I'm in love with a man 19 years older than me. My family hates him because of the age gap. How can I show them he's still the right guy for me?

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Im in love with a man 19 years older than me. My family hates him because of the age gap. How can I show them hes still the right guy for me?
I'm dating a guy 19 years older than me (I'm 22, he's 41). We've been dating for four months. It's the best relationship I've ever had. After countless failed relationships, I finally found someone who loves and cares for me like no one ever has before! He's the first guy I've ever been with who is actually truly and fully committed to our relationship. He's super loyal, funny, smart, and makes me feel extremely loved. He also makes me feel more desirable than any other guy and is drastically better in bed than any of my other exes. I know it's a big age gap, but the only ways it manifests itself are that he's more mature, more committed, doesn't play games, and knows what he wants in life (all very good things).
However, my friends and family are not supportive of the relationship. They assume that he's just a creep who has nothing in common with me and is only interested in me because of some younger woman/Asian fettish (I'm Asian and he's white)/he just wants me for sex. They assume that he's controlling me or that the power dynamic is skewed. As we get more serious my parents get worried about him not wanting kids. However, I feel more compatible and equal with him than any other guy I've been with. He's never once been controlling and has only ever been supportive of my goals. I actually did all the initiating when it came to sexual activity at first (I still initiate at least half the time) so he's not in it just for sex. Also, the other women he was with were around his age and white. Also, he has said he would be interested in having more kids if/when we get there.
However, even though I've told my family this many, many times they still hate him because they can't understand the concept that an older man can genuinely truly love a much younger woman and have a great relationship with him. How can I get my family to see that I have a healthy, happy relationship with my boyfriend (who happens to be much older than me)?
I'm in love with a man 19 years older than me. My family hates him because of the age gap. How can I show them he's still the right guy for me?
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