There are 7.96 billion people in the world. Why are people still single, feeling lonely, and depressed?

[Anonymous]

[Aerissa_Jade]

I laugh sometimes at this, cause in the US on average 50% of all people are single. That means one out of every two people you see or talk to is single.

If you are single that is some pretty good odds.

That is assuming they aren't wanting to be single by choice and love being single.

I think the main reason is people are too selective, they've limited their potential dating pool down to this tiny itty bit then complain there isn't anyone.

Think of your potential dating pool as a numbers game. For simplicity, say a 100 potential people you could date.

Most people will eliminate half simple based on looks, won't even give them a chance, keep in mind this could be hire depending how selective someone is or lower.

Now you throw in other factors that people have decided they want or don't want. Such as he/she has too many sexual partners, I want this... they just reduced it or they need to make this much money or not have a job, I want a house wife, reduced it more.

After all of that, of the original 100... someone might only have 5 left and of those 5 they also have their OWN potential dating pool and you might not be part of it.

[Asker]

I agree. We overthink, imagine, we are selective, we have a checklists, we are doing it wrong. We just need to be real, honest, socialize, meet and talk to people without expecting anything from anyone. I'm sure everyone will find true friends and true love. I'm sure people will not reject each other for their imperfections.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Exactly, I do real world social networking. By that I mean, think of it like social media. If I have a guy I date and it isn't going to work out, I say... lets just be friends, and then if I have another friend who I think is a good match, I'll offer to set them up. Hope he does the same to me too. I've done this many times and even with ex's.

In the end that is how I met my husband, through a very long line of this kind of stuff.

[Asker]

Setting up others for a date is a great job. Remember, match making is a good deed. I think we must organize free meetups on weekends for singles who are ready to mingle and boycott online dating. I still love classroom learning and work from office. But I'm still single 😔😞

[JosyJosy]

We all love complaining. Looking at ourselves, HA! Too much work! We can't be at fault, right? Impossible! So let's keep all our fixable flaws and let's go look for the best of the best of man there is. I'm sure he'll be interested in someone like us, for sure!

That along with people being too scared to make a move.

[JSmuve]

Because no one is going to meet and get to know 8 billion people in their lifetime. Also, that number includes geriatrics, children, and married people, so you can take all of those people right off the list.

[Sixgunsound]

Big pharma makes trillions of dollars from them and politicians get easier to control sheeple so both do everything in their power to keep it happening.

[Sixgunsound]

Thanks for MHO

[AsaKyo]

People are fake and not genuine anymore and only care about themselves.

[Asker]

I agree but I'm not like that.

[AsaKyo]

Never said you were.

[Asker]

Im just saying. There are few good people. I think it's ok to be imperfect but we should communicate openly and honestly. Then world will become beautiful again.

[Fuentes]

I'm single by choice I want money not these bitches

[Asker]

All girls / women are not bitches. You have to find a sweet girl. Though it's hard to find one.

[BlueScorpio]

Not branching out to others, afraid of rejection, social media replaced human interactions.

[Subarugirl]

Because being single is better than being tied to a someone you don't like or who treats you poorly.

[242plusInfinity]

Do you agree that the average human being is not trained or raised effectively to live the life they desire. I'm going off the fact that women and men desire each other in some format. If the majority of people cannot treat others well what does that say about our school system, home life, and cultures? Trained meaning made apart of habitual behavior.

[Subarugirl]

@242plusInfinity Adults are responsible for their own habits and actions... blaming someone else for who you are, the way you interact with people and the way you treat others is poor excuse and an even poorer attempt and trying to deflect responsibility.

[242plusInfinity]

Listen... Fault and responsibility are not the same thing. Tell me how is a persons self-image altered? How do you do it? Because if you don't know that then you will always be what your society/environment raised you to be. If you change it will be by pure luck absent of that knowledge.

