that you expect a woman to empty you but you won’t do it for her sounds very hypocritical, since you don’t know if it’s needed for women or not. Yeah you’re definitely a hypocrite geez dude. “Woman also don’t need to empty anyways” don’t know why you refer to an orgasm as emptying sounds fucking weird honestly BIG turn off. Doesn’t matter what the term is, not to sound disrespectful but you’re very weird. You talk about women like they aren’t shit.

[Asker]

Sounds like you want a virgin because you want to take what she has from her and control her. Especially with the way you answered regarding a woman’s pleasure. You’re really a damn hypocrite. You actually disgust me. “Less needed for women” get a fucking grip dude. If you want someone to be letting you fuck every time you want it don’t be an actual dick and by pass there pleasure because “woman don’t need it” your seriously something and not a good something. You definitely entitled and lack respect for woman since your dismissing a woman’s orgasm

[Berethor]

Women can have orgasm but they don't have sperm that needs to go out.

[Asker]

Your sperm also doesn’t need to go out. You’re just plain selfish and it’s sad. 37 and selfish. You don’t need an orgasm to survive and neither do woman. So since we’re speaking that way you don’t need one either. I assume you’re praying on virgins because you think they’ll do as you please. Go ahead and search it up, cause men don’t NEED orgasm’s. You don’t NEED to release the dumb ass little sperm that comes out. Or actually I did it for you.

If a man never ejaculates it won’t kill him
The body doesn’t depend on sperm release for basic survival functions, if you do not release sperm you body naturally reabsorbs the unused sperm. There is no dire need nor danger if you do not release sperm.
Now here is what women and men both share from orgasm’s : mood boosters, relives stress and improves sleep.
Now stop talking like you absolutely need to release out of you tiny dick and trying to justify that a woman shouldn’t get pleasure if she’s expected to satisfy and man and bring him pleasure anytime he wants.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't marry someone who's been with other men before or while with me. I wouldn't marry period because almost every woman I know has cheated on her SO, so no thanks.

[Asker]

Definitely makes sense, I’ve never been in a relationship so 🤷🏽‍♀️ that’s why I’m asking. Also since you made this comment if you did end up marrying wouldn’t it be hypocritical if you expect that from a girl but you yourself have been with woman?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't expect anything I can't give of myself.

[Asker]

Well then that is definitely acceptable and the only reason I said that is because I’ve seen a lot of guys say they want to be with someone who hasn’t been with anyone yet they themselves have slept with multiple girls. So as someone who hasn’t been with anyone sexually it’s a massive NO when a guy tells me that and they’ve been around the block and down the hill with multiple girls

[firenine909]

Love and emotional support and someone cute who likes them back for who they are

[TonyMetal___86]

Honesty, loyalty, respect, funny, loving to become a devoted simple happy housewife!

[Asker]

What if a girl doesn’t want to become a housewife? Is that a dealbreaker?

[TonyMetal___86]

Ofc i'd still be respecting her but to me yes it's a dealbreaker because i want housewife after marriage, not a working woman...

Maybe if things goes bad financially, she might work part time or more, this ain't a problem but the main focus will be always on making things better again so she can return to be a housewife!

[Asker]

Makes sense, I wouldn’t want to be a housewife wife. But some woman might want to, I enjoy working. It leaves time for both of us to also have things to do and have still have life’s of our own while we have a life together

[TonyMetal___86]

I can't say that you're right or wrong, cause each one is different and a couple must work together on what suits them the best, so do whatever makes both of you happy and comfortable...

You have you're own formula and i have mine, so good luck 🙂👍🏻

[ProbablyClueless]

Emotional stability, trustworthiness

[Anonymous]

Everything.

[Asker]

Mind explaining what everything entails?

[Opinion Owner]

I guess not everything, but most things about her have to seem attractive and compatible. Different people have different preferences.

[jahaims]

Depends on the guy