First and foremost, I have to be physically attracted to her. I don't care about materialistic things so she could have shitty clothes and be dirt poor and I wouldn't care. I look for someone that has morals. I want her to have a lot of the qualities that make up a decent human. She doesn't have to have all of them, but if she understands what they are and is actively trying to improve then, that's a huge turn on for me. I hate seeing people be careless and closed off in that regard.
Looks are to men what connection is to women. The way I see it, men and women want the same things; but, we have reversed priorities. Looks are the most important to men; connection is the most important to women. But women still like sex; and, men still crave connection.
As for the things guys look for, most guys look for a woman who has a vagina and is receptive. That's about it. Male standards are generally very, very low.
That said, high quality males can be as picky as they like, because the top 20% of men are the most advantaged out of all groups in dating. 80% of women are vying for them. They want them bad. So, they can be as picky as they like, and what each likes will vary, depending on the guy.
If you want one of those guys, you're competing against women who are 9s and 10s, so, you're gonna have to have some game and be more aggressive than you prolly want to be.
Generally speaking, femininity is important. Not being too masculine. Because feminine likes masculine; and masculine likes feminine, right. We're two halves to the same whole. I think we look to balance that with each other.
@Amara_ Sure. I've seen people who didn't have arms, but people generally have arms. :P And the Ryan Renolds and Channing Tatums of the world don't usually go for ugly chicks.
Like. There's a difference between a good looking man and a top 20% man. A guy who is in the top 30% will be very, very attractive. But, his physical appearance itself won't be high enough to garner floods of women, as a top 20% man would. So he may not have many options, despite being very attractive.
If you look at dating app statistics, it shows it pretty well. The bottom 80% of men compete for the bottom 20% of women. So, the highest quality guys in the top 30% will be picking up ugly chicks. The rest of the 80% of women are going for the top 20% of men.
It's different IRL, because personality comes into play. But it shows the default.
I look at things such as how reliable a particular person is, can I trust them to do as they say they will? If I canāt trust them with the small commitments of their time I will never be able to trust them with big commitments. I look for things like being a truly good person. Do they have a good heart? Will they go out of their way to make someoneās day a little better? Are they empathetic? Can they put themselves in someoneās elseās shoes or are they the type of person where itās my always one sided? I look at things like are we two different people or do we have things in common? Do we have similar wants in life? Looks to me are certainly not everything. For me my only deal breaker is being obese. I will date someone who is chubby but if youāre out right Fat, I canāt do that.
I like women that are caring, patient, kind, obedient, submissive, understanding, etc. These are intangible things that will generally draw most men towards a woman.
Looks are important too but looks mean very little if she's rowdy, obnoxious, stuckup, narcissistic and rude. These type of women will usually just end up being 1 night stands.
for many it varies on physical appearances, for me personally what i am attracted to is a good personality, sense of humour, kindness and honesty... and if they have nice eyes then and red or blonde hair then I see that as a bonus but not a deal breaker
@Amara_ Mmm... well not really. Guys basically just accept kids when they happen by accident. Most don't actively seek them or actively want them, since they basically mean the fun life you used to have is completely gone forever after the fact.
I don't know why women are so insecure about their looks and so confident about their personality when most of them looks okey but have horrible personality. I'd literally have sex with 4-5 out of ten girls from my age group, but probably there's 1 out of 10 who I wouldn't fucking hate and despite after a 10 minute conversation.
A cute face like both of the girls in your profile picture have, cat ears obviously :P, her being a gamer would be awesome, being trustworthy, initiating affection, not doing drugs or alcohol, wanting a family/kids, being fair to her man and contributing to the family also, and being loyal. Those are the main things in my opinion.
sense of adventure, honesty, affectionate, caring, funny, artistically inclined. Also, looks do matter a great deal to me, but there's definitely some wiggle room.
I used to think looks was everything but 1 night I was in this pub & I got talking with this ugly bird that I didn't find attractive but arfta 20 minutes her personality shone through & I found her irresistible
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