We’re going on our 6th date tomorrow and he wants me to spend the night afterward. Is this too soon?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

You are going through the usual motions and you've done this all before. This is why you are asking whether it's too soon. You are connecting on the surface and you are simply doing A to get B, and he's doing C to give D. What you need to do is find a partner through God rather than doing so yourself. You know deep down this is futile and once you've been intimate everything is going to change because nothing was different from the start. This time around you've held off a bit longer with the sex but that's all.

[20yearsolder]

You tell me? Are you comfortable spending the night after six dates? It's not his decision, it's yours. If you pressures you into staying then you probably shouldn't be in this relationship. You shouldn't be dating someone that wants to manipulate you

[blondegrrl]

If you feel like it's too soon then it is too soon. Only do what feels right to you and make sure you pay attention to any red flags you see, it could be hinting at you his intentions. If he respects you and your decision whatever it is, that's a good sign.

[Asker]

He’s been really respectful up to this point and has invested a lot. He said he wants us to work toward a relationship and said I’m worth waiting for. I don’t plan to have sex, but we can do other things.

[blondegrrl]

Oh okay so that sounds good

[Asker]

Who knows maybe he established we’re exclusive and I guess I missed that LOL. We talked about relationships and he said that’s what he wants.
He just sort of mentioned he is really attracted to me as well and wanted to start to progrsss things sexually. And that we don’t have to have sex right away.

[blondegrrl]

To me I have a pessimistic view on men and don't trust a word they say so I don't know if I can help you there but I'm sure you know how you feel and if you should trust him. Before you have sex with a man they always say all the right things (they have to bc if not then they can ruin their chances with you) so it can be tricky to know if you can trust them or not in the beginning. If I were you I would just tease him sexually but not give up just yet.

[Shayyyy1]

How lo g you've been dating, it up to u to think if it's too soon or not o would wait atlest 6 months or more personally just to get to know him better and the people around him and their experiences with him. Better be safe than sorry.

[Googlemyahoo]

If you’re hesitant after the 6th date then obviously its just not there. I’ve been on dates where we went for dinner two times and felt nothing. Others part way through we were like you wanna get the cheque and go home to f.

[slatyb]

How could it be "too soon"? He wants to. Do you? In my experience most women didn't want to wait that long, but it was a few weeks for my wife and me.

[FilmGuy93]

I don't think it's too soon, personally, but if you aren't comfortable spending the night, then it's too soon.

[Light909090]

For all you know he’s been manipulating you from the Start and plans to Rape you when you spend the night.

[CountryWanderer]

That's really up to you to decide. What are your beliefs or convictions about this?

[jshm2]

Depends, is he hitting all the right flags with you?

[Anonymous]

Only you can answer that as you are the one who will deal with any consequences if any arise.

[JessJJ]

No. I always have sex on the first or second date.

[In_Trance]

Too soon?
I can't believe you waited this long

[JamesRandiDebates]

Not too soon. It's 3 or 4 dates too late.

[fothographer]

Trust your gut feeling