How can there be billions of people in the world and I’m still single?

[Pink934]

I’ve been single now for over a year. I work pretty much constantly so my only option is online dating.

Don’t know how many times now I’ll start talking to a guy and it either fizzles within a few weeks, he stops replying or he comes on far too strongly that it puts me off entirely. Not to mention the pool of guys to choose from that are actually semi-decent is narrow.

I’ve been praying to God to show me who my husband will be, but I’m starting to think I might end up living life alone.

Any tips? What am I doing wrong?

[HighValue]

Being past 30 and thinking you will get a good quality man to be legitimately interested in you for long term was the biggest mistake.

You should first figure out what good qualities you have (Not imaginary ones, but be honest with yourself), then figure out what drawbacks there are for someone to date you. After that, then be realistic about finding a guy that is on your level, NOT men that are FAR above your level/quality which is what most women look for and can't find.

For example, 6' + is less than 14.5% of the population. That isn't even considering how many of them are actually still single, just that they exist at all. It also isn't considering how many are criminals, druggies, etc. So the actual percent available is MUCH lower. So just from ONE rare trait, that means the woman needs to be better than 85% of the other women. Then if she wants him to have a certain income, or have blue/green eyes, etc. he will be less than 2% of the population. Is she better than 98% of the women?

Be realistic about who you actually qualify for when looking for a partner. That is the main problem for most women. They want someone FAR above their level.

I hope that helps.

[Pink934]

There should be quality men above 30. I’m not talking 6’ tall, amazing job and blue eyes. I’m talking by someone with morals, a good character and genuinely good qualities. Someone that can be a man and knows how to have a two way respectful relationship.

[HighValue]

There are good quality men that are above 30, but they have many options and it is highly unlikely they would choose someone past 30. Men with good morals, good character, etc. are not valued unless they also have looks, money, etc. The only women that would want the ones without looks are the women that ran out of options themselves.
The only way I could see a woman past 30 having a chance with a morally good attractive man is if he was a single father so he doesn't care about raising a healthy family from the start with a new partner. Even then, she would have to have a good moral past without casual sex, posting revealing pictures online, no contact with exes, not covered with tattoos, not be 50+ pounds overweight, etc.

[Pink934]

Whatever, I’ll just be alone then 👍🏻

[Ask105]

Same things happen with me im looking for a Christian woman been working on myself most of adult life because women only love a man for what he can offer to her its never unconditionally also if thats the case he doesn’t want you to be with just anyone if you see a guy you look show some interest in him all i can tell i personally would never be offended if a woman said she likes me just keep trying like me and i never seen a woman choose a good man and stay with him so i know it exist i won't change myself for someone validation i actually don't talk to women on text i scheduled a date immediately now check in every 2 or 3 days because she can form what she thinks out of me before she knows me

[goaded]

Good luck to you both.

[Vevv123]

There is nothing wrong with being single, no man is going to come save you from whatever you think you need to be saved from. Learn to love yourself and learn to value your life, love will come naturally. If you continue obsessing over finding a husband as if that’s the only important thing in the world, you will always be very disappointed because good things aren’t meant to be quick and easy, and some people just never end up finding someone, and if you’re constantly agonized by it, you will stagnate in your life by focusing on the wrong things.

[Nikki1989]

For many people, it is what is known as the “paradox of choice.” Instead of making a decision, they feel frozen or constantly wonder if there's a “better” person just around the corner. In most cases, there isn't. Life is short; you have to make some moves or you will wind up just another bitter, miserable sod on gag.

[ohsheeT]

Because your not ready yet. You can say you are. But your blocking some how

[Pink934]

Thanks that could be very true actually!

[ohsheeT]

This might sound silly. But if you dont get out much .. you should try role playing it can be anything you want, role-playing being in a relationship, and start experiencing what it might feel like or go through. Maybe that way you will be a little more prepared . And not afraid of the ups and downs of them

[WonderingManII]

@Pink934 I don't think you are doing anything wrong, I just think this world is going to crap.

[Pink934]

Thanks 😊

[jahaims]

If you can't find a good guy by 33 you made a lot of mistakes

[Pink934]

Life happens 🤷🏻‍♀️ I had a good guy once and I messed up.

[TonyMetal___86]

There are many people who are single, i've been single for 11 years!

[Anonymous]

Seriously? Do you even read any of your questions?😆😆😆

[Pink934]

Too much of a coward that you can’t show your identity? Thought so.

[goaded]

"I’ve been praying to God"

[Pink934]

That’s right, the Almighty Creator

[goaded]

Yes, that's why you're single.

[Pink934]

For believing in a supreme being? I don’t think so. Every creation has a designer or creator, that can’t be denied.