[Subarugirl]

@242plusInfinity You are who you chose to be, change just takes time and effort and most people would rather not put in the work it takes to make those changes. Blaming external factors is cop out so that you don't have to bear the responsibility of who you chose to be.
If you want to change your self image you have to put in the effort. If you want to change your self image first you have to stop making comparisons. The #1 reason for a poor self image is comparing yourself to others.
Practice self affirmations
Change your surroundings.
If there is something about your self that you can change, then change it. If you can't, stop wasting mental energy on it.

Change is a choice, you either make the choice to change or not to change. That is entirely on you.

[242plusInfinity]

You know I'm right.
So 97% of the population choose to struggle with money to the point where they think 100k is a lot of money? While there are millionaires who cannot read nor write earning millions putting in the same or even less effort than the labor worker... I've seen 11 year olds earning millions and not due to their parents.

Fault and responsibility are not the same thing. Environment turns most people into who they are. If you're told you are stupid as a child everyday I promise you that child will come to believe it and it will be apart of their self-image.

It is their responsibility to change it, because those things are ours to own and nobody is coming back to save us, however it's their environment's fault. Your wife cheats and ruins the marriage. Her fault but it is your responsibility to pick up your life. Dad beat you like a slave growing up. You are scared of men. Not your fault but it's your responsibility to change yourself. You and I both know that is way most people grow up. That's why you have welfare recipients that are 4th 5th generation and that isn't an odd thing... You don't grow up in a French speaking household and country that solely speaks French and walk out speaking English.

This all shows that our society is not where it needs to be to produce effective human beings. 3% of the peoples are earning all the money... Most don't even earn 50k if I remember straight.

I know 99% of people don't know how to change a self-image. That's why it is such a powerful question. Because I know they don't know. All I'm saying is fault and responsibility aren't the same thing. If people treat each other awful what does that say about they whole society. What does is say that a whole race of people were forced to be slaves. You are not who you choose to be. You CAN be but 99% of the time you are who society randomly raised you to be.

[242plusInfinity]

It all a matter of lack of awareness but it is true. If everyone knew then it would be their choice. However, most don't know how and even worse they don't know that they don't know. Which means they will change only slightly as years flow by but mostly remain what their environment made them to be and what it continues to randomly mold them into. They want to be better but they don't know how.

People want LOVE. BAD. Really bad... They have the effort. The desire is there enough so they have the effort believe me. So what's the problem? They were not prepared for life. If they were they would know what the problem is and how to alter it. You can change environments all you want. You don't change the kitchen by changing the outside of the house. Sometimes It may work in the case of the self-image but it would have been purely by luck. Makeup doesn't make you confident. You allow yourself to feel confident once you put it on.

I'm not sure what this conversation is about anymore by the way. I'm just saying stuff... It was fun though.

[Subarugirl]

@242plusInfinity what millionaire can’t read or write? Who?
What 11 year old?

Anyways I am glad I was able to answer your question.

[JamesDiaz11]

Because feminism has ruined women, and multi-culturalism has destroyed any semblance we had of community.

[ZackBan]

Keep in mind half of these people are in china and india...
If you live somewhere else you're picking from far less people

[joeldalton]

Why? Because it's a cultural issue.

Social Media has replaced in-person relationships, porn provides a shallow satisfaction for human interaction. People don't want to meet their neighbors, leave the house, or expand their circles.

[Missgingles]

Because most of us are just an avarage silverfish looking for the expensive tuna.🐟

[Berethor]

I am not globalist, most of those people are not relevant to me.

[UniquelyBasic]

Their is no way to meet everyone in the world.

[242plusInfinity]

He isn't saying that. He is saying how can anyone be lonely when there are so many people. It makes no sense logically. Unless people were being picky. That would make it make sense.

[242plusInfinity]

And we know people are picky and some people are too afraid to step out and try to make friends or date.

[Adam1978]

Math, the more people there are the more likely it is that someone is single among them.

[TheUniqueOne96]

High numbers don't always mean compatible numbers.

[dustybiker]

Inability to change their self destructive ways.

[242plusInfinity]

Mind explaining?

[dustybiker]

@242plusInfinity lol It’s a broad question, so a broad reply. Most people who are unhappy or alone are a contributing part to their current situation. Own those parts and get about working on fixing the fractured pieces.

