im not appealing to women at all
wow that's very specific and organized
She put a lot of thought into this one.
I have to say that I disagree with the one about STDs. The other points are good, though.
Yes. I know many are happy to be single.. I’m thinking of all the lonely people 😊
Yeah, true that. Some are pretty lonely😩
I like to explore the world as well. But I think it could be fun doing it with a friend.
Oh definitely. I've been places by myself and when i bring a friend along back to that same place, I have much more fun
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I think more people are just looking for fuckbuddies rather than relationships these days.
@Silver158 That too.
@Silver158 I think people lost hope / don't believe in relationships anymore and they go for the next best thing, which is fuckbuddies..
@LolaPop756 I think it's more that people are really only interested in fulfilling their own wants and needs rather than having to deal with the needs and wants of another person. So a fuckbuddy is the better option in that sense.
@LolaPop756 Agree. Modern women have positioned themselves so that they don't have much to offer aside from sex.
@KrakenAttackin This actually is really true.
@KrakenAttackin how do I like your opinion? lol
@Silver158 Yeah, the truth hurts for women, but it is true. Women position themselves as nothing more than sexual objects with no intellect, no substance, nothing to talk about, and nothing more than the next female who comes along. In return, men are supposed to provide everything of substance in the relationship.Women want to marry but they don't want to be wives.Women want to have children but they don't want to be mothers. Why would a man want this in a female except for sex? I know I am done with these women.
@KrakenAttackin why do you care so much about modern day? You are 40 year old. Go fucking care about your kzd than women
@hi_it_is_me123 well, I mean... he still lives in the modern day.
Yeah but he always complain about modern women. Just dont date. He is pissed that his partner left him. No wonder why he is single due to his attitude
@KrakenAttackin "Women want to marry but they don't want to be wives." - This here is a bomb of truth. Plus women on dating sites especially match what you said.
im just unattractive and low self esteem
That is why now days couples choose lease homes. Prefer adopt a puppy and leased vehicles. Or just stay single and have fuck buddies.
@Walt832 if you lease something. don't put both peoples names on it. becomes they can both lay claim to it if you slit up.also rental lease with both peoples names on it. makes it harder to kick someone out. but if they leave they can leave you stuck with the bill to pay.
once your name is on a piece of legally binding paperwork and you signed it. your then legally liable for it.
@Reaperbot666 🤦♂️yup that is right.
also a standard prenup only lasts for roughly 5-10 years on average.
Lol Not taking themselves seriously and not being realistic seconded in my opinion only by bad location and bad luck Hard to sympathized with your friends predicament though lol 😊😁
Yes true. Many don’t want a partner. I guess I’m thinking of all the lonely single people.
Everyone should have their boundaries respected.
Yeah but I figure with the numbers.. there kist he matches.
Probably def one factor 😊
Yeah I suppose out of day a billion who seek partners.. a great many may match but they can be on opposite ends of the world. And also compromise. I think location and compromise are probably the biggest factors.
Yes it does the development and culture of the country also matters you are right
Oh certainly!I didn’t mean everyone needs or wants a partnerI meant if those who really really DOI agree though taking ones self seriously and making an effort is super important. I don't know if I believe in fate 🤔 I Like the idea - but I don't know 😁☺️
It's not fate but more luck.Everyone gets a partner in his own time and pace.If your friend is getting engaged doesn't mean you need to be engaged now too.So that's a bit the fate aspect.You can't control when it happens and you can't dictate how it will go. You just need to be open about the prospects and work on your well being as you go through life.I am in my first relationship, I don't even know if this is the one for sure.
Definitely a very good point. 😊
When I worked in a grocery store i was surrounded by girls and several of them wanted to date, its funny when girls are single they start shopping but I've been in a “manly” career, auto mechanics and now semi truck driving and havnt had a date since
So surround yourself with members of the opposite sex as often as possible and eventually one will slip into your life
This is 110% why I'm single. (No social life) but I dont know how to change it. It seems that if someone didn't maintain the friends they had from their high school years then your doomed. :(
Definitely. very good point! 😊
I think with all the people looking if probably has a lot to do with location luck and being reasonable 😊
I think luck and location are pro snot list dominantProbably seconded by Not taking yourself seriously or being realistic I wish you luck 🍀🍀🍀
The other problem out there is there aren’t that many level headed women like you out there
I’m sorry to hear that. Are there maybe activities you could get involved in that you enjoy or volunteering?
You said famine. Was that a typo? Did you mean females?
@Jamie05rhs "A famine is a widespread scarcity of food, caused by several factors including war, inflation, crop failure, population imbalance, or government policies. This phenomenon is usually accompanied or followed by regional malnutrition, starvation, epidemic, and increased mortality. Wikipedia"
@Kinogo I know what a famine is. What would a famine be trying to gain courtship with? The Amazon rainforest?
