Anonymous(36-45)+1 yI'm not black, but I can probably offer some kind of perspective.
There have been times I've been captivated by a black woman. There are some really attractive ones out there. The thing is, a lot of them have these mannerisms/attitudes that can be rather off-putting.
I'm talking specifically (and generally) about American, city black women, mind you. Many immigrant black women are not like this.
Maybe it's the way they talk that seems too forward or strong, maybe it's the Ebonics or a combination of the two. But when I look at a very attractive black woman that I might actually fancy, as soon as she starts talking, her attractiveness level plummets almost to zero. Maybe it's the culture and harsh conditions they were brought up in, that they sort of had to adopt this strong identity in order to survive. Who knows...
I don't know if black men really "HATE" black women, but I feel like black women need to be a little more graceful and feminine. Because I think a lot of them are lacking femininity, which is probably the most important feature a woman should naturally have.02 Reply
Asker+1 yI agree black women definitely should be more feminine but look at the communities they live in. Is that a place for a princess to be a princess?
Opinion Owner+1 yYeah, that's what I was thinking. It's really unfortunate.
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+1 yI'm white and dated a black woman for many years. The only time I ever saw black men hate on her was because she was dating a white man. A lot of them were real racists! They used to shout nasty things at her when we were on the streets of the city like calling her a "ho" for being with a white man. Sick people!
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Asker+1 yWow that's sad
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Yeah, it really was. I felt really bad for here when they did that because it made her very upset... scared and embarassed.
1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. I've only noticed hate online.
In real life I see a whole lot of love ❤️
My black guy friends keep bugging me about being with a black man. 🤷🏾♀️
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+1 yWell, from what I have noticed a lot of black men aren't fond of black women.
Always running towards non black women and speaking ill of their own black women. It's just weird and biaaze.
It's like they hate themselves and project that self hatred towards their own black women.05 Reply
Asker+1 yThey definitely do project their self hatred.
Asker+1 yGlad you have noticed that I've never felt insecure about my skin features or hair until coming across the self hating ones.
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You can tell. Watch them get money through sports and music... their women around 75% of time is a non black women but you hardly see rich or success men with women not their own race except black men.
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*other men
Asker+1 ySo true there are only a few black successful men who marry black. Lebron, Denzel, ice cube, Morris, will, idris. Other than that...
Yea it seems to be pretty common, though most of them still end up dating black women.
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Asker+1 yNot dating them means they hate them?
Asker+1 yDo you agree with what they say or is it just bashing and generalizing?
Asker+1 yPlease do tell me what they say
681 opinions shared on Dating topic. We may not like their attitudes at times, but that doesn't mean we HATE them. If anything I'm more convinced that a bunch of black women don't really like us (not all, but a bunch). They just tolerate us. Based off their attitudes towards us.
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Asker+1 yDo bw dress up as bm and promote harmful stereotypes like Martin, Jamie foxx, Wayans brothers, and etc do
Asker+1 yDo bw tell bm they are the most unattractive race of men and how the need to be more like white men?
Asker+1 yDo bw uplift unattractive fat white men and downplay fat bm?
Asker+1 yDo Black women rob, murder, and torture the women and children in the community?
Asker+1 yWho hates who?
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I was talking about the dating atmosphere. You're bringing up a whole bunch of other stuff outside of the topic at hand. Now clearly you are triggered by this but it's the truth. A lot of times the way they talk to us is in a very disrespectful and degrading fashion. And again, if you read my original post I said a bunch, not all. And I never said that we hated black women. We just find their ATTITUDES to be unattractive, which ties in to what you were referring to that they are told they are the most unattractive race of women. Well a big reason for that is because bm tend to have the biggest attitudes, which is a major turn off. But instead of trying to fix that you blame the men, so men respond with, "Alright, fine. You wanna cast all the blame on us and not improve, that's fine. That's within you prerogative. But I am just gonna get away from you and find someone else who isn't like that." And another thing, it seems like you are very triggered with your responses, but you can't expect to like every answer you hear to a question you have. So if you don't wanna hear the honest answers to something, then don't ask the question.
Asker+1 yBecause how does bw attitudes trump the drop out rates and murder rates? How is attitude even brought up when we are speaking about hatred?
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You're talking about two different things here with the murders and drop out rates. We're talking about dating standards here, not community acts. You wanna talk about the drop outs and the murders, then then you posted this in the wrong topic section on gag. This is sectioned under dating so we're gonna assume it's about dating standards. If you wanna talk about that other stuff then post it in the society and politics topic section. So I'm gonna stick with the dating standards since that's what you initiated this question with. And as I've said before... WE. DO. NOT. HATE. BLACK. WOMEN. We are just turned off by your attitudes. Make sense now?
Asker+1 yIt wasn't supposed to be under dating and you don't hate bw. You are just one out of the bunch that do, and yes it makes sense
+1 yAhhhh yes they have such a huge rivalry, started in 1952 I believe over claims on property ownership
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+1 yNone of my black friends hate black women. Do you know of many black men who hate black women?
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Asker+1 yYes I do actually they have hate groups on FB solely for hating black women and let other races of men join in as well.
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That's wild, I'm sorry that's a thing. There are tons of guys who do like black women, so I would ignore the ones that don't
Asker+1 yAbsolutely.
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+1 yA lot of "Black" dudes out there are just confused. But certainly not all.
00 Reply 2.9K opinions shared on Dating topic. I don't know because I'm not black, but the black dudes I know mostly like black girls. I like black girls just as much as any other type of girl, though.
00 Reply2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. Don't be stupid.
You're aware Africa and has a growing population, right?
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+1 yI'm a black man and trust me I love black woman
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