Should I ghost him?

[Anonymous]

I recently found out my boyfriend that he followed this girl he really liked and reason why we had a huge argument before. I forgive him after that and now, im upset that he followed her recently. He doesn't know that i found out tho. This is draining me ngl

[ohsheeT]

It's like your damned if you do and your damned if you don't so you put yourself in the middle and that's the draining part I mean it is totally draining so your choice is either just walk away or become the best girlfriend you can become you do your part and hope that he does his part because you can't control him if he's going to go out on you he's going to do it this is the part that sucks because he thinks he's going to be able to get away with it which he won't that's the reason why you feel the way that you feel right now when you're in a relationship you have to go all the way you have to understand that you cannot make anybody love you you cannot control anybody you can just be who you are and give your love and attention to this person and if he fucks you over he fucks you over that's when everything starts happening you get upset and you're more pissed off at yourself because you knew it was going to happen you have to follow your gut sometimes and if you're really really quiet and listen when you're alone the answers will come to you you know if your heart's going to be broken it's going to only be broken as long as you allow it to be broken you are the only one inside of you that can control your feelings about anything so either just take it on and say fuck it or take it on and say okay I made a commitment this is what I'm going to do if he fucks me he fucks me if he fucks me he fucks himself really that's the way I see it but I hope you're okay I know what you're going through I've been there

[MaxRobespierre]

He's not having sex with her, so what's the problem? What if told you can't hang out with any friends of yours and you can only talk to him 24/7?

[Asker]

The problem is, they were flirting before and my boyfriend fall in love with her so 🤷🏻‍♀️

[MaxRobespierre]

Then tell him if you want me then make your decision now. Just tell if you don't like me please don't waste my time. Don't ghost act like little kid telling someone to figure out themselves. Just tell him you will calmly leave if he wants to be with her.

[Anonymous]

You have every right to end things and I don’t blame you, but I’d say break up with him properly. You don’t have to hear his excuses or engage in an argument, because somehow that always makes it harder to leave and in most cases you’ll stay with him altogether. So don’t even engage that, end things, and call it a day.