Im dating an 45 years old. He's sweet and really cares about me unlike my ex. But my parents don't like I'm dating an older man what I should do?

[Ginger1907]

[OlderAndWiser]

You parents are thinking that if the relationship DOES last, when 30 years from now, you will be 53 and he will be 75 (if he is still alive.) They may also be thinking about the fact that if you got married and had a child in four years, then the father would be 67 when the kid graduates from high school. There are many such consequences of signficant age gaps in relationships.

[Avicenna]

Well, you are an adult and make your own decisions now, but I get the feeling that you want their approval.

Having dated some much younger women, I can tell you that parents rarely approve of it. The general advice I give when parents are unenthusiastic about a partner is for the partner to be respectful and polite and of course treat you well. Over time, that may win them over.

Much of the negative feelings are related to the thought of what happens when he gets old decades down the line. Who knows if you're still together then, what your health will be like or even if either of you is alive then. Those are all unknowns. If you like him, enjoy your time with him now.

[Anonymous]

That is up to you. You were given a brain for a reason. If that’s what makes you happy than enjoy it. I can see why your parents would feel that way but again that’s your life so long as you’re not doing something illegal. Just realize the age difference when you’re 40, he will be almost 70 or so.

[EaterPeter]

He is double your age. Ask parents how old is too old? What is more tolerable more age, disrespectfulness or abusiveness? How was my ex boy friend? Does he makes money? How much? Not that I care. Does he have car. Does he owns house.

[Ginger1907]

My ex didn't work. He ask me for money so I can take care of him. That's why we broke up. He live with his parents.

[EaterPeter]

Good point to debate with parents.

[EaterPeter]

If you wish too and if that's an option.

[EaterPeter]

there is an option *

[EaterPeter]

That is a good option.

[EaterPeter]

Can you and parents debate in civil manners.

[EaterPeter]

? Mark *

[Guy13]

He's not just older, right... double your age. Your parents age? Have your parents and him met?

[Mangospacho]

You’re grown up. You can date whoever you like. Your parents are going to have their opinion no matter what.

[Twalli]

Have they met him. If he really treats you well, they will probably be happier. People who care about you want a SO who treats you the way you deserve

[Zolly99999]

You need to do what's right for you and makes you both happy. If other people don't like it that too bad for them.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Your parents are right. He's way too old for you.

[Luckycharms12]

Of course they aren't happy old enough to be your dad ya his nice no future in it

[exitseven]

you are an adult. Do what is best for you.

[Wise4myage]

You do what’s right for you.

[SensualMan27]

Tell them to fuck off

[eagle1951]

do what makes you happy

[panamared1]

It is you not them