@Jamie05rhs It would be asking why animals in the wild try to reproduce? I'm not an expert but u can search it up.
@Kinogo You're not making any sense at all.
@Jamie05rhs sorry. in short just saying that "Some people don't want to date due to trauma/not their priority in life/enjoying their single life/busy in the industrial world (their job)/are struggling socially/they don't want to and are happy." and that jobs opened a new priority in life for people other than courtship.
I think location is probably the list dominant obstacle. Probably seconded by luck of meeting. Third taking ones self seriously. Goes with effort.Fourth Willingness to compromise Timing I guess goes with luck
I don’t disagree 😊
Yes. I think location is likely one of the dominating factors/ obstacles.
But it doesn't have to be!
@Jamie05rhs do tell? How do you think distance, geographically isn't a problem? Please?
@JackSmy It's called moving. (Or maybe we've had this conversation before. Lol)
@Jamie05rhs It's tough for some, established where they are, and then moving across the world, just having some online love.
@JackSmy I understand. For me, though, I haven't been established anywhere yet. And I don't intend to anytime in the near future. I just want to remain flexible and go where the opportunities take me until I meet the one I'm meant to be with.
I can understand them not clicking with some or many But not at all.. theses difficult to accept.
But I don’t disagree 😊
they aslo gotta be at the same place at the same time XD
Yes. It needs an all of the above optionVery good point. But it seems like if people take themselves more seriously they won’t simply window shop. I don’t disagree 😊
I did that a few times too 😀 🙌
@DizzyDesii not in core values but otherwards opppisitewise... #yestheydo
Yes; it is beautiful!
Me too same
@ovixs90 damm dude the struggle is real. :^(
I meet same best girls far away or they just can't keep up conversation ot something is wrong with them
Oh yeah same dude it's annoying.
Same for me except for the last part
I didn't think the question was pretentious, but I do agree with all of your points.
This is the only answer we need lol.
"It is a question meant to stimulate discussion.. Of which it has. You are entitled to your opinion of course, yet I don’t see how the word “Pretentious” fits in any way at all, with my question. Neither the content nor the incentive nor the intention. It was a very earnest question. Inspired by some conversations I was having with lonely friends, whom I hold in high esteem. Care to elaborate? ( I would write this to you directly but as you know you blocked me before I could respond.) @ VIVANT"
Hmm well if the really good looking people don’t want an actual relationship then normal people should walk away if they really want a relationshipI think that goes under not taking yourself seriously/ lack of effort If you mean the 10 are pretending to want something but taking off once bored. .. that’s a dilemma. I guess people need to be more discerning which I guess again Goes with effortBut you raise a good pointEven if I misunderstood it (?) 😊
I live in the middle of nowhere, there are few people near me in general, no pubs/bars within walking distance. On PoF, the closest person is usually at least 15 miles away and it feels like I have swiped on everyone within 50 miles on various apps.
@Shark_61695 Yes a lot of people live really far from civilization or in areas with very small population.. it lessens or basically Wipes out regular meeting random people. And even online its like sureeee I’ll travel three hits for coffee 😐
@likelyOK There are a LOT of people who live in small towns. And in a lot of cases those areas just don't have a lot of young single people. Because they either got married already or they moved away for better opportunities and stayed away.
@Shark_61695 I'm responding collectively to all of you, it save time then answer each one. Thank you for your responses, yeah that would be super hard and a motivation to move. Someone once told me it might be hard to find the type of guy I am looking for in my area, and I was confused, like does that mean move closer to the city or out of the midwest, I mean there are lots of people here.
I agree with this 😊
No. But there being such large numbers you’d think they could sort it out. Big pool.
I think the big dating pool makes it harder for a lot of people. The mentality that there are plenty of fish in the sea has them looking for the perfect match which they won’t ever find because… well, we are humans.
It’s possible. I guess I just think at some point for people who claim they would give anything for a Partner.. pickiness would take a back seat.Or maybe they don’t really mean it. I doubt with any relationship people don’t compromise at all. I wonder if single people ( who want someone) have greater difficulty compromising. Maybe more single people area hopeless romantics Though I’m guessing location is probably the biggest hurdle. Like yeah out of a billion many probably would Match. But some of tide marches are like India- Germany.. And they never meet.
There is a difference with claiming to give up anything for a partner and actually being willing to do it. Giving up your own independence would be a difficult thing to do. I also think that the longer someone has been single the harder it is to compromise. I know that is true in my case more often than not. But yeah, there have got to be a lot of factors that go into so many people’s inability to date. The way relationships are portrayed in movies, TV shows and video games sure doesn’t help. It leads to romanticizing the idea of dating and being in a relationship without actually dealing with the relationship itself. And yeah, distance is an issue when looking at how many potential matches there are. But hey, there are still people who fly half way across the world to be with someone they met online.