What makes a guy decide they want something serious with a woman?

[prchica2007]

I (34) met a guy (31) who at first said he only wanted friends. But then we started talking and over time he started flirting with me and stuff. Then 2 weeks in we made plans to go out and I asked if we were going as friends, and he said "I thought it was a date?".

So we went out and he kissed me, and then he asked what I thought of him. And if I wanted to be friends, friends with benefits, have a relationship, etc. He said that wanted to be my boyfriend. I had to think about it for bit and I agreed to be his girlfriend. We only kissed and messed around a little. No sex yet, and he hasn't tried to pressure me for sex either.

I'm going to his family's house tomorrow to dance and hang out. We are both latino, so that part is normal culturally. But I just think it's interesting that he started out saying he only wanted friends, and suddenly he said he wanted something serious with me. This is the first time it's happened this way, so I'd like to get some guys opinions on this.

[Sugar100]

I don't know I love a guy know him 5 years and we’ve been dating 2 years and never meet family 😓 holidays I’m alone while all my family spend it at bfs families house and vise versa. He deny me and say excuse we aren’t married or other excuses. But on every date he don’t shut up talking of his mom and family 😞

I’m planning go to a wine bar this weekend try find a guy that wants meet family there. I hope I find someone. But I won’t love him. 😞 cuz I love the other guy. My family all had babies and are with the guy they love and it’s not fair I deserve be with a guy I don’t love back. I’m only trying find new guy to experience first time what it’s like meet a guys mom and ssiter , have partner with me holdiays happy for once even tho late at 26 years old. 😞

[7barbieringz]

He just has to want to.

You can be ugly, fat, crazy, broke, etc but if a guy wants you he'll make it happen.

I live by this quote from the movie He's just not that into you.

[Lionman95]

I would assume that at first he wasn´t sure about his feelings. He liked you but wasn´t sure if he could built something deeper with you. I think he liked what you said and the level of communication that you had while talking longer.

Speaking from own experience it´s a positive and important if a woman gives me the feeling she understands me and shares some interests or views of the world. Because an important thing many guys look for in a woman is a receptive character. I mean with that a character trait where she shares a conversation with me while making me feel welcomed, not judged and acknowledged.

Maybe you had such a conversation with him without realising it.

[dragoblack]

To be perfectly honest, friends to relationship is the best way for romance and should be normalized as the proper way to get into a relationship, instead of hookup relationships. Friends to relationship is honestly how it used to be. You got to know someone, found them attractive, ask them out to get to know them better, if things go well, you kissed as asked if you want it official. It was a healthy way to get into a relationship instead of getting into a relationship with someone you barely knew that you know is great at sex. So don't worry about it, sounds like your relationship is going fine

[FilmGuy93]

It is tough to put a finger on exactly what makes a woman worth sticking around for, but I can tell you that a big thing that a lot of men look for is that the idea of doing boring/mundane stuff with the woman is exciting

[MrOracle]

There's no set rule.

Some guys aren't open to a committed relationship at all, with anyone. It could be that their life doesn't leave room for one, or they can't afford it, or they are moving away soon, or whatever. Or they may have resolved not to commit to anyone.

Other guys are open to a relationship if they can find a suitable girl, but are willing to be in a casual relationship when they are single and haven't found a girl worth committing to. It sounds like that's where he was.

Anyway, it seems like he is happy with you so far - he may have been skeptical at first but you seem to have won him over.

[Stickykuza]

He might have not found you pretty at first sight and after knowing how amazing you are as a person he got attracted to you and now he probably feel like you're the most charming lady in his life,🤣🤣.

Just like guy13 said, for men, "physical first then emotional second".

[Genegenehh]

I don’t think there’s one thing. But…there’s just a feeling about someone that you can’t stop thinking about.
If he wants you and is being respectful to your boundaries. I would take that as a sign of respect and him just trying to be a gentleman.
I don’t know his personality, some guys might fuck and be done. (Playing the game)
But as far as guys like myself, we are ready to give it our all. We just need the chance.


Set boundaries, enjoy the fact you started as friends and keep lovin

[Weapon77]

The simplest way of saying it is that we get serious when we are comfortable being ourselves around you AND we have physical attraction for you. If we only are comfortable arouns you, you are a friend. If we are only physically attracted to you, you are just a possibility. None of the above? You're just another human in the world.

[mickmrly]

He might have been trying to test the waters and see if you wanted to get serious too. Women can sometimes be hard to read and perhaps he was trying to get closer without being too pushy. For myself, I try and think of what I would like in a serious relationship and pursue women who seem to hold some of those traits. Perhaps after meeting you for a while, he thought you had some really good traits and he wanted to be more than friends.

[kylee2437]

It happens. The guy I’m currently talking to I actually tried avoiding lol we met up with no intent on us talking in that way, but when you find someone you like it happens.

[Voldra]

Asking myself some questions..

"How good of a mother would she be & can I see myself with her raising a family"?

"Is she committed to family or the frivolous"?

"Can I take her home to meet mom"?

"Could I take her to a parent teacher conference & not be embarrassed"?

[Anonymous]

He can afford it, he's bored with the casual dating scene, his sex drive has become saner and the women of the age he's interested in, are JUST flipping to realise they don't have all the power any more - the wall is approaching and their sense of entitlement is moderated some what.

[Lkid23]

It is a good move by him actually. And I appreciate how he expressed his thoughts about you and wanted to be your boyfriend. If things go well, he might propose you for marriage as well. You take your time, try to know him and give your answer.


I think everything is going well. Good luck.

[Guy13]

We’re emotional too but physical first.
you’re emotional first physical second.

Good relationship meets along those paths. Be you cause we don’t want surprises 💣

[prchica2007]

We haven't even had sex yet. Or do you mean he liked me physically first, and then also realized he liked me emotionally? 🤔

[Guy13]

We do not fall in love or have any emotional attraction, in most cases, until sex or similar. Until then, don’t even care about thinking about your question. At some point, we move on before considering your question.

[DoctorSex]

They say women are looking for the right man.

Where as men are looking for the right time.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[AviatorTom]

Easy answer... when brain #1 and brain #2 both agree that this is a woman to get serious with.

[Anno2]

Same reason women want to get serious, emotions.

[Phoenix98]

1# has traits I’m looking for and I see the possibility of something long term.

2# she won me over.

[WhitneySnow]

Im not a guy but that’s easy. You grew on him 🙂.

[genericname85]

my situation in life in general and then obviously her character and looks and her situation in life.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I think time, the better you get to know him, the closer you can grow towards eachother.

[FunnyGiy]

A green flag is wanting to wait until marriage to be sexually active

[Vegasrunner]

No guy wants to be friends w/ a girl. This isn't that difficult of a concept