[242plusInfinity]

Yeah I think that's it and that people care who they are sitting next to.

[genericname85]

Because these people don't all live in one spot XD

[242plusInfinity]

You're lonely because you care who is next to you.

[SushiSxnpai]

it’s impossible to meet every human living on earth, let alone find one that loves you.

[242plusInfinity]

People find love all the time.

[SushiSxnpai]

@242plusInfinity It’s harder for some more than others, I guess 😂

[242plusInfinity]

I think it is because people are either too picky or never learn how to be the version of themselves that rightly deserves what they want.

[SushiSxnpai]

@242plusInfinity Yeah, I guess so. For me personally, I just can’t find someone who loves me.

[242plusInfinity]

If you aim low enough you could find someone. I'm not saying do that. Don't do that. I have the solution to your issue; I cannot say it though.

[SushiSxnpai]

@242plusInfinity I don’t really have expectations. Even with no expectations, that wouldn’t make anyone love me.

[242plusInfinity]

Men have no problem loving you. The issue is your self-image. The men are just a symptom. Self-image is something that is very deep. By yourself results you will know what your self-image is though. That's the only problem with any girl who cannot seem to someone that loves them. Now keeping that guy is another problem.

[SushiSxnpai]

@242plusInfinity What do you mean by self image?

[242plusInfinity]

Self-image is how you see yourself, on a very deep level. It is what you believe to be true or not true about yourself. Now there is more to it because that simple definition does not tell you why it is your problem. Dr. Maxwell Maltz discovered the self-image as we know it today. Uh I'm level 1 but perhaps I can leave a link that will get your started or inspired to look for the answer. As I said I'm not allowed to tell you.

youtubedotcom/clip/UgkxH1DS-OfKsSfswDRw8xbCH6wYTj9Mm-Bm

[SushiSxnpai]

@242plusInfinity Why are you not allowed to tell me?

[VanguardTitan]

Because fundamentally, not everyone is gonna find a partner. There's gonna be some people who won't find anyone.

[Juxtapose]

Loneliness is not about how many people are around you.

Bad company is more lonely than solitude.

[Anonymous]

Because girls have too high standards and won't date incels

[Subarugirl]

Are they too high or should men just do better?

[242plusInfinity]

I think most men can get girls they just can't get the ones they want. But I hear you. My friend is in med school and never even hugged a girl. He is good looking too. Dresses like a nerd but under that he is good looking.

[Opinion Owner]

Subarugirl: as I wrote, girls have too high standards.
Men are doing just fine amd are good at trying to stick to their own leagues of the dating field.

[Subarugirl]

Lol oh really. They why do I see so many of them complaing about it?

[Opinion Owner]

Because instead of dating in their own league women wants to date in leagues above them.

[Subarugirl]

Like men dont do the exact same thing...

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you can find a few men who does it if you look long enough, but its far more common with women. Otherwise there would be no standardcels.

[Subarugirl]

This place is crawling with them... all you have to do is look...

[Opinion Owner]

And how can you know for certain most guys here complaining are not in the leagues of the women they wish to date?

[Subarugirl]

and how do you know for certain that's what women are doing?

[Opinion Owner]

Otherwise I would have had a girlfriend, but every girl in my league says no

[Subarugirl]

Lol maybe they just dont like you...
But of course it would be their fault, it couldn't possibly be because of you...
If no one in your perceived " league" want's you then you are reaching out of your league or your desirable traits do not out weigh your undesirable ones.

[Opinion Owner]

If I were doing that I think I would have known it, as I'm me. I know my league. You were the one asking me if girls standards really are too high after my first comment on this question

[Subarugirl]

That was a rhetorical question...

[TroyDT]

Too many people get stuck on one person, aka one-itis.

[maximumpower]

Single does not equate to lonely and depressed.
This same question pops up every week on this forum.

[MountAverage]

Because many people are not capaple of being a caring partner.

[Staximus]

Because they are poor communicators with no social skills

[rabbitzzz]

Being left on read.