What do guys look for in Women when it comes to him wanting to have a serious Relationship?

[coxoabean]

What are some things guys look out for in a girl when he is looking to have a serious relationship and are there still a lot of guys out there who are wanting to have a serious committed relationship?

[Anonymous]

for an actual serious relationship

- baseline principles and values e. g. is she pro-life or pro-abortion?

- intelligence (don't need to be a genius but smart enough to not get brainwashed by bad influence such as mass media or feminist friends)

- body count and past behaviors to know if the investment is worth it or is she just consistent and plays different rules for different guys e. g. hookups with hot guys for free, makes ugly guys pay for expensive dates or she save her virginity for marriage to the guy she truly considers a soulmate

- family upbringing (was she taught how to treat men or just taught how to be treated and forget about treating men properly?)

- loyal to her partner. not just cheating itself but not putting herself in situations where she might be tempted to cheat e. g. dressing like a skank with her single friends at a nightclub full of drunk horny guys. also includes defending him and believing in his innocence should he ever be accused of something heinous

[coxoabean]

Those are very good things to look for, thank you for sharing! I'm pro life, a baby is alive from the moment of conception

[animalwithin]

How do you inquire about body count/past history? Do you just ask straight out?

[Opinion Owner]

@animalwithin sure you can straight out ask and observe how she reacts to the question

you can also negotiate for exchange of info e. g. she asks how much money you have in your bank account and you trade that for the info you want from her

you can also observe who her friends are because women hang around those most similar to them or you can observe what her relationship with her father is like

you can also ask who her idols are e. g. Kim Kardashian or Taylor Swift or Queen Elizabeth II

[animalwithin]

Very interesting. And have you ever had reason to believe a woman has lied to you about these topics? Do you find them to be honest/forthcoming?

[BarryLiverstone]

Would be looking for a ride or die, someone who can be a best friend, counselor, lover, teammate, and a source of joy and inspiration. Should be attractive and in shape so we can go on adventures and be active together. Should be intelligent and open minded so we can learn about new things and I can trust her with responsibilities so not all is on my shoulders. I’ll look to see how much effort she puts into caring for family and friends as I want a woman I’ll be proud of when she’s serving others. Fun spirited so life isn’t boring and creative to explore new things. Ideally she loves God and delights in worshiping Him, who I can pray with and who supports my leadership in Faith. Someone who can open up her heart to me and be there in good times and bad.

[coxoabean]

Those are very good traits 👍

[Finchie40]

If she is loyal and caring , and honest , if she has good morals and understands what it means to be in a relationship, if she isn’t selfish and treats me the same way I treat her , She is more than likely relationship worthy

[HawkPerception]

I look for compatibility. Compatibility to me is basically similarities. The more you have the better. Stuff like similar views, interests, sense of humor, style of communication, love languages, how you envision your life in the future, physical attraction, sexual compatibility, etc. If you're different in too many of those, then there likely won't be any compatibility.

Opposites only attract in the sense of man and woman, big and small, taller and shorter, older and younger, stronger and weaker, dominant and submissive, etc.

[Lionman95]

To the question if there are still guys looking for a relationship I would say yes. Most guys want a partner they can have fun with a relationship where both give and take. For guys it´s important that they can show their talents and are allowed to invest in the relationship. They want to help a woman and they want to play a part in a woman´s life. What´s good for sure is if you know what you want and need and if you can tell a guy that because most guys these days won´t understand if you try to give him hints.
Besides that guys look for a partner to share life with so try to develop your personality and interests because that might help a guy develop connection to you since it´s easier for him if there is something that he has in common with you. That could be anything an interest in nature, movies, traveling, books or music.

[RetroReviews]

One thing I used to look for when meeting a woman for the first time was can she put her phone down and not be checking it every few minutes and look me in the eye and be in the moment and have a nice meaningful conversation. I remember one she was just on the phone all the time I think she was responding to text or she was wanting to show me pictures in her phone it's like I didn't ask for that I'm here to talk with you and get to know you a little bit. so I just kind of turned sideways in the booth and watch the TV on the wall at the restaurant for a few minutes. Then she asked if I wanted to walk outside so she can smoke her cigarette. I was like I guess she got to look on her face like she didn't understand my lack of enthusiasm. After she was halfway through her cigarette I said well I think I'm going to go it was nice meeting you thanks for coming.

