How are there so many Single People, when there SO MANY single people? (Page 2)

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I meet so many awesome people who are really lonely.. Why can't they just find each other 🤔😐😔 💕🍀🍀🍀

Anonymous · Answer

it all boils down to hypergamy and how few men are attractive versus nearly all if not all women. if we consider sexual activity the top 5-19% of males is having more than before while all others are having less and about a third of millennials are celibate, which is more than men in their fifties, meaning that this is the first time in history young men do it less than old men. i hate to agree with jordan peterson or christians but it all comes down to hypergamy, hook-up culture and decreased male health (namely testosterone levels, essential in making men attractive)

Tiffany27 · Answer

Bad timing. I’ve stopped initiating conversations with guys because they are always already taken. So I let guys be the ones to first approach me and flirt. That didn’t help either because the only ones flirting are the ones already in relationships.

cth96190 · Answer

Because I was clean cut, career focused, dressed well, liked restaurants, theate and classical music and was looking for a wife, not casual sex.
I also passed the Mensa test when I was 16.
All of that made me socially awkward, boring and an arsehole... so I was told.
When I was young, females would have rather thrown themselves beneath a train than been with me.

JKingOff · Answer

It's not just about finding each other, it's about being at the same level when you do. It's highly likely that you could have already met your life partner, or soulmate and then hit it off because he weren't yet at the same level of Life experiences to have a proper understanding of each other enough to support an actual relationship.

AmtgardJean · Answer

All of the above. I have had numerous opportunities in the past when I was single that I didn't take due to self esteem issues. I have had a lot of missed opportunities due to where I live. Bad luck has hit me. I have not put forth the effort into making myself look good. And on and on.

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

i think it could be because... getting to know one another enough to develop an opinion... that's enough to risk direct rejection takes time... at least for me XD... maybe they just too shy... or not the right topics on the table for they both to talk about at once... or we still getting over the last one... or we friendzone eachother until further notice...

FatherJack · Answer

G other in my own case , single by choice. No negativity towards women , I have 2 daughters after all , I simply have little need for people , esp the older I get , a greatly faded Male Curse & also I can happily go without physical contact with other humans. I consider these factors to be a HUGE blessing , esp as a man. I believe a lot more women than men are single by choice.

funride74 · Answer

To meet people means going out, being active and not only in job life. It needs willingness, effort and being prepared to face some drawbacks here and there. Tinder and others won't replace all this. The partnership will take place in real life and a chat or quarrel can't be just switched off if convenience

Anonymous · Answer

How are normal people supposed to compete with really good looking people when they don't have to settle down? As a 10 can go from one relationship to the next with little effort and monopolize the single market place.

winterfox10 · Answer

I think bad timing is most of it. People have busy lives, and I have noticed that everyone always thinks they have more time than they really do. People also figure that because of how many choices they have; they can wait to find someone when their life situation is more stable.

The6ix · Answer

Lack of commitment, fear because of past experiences, fear of rejection, this stupid age of fucking as many people as possible and “having fun” by being dishonest and heartbreaking purposefully is just acts of immaturity. That’s why i believe more people are single.

Splintercell · Answer

Part of the problem is all these social media sites and dating apps. People don’t meet face to face. We’re able to paint a “perfect” picture of ourselves on these sites. However, the reality is different than what is perceived.
Also many other factors come to mind. What are the persons goals in a relationship? My goal is marriage, hers might be friends with benefits. The maturity level as well.

crazy8000 · Answer

A bunch of different reasons.
1. How society is.
2. Them.
3. Others.
4. Bad timing
5. Looking in the wrong places if at all.
6. Doesn't take initiative.
7. Location.
8. Scare people away. (same as nr 2 )

And a lot of sub groups on 1 - 7

OddBeMe · Answer

Bc everyone is looking for perfect without knowing what it means.

the_sinner · Answer

All of the above in addition to a million other reasons. Everyone has a different and unique reason.

WalkingCorpse · Answer

Personally its a mix of things. I've been lonely basicaly my whole life lead me to depression then low self esteem then to bad attitude then it lead me to put 0 effort in finding someone and now i just accepted it because at the end we only have our selves I've already got comfortable being alone

Bman4907 · Answer

In general, it's only about what you can offer them. Both sides have some how adopted the "what can you do for me" attitude and it's bullshit. Looks has always been a factor whether you accept it or not, so it's not a new thing. I guess people are annoyed at settling for a great 7 when they could get an okay 8.

seanras · Answer

People are just more picky these days in picking the one partner. Earlier sleeping around was a big no in society, even frowned upon for men. Today it isn't, and more people are financially independent - so they hesitate to tie themselves to one person.

I've also seen my generation is particularly bad at reconciliation. So after a fight, people can't just see past that and like another person again.

Geminiheart69 · Answer

I can't even vote, I just have to agree with the question.. LMAO

KrakenAttackin · Answer

With all the "Friends With Benefits" there is no need for "relationships".

Iron_Man · Answer

I am a lonely white male seeking out a professional lonely white female that works as a Lawn woman to have stimulating intelligent conversations with on GAG

JamesDylan1990 · Answer

I’m single cause I had a stroke and girls don’t wanna deal with it and the all love over an hour away the ones that are interested so I’m from such a small area there’s just not much in the way of dating everyone has kids or married or divorced And I just don't want kids Etc etc

SaiyenBloodd · Answer

I happen to choose guys who are no good for me, I’m trying to learn to choose better men. I’ve wasted a lot of time With relearionships that went no where. I’m a hopeless romantic and blame myself for having rose coloured glasses

Dargil · Answer

The "dating" scene has become a battlefield. Moral restraint has disappeared and replaced by social trends that make it downright dangerous. The hookup culture and also MGTOW and "Incels" have emerged from this.

