Why do guys ask in depth questions about a girl’s ex?

[Anonymous]

As well as what qualities she likes in a guy and what qualities she liked about her ex that attracted her to him initially.

[Avicenna]

I don't think it's normal for guys to do that, but if you've experienced that, I suspect that he's just trying to figure out if he's your type.

[Asker]

So, you’re saying that he wants a relationship with me but he doesn’t want to make the same mistake as my ex that caused the break up to occur?

[Avicenna]

That's a possible angle, but I think he's particularly concerned with compatbility

[Asker]

Being compatible with me?

[Avicenna]

Yeah

[Asker]

You mean his comparing himself to my ex for that reason too? To be more compatible with me?

[Avicenna]

Well, seeing if he is compatible with you. I don't subscribe to the idea that the last person you dated was you "type", but some people do.

[Asker]

There’s a reason as to why he was my ex, so in that case, you are correct.

[FilmGuy93]

He's trying to get an idea about how he lines up and what he might be able to do differently.

[Asker]

So, you’re saying that he wants a relationship with me but he doesn’t want to make the same mistake as my ex that caused the break up to occur?

[FilmGuy93]

Could be. I don't know that it goes that deep, but it's certainly possible.

[Asker]

Probably does. Lately we have been seeing each other once a week.

[likelyOK]

I’m not sure I e ever had this experience usually they don’t want to hear about your ex

[Asker]

This is unique lol.