[nawtee_me]

When I am looking for a woman to have a relationship with I am looking for her to have forgiven her ex’s for hurting her. If she is still talking about her ex negatively then she hasn’t forgiven him and is still bound to him through her in forgiveness. A relationship with her would be like a threesome between me and her and her ex. Don’t get me wrong I would still date her and have sex with her but not a relationship until she truly got over her ex’s.

[coxoabean]

That's a good point! I agree, I think someone should fully be over their ex before entering into a new relationship as it isn't fair as well to the other person

[nawtee_me]

Yes that works both ways….

[animalwithin]

I'm eagerly wanting a long term, committed relationship which leads to a marriage but the lack of marriage-quality women is appalling.

I'm looking for a woman who wasn't/isn't promiscuous, who takes care of her health/fitness, comes from a good family, is self-aware, loyal, respectful, is family-oriented, doesn't have TikTok brain, isn't a social media addict.

[BTigers96]

1) Shared common interests 2) Physical attractiveness 3) Are you a good/nice person? 4) Loyalty 5) Personality 6) Core values 7) Who your friends are.

#7 The company one keeps is especially telling.

[coxoabean]

Those are good traits to have 👍 Also, yes, I believe that who you hang around is usually who you are, so a persons friends should be looked at to when it comes to you wanting to talk to someone for a serious relationship. Good point

[RavVid]

Male mate selection criteria shouldn't be any mystery as they haven't changed for many millennium.
* attractive enough to fuck
* genuinely nice by nature
* co-operative

Marriages are nearly universally terminated by the wife. Since women don't do till death do us part anymore, men are increasingly not doing marriage. That is not to say men aren't interested in LTR

[Jennz6]

I’m not the girl they are looking for because I have a girlfriend and that would be too much for them to handle. But I read your profile and you are perfect for a good relationship with a guy.

[coxoabean]

Oh, aww thanks for your kind compliment :) ♥️

[Jennz6]

You’re welcome honey

[Anonymous]

Character above all. A smart guy observes a woman when she's NOT looking. He sees how she treats people when she has NOTHING to gain from them. He considers who she aligns and associates herself with as it is a good indication of what type of person she is, how honorable she is.

[Sasquach]

It's a little unconventional, but I look to see how they handle the things that upset them.

I look to see if they have goals and are big on self improvement.

Last and hardest, I look for girls that I'm attracted to

[Adogdog]

I was a serious relationship. I want someone who kind, caring, and sweet with pretty hair and eyes. :)

[Anonymous]

Honesty, loyalty, kindness, no OnlyFans, no kids, and no smoking.

[coxoabean]

No kids? Interesting and ya Only fans is bad:/

[Opinion Owner]

Single moms tend to be less interested in you romantically and more interested in you for your income. Plus they are less likely to want more kids.

[coxoabean]

Oh, I get what you mean I think. I thought you meant she shouldn't want kids with the man period

[Dongie]

I am. The eyes. I want a kind but spirited, sassy lady.

[NathanDavis]

smart, interesting and funny...

[Dongie]

Yeah, but if I'm really physically attracted to her I find myself rewriting my whole life story. Used to. When I was young.

[NathanDavis]

@Dongie I never have... looks are important yes, yes they are...

but they have never been my priority

although, also true that, my ex-girlfriends all happened to be smart, interesting, funny... and also sexy/gorgeous AF... lol

[Dongie]

I know. You have, let's say, followers on here that follow only you. But I was never a goodlookinh guy. Had some say I was, but nah, I had mirrors then, too. And besides, I was painfully shy around real pretty girls until I hit 30.

[NathanDavis]

@Dongie nobody on this site follows me because of my looks

I mean head lights are nice, yes... but they're not that big of a deal, lol

[Dongie]

Headlights? Your eyes? What'chu talkin' 'bout?

[NathanDavis]

@Dongie you were talking about looks, lol

[jahaims]

Google morals, values and goals

[jahaims]

Good*

[Anonymous]

A kind heart, more traditional values.

[Max_Space]

Are you asking physically?

[coxoabean]

I guess, but I mainly mean personality

[Max_Space]

Kişilik olarak sadık bir insan olmalı. Eğlenceli olmalı ve sıkıcı olmamalı. Fit bir vücudu olmalı. Göğüsleri güzel ve sıkı olmalı. Biraz da azgın olmalı

[coxoabean]

What?

[coxoabean]

I'm sorry I speak English

[Max_Space]

You can remove that view. Personally, he must be a loyal person. It should be fun and not boring. He must have a fit body. Her breasts should be nice and firm. He must be a little horny too

[coxoabean]

Ok, no not norny. I'm tired of hearing about that already 🙄

[Max_Space]

Okk 😄