Freddy78361 · Answer

People are all caught up with themselves. Relationships are sharing, giving, learning, and coming to what is best for both. Today with online porn and swiping people feel they don't have to compromise.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, most single women want to be single and are enjoying it. So that rules them out. And then another big chunk are demanding more from men in a time when everyone is telling men they don’t need to carry the team anymore.

So there’s a disproportionate number of men who aren’t accepted and a disproportionate number of women who don’t want them.

Then politics and cultural differences even among natives and neighbors in the same society.

thatsall_ · Answer

How about shitty dating sites? Holy shit, they ruined everything about dating! Seems like nobody wants to connect in person anymore.

blutwolfe · Answer

kinda stopped looking, I'm done dating, just general incompatibility with most women. What I'm looking for is just a thing of the past, so I'll just accept my death when it comes in the next few years

AspiringArtist · Answer

All of the poll options for me I’m afraid. Plus bad looks but I guess that’s what other is for. I don’t know. I’m 23, never had a girl and I honestly can’t see it happening either. With this corona shit I can’t even try but I’m just using that as an excuse because I know I wouldn’t try if I could. As soon as I start talking to a attractive girl I start finding myself creepy. Guess that’s where the looks part comes in.

GraveDoll · Answer

location i think is the biggest issue i see. not to get too deep and offend some people it very hard to meet people you can "ID" with in a lot locations.

Suwi-lanji · Answer

What we don't realize is that there's a lot of "single broken "people out there, and finding someone that's sane.. that knows where their peace is and pairing up with them can only led to a another failed relationship.. that's why most people prefer being single...

Smf1989 · Answer

Bad timing and bad location and people have to many deal breakers

Anonymous · Answer

It reminds me, one dating and relationship coach, who has now entered politics, she feels we are currently in a dating and romance apocalypse, she specifically states that there are more singles today than ever before, marriage is on the decline, the birth rate is at the lowest point in US history.

ecfresh · Answer

Many can’t find chemistry with someone else

Pappy1955 · Answer

It all of the above & none of the above, When there's a lot of competition one has to up to the A-game as they say,

AlienParasite · Answer

Beign both single doesn't mean they are compatible. It requires having hobbies or likes in common, similar values, good self esteem and compatible future plans for a relationship to work fine.

Being_a_good_Indian · Answer

I would say that it's because of attitude of person who pretend that he/she has lot of work and don't have time. Some people have low/high confidence because of which their luck don't shines.😂😊🤔🙃

6Se7eN8 · Answer

Humans just need to be real. I mean just imagine, it's the last day on earth, you're gonna die tomorrow and that's the last time you get to love somebody. Be effin yourself! Let someone know your fears and weakness and what makes you unique. Nobody has time for petty games, especially the people who deserve a serious relationships! At least, that's what I think 🤷‍♂️

virtue2332 · Answer

I'm a firm believer that its because everyone is focused on finding what's wrong with a person instead of focusing on all the things that they like in a person.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

A very good question, actually. I've been lonely for years and I still don't know how to meet people without already having people through whom I could meet people.

goodlongman · Answer

Many people have unrealistic expectations... no one can make you happy or feel good about yourself... marriage is 2 imperfect people who are more happy together than appart. Its a commitment to work out things together reguless of the issue

DanaeAdam5 · Answer

Cause no one wants to date nowadays people don't put enough effort in their relationships bad attitude

angeliquedevereux2 · Answer

Easy answer, just because they're single, doesn't mean they're compatible

Orange_bb · Answer

Because there's a lot of fuckbuddy out here and people make the things they want, not want to get a relationship and struggle with ir

sensible27 · Answer

Because there are not many reasons to be with someone? And because even if they seem justifiable in their own right, they still will not be compatible?

lynn20012019 · Answer

All of those are the reasons for many people but I think it is usually two of those things. Bad self esteem and bad effort. For many people, the way they feel makes them think they are unable to be that involved with someone.

Luna1998 · Answer

I think I am just in the wrong place at the wrong time... maybe

answerseeker127 · Answer

Cause people fucking suck, and most choose to be alone and happy

Agape93 · Answer

Because not everyone is compatible with anyone

Anonymous · Answer

Because we're less harmful to one another co existing than being close

Aarvagol · Answer

Because everyone has conditions list and different expectations from their partners, and everyone try to find what they need to fulfill their self satisfaction

firefly02 · Answer

Most of them never spoke at the right time. Some never spoke at all, some left heartbroken, some too busy to love, and rest are in so enlightened that they are no longer attached to worldly pleasures! 😉

Lman3000 · Answer

Uh where's the all of the above button? But seriously who knows my friends and family ask all the time and like you I don't know why I'm single maybe god put a curse on my ass cause I refuse to follow religion.

Avicenna · Answer

All of the above, but mostly bad location

JDavid25 · Answer

Cause men and women are startin to act funny toward each other. Simply put. We don't appreciate each other enough.

hsshannah96 · Answer

Fear of sexual coercion, fear of disrespect and selfishness, lots of things

Mellontikos · Answer

Girls choose when to be in a relationship, and they have not been choosing 90% of the men available.

elisa_0 · Answer

People wanna find the “one” even tho there’s no “one” person. it’s multiple! also many people can’t get over their ex

Benjr134 · Answer

I feel that social media has made a lot of us cynical. Also we see people through a different lens. We also see a lot more of other people’s lives. This makes us covet their life and so we increase our standards to unbelievable proportions.

Adam1978 · Answer

No good way to naturally meet. So social structure.

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