Why would a guy talk to you about his ex and then ask about your ex?

[Anonymous]

Like, he keeps asking me why girls act a certain way as well and if we can sense a guy’s intentions or not.

[Maybe_1day]

In some case it's different. Although I have self confidence etc, I do sometimes ask for various reasons. You may call it a form of validation, some tend to say that they just wanna know if they are better in comparison. Some wanna know so they are more different, be it loving wise, see wise so on. I often ask when we have discussions about sexual stuff, and the reason is maybe to know what else she has experienced and to get a hint if she would like to try things with me etc. Maybe I just don't want her to try something with me if she did it before and has not enjoyed it etc. It sucks but it is what it is. And for u, i really cannot say exactly why but review the patterns. When he asks, in what area (love, caring, sex, past experiences) etc. If u feel you're a rebound, u do need to know when exactly his previous relationship has ended. If it hasn't been a long time, then yeah, u may be a rebound and he is just asking you things to discover why his ex ended. To understand female mindset.

[Asker]

Yeah, I’m not quite sure when his previous relationship ended.

[ManOnFire]

Maybe because he wants to be honest with you about who's in his past, and also wants to find out where you stand in yours. Reason being that a lot of people are never really over their ex even when they're dating someone else. Sometimes they're only dating as a rebound to try to get over their ex. Maybe this guy wants to make sure that won't be the case and he won't be heartbroken.

[Asker]

I’m over my ex. I was just being honest with him about things.

[ManOnFire]

And that's cool, but he might've heartbroken in the past and wants assurance that you aren’t going to up and ghost him for your ex. This really does happen and leaves people broken.

[Asker]

Are you sure? I’m more worried about if he’s still hung up over his ex. He mentions her sometimes, but it’s never in a negative way.

[ManOnFire]

It could be. Maybe HE is still in the stage where he's still struggling to let her go.

[Asker]

That’s what I’m thinking.

[ManOnFire]

Hm. Then you should ask HIM where he stands on his ex and see how he responds.

[Asker]

I’m probably going to do that when I see him next if that topic comes up.

[Anonymous]

If a guy asks you about your past relationships, tell them they were great. The amount of times I’ve told my bfs how my ex boyfriend did this and that, they think in their head “hmmmm, so that’s her breaking point? Okay I have more wiggle room to disrespect her”. Always make it seem like your previous relationships were great and you were treated like a Queen so the bar stays high. These men nowadays are really something

[242plusInfinity]

You weren't even living long enough to say these men nowadays. You just have a negative mental attitude. You expect disrespect and the worst of people.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m 29 and I’ve been dating since 14

[Opinion Owner]

And every time I tell a guy I’m dating what the other one did to me, they always try to do it to me! It’s MY experience

[BlueScorpio]

How often does he keep mentioning his ex? If he wants you to bring up your ex it could be so he doesn't feel left out talking about his and won't be so obvious he keeps talking about her. If he continues bringing her up in every conversation, then confront him on it and tell him if he wants to be with his ex then he needs to go back to his ex and stop using you as a rebound.

[Asker]

Yeah, I’m afraid he’s using me as a rebound. He doesn’t bring her up that much, but the fact that he did bring her up really had me thinking recently.

[BlueScorpio]

How long has it been since the break up

[Asker]

Not sure. It’s his ex wife by the way (I’m assuming).

[Asker]

I’m pretty sure it was a few years ago

[Asker]

I might ask him

[BlueScorpio]

Mmm I don't know I'm thinking he might need more time ans space to get over his ex wife. Heck you can ask why they divorced if you want but it's up to you if you want to continue with him.

[Asker]

Not sure if it’s his ex girlfriend or ex wife. He just always says “ex”.

[ohsheeT]

Because in all reality he wants to keep talking about his ex but he knows it's not right so now he has to break down and ask you about your ex you're a good listener but he needs to vent it also means that you are the rebound girl so you should really be careful

[MementoMori_]

What do you want him to talk about? Sports? Cars? Sex? He's trying to talk about girl stuff instead of guy stuff but it's hard for a guy.

[Asker]

What do you mean by girl’s stuff?

[FilmGuy93]

Uh... I'm a little bit surprised you have any doubts? That's pretty close to the clearest green light I've ever heard.

[Asker]

I’m only having doubts in case he is still not over his ex.

[FilmGuy93]

Gotcha! Is there anything in particular that has you concerned he’s not over her?

[Asker]

I mean, not really. He barely talks about her but she came up a few times.

[Asker]

That had me worrying a little bit.

[FilmGuy93]

I see where you’re coming from. You know what you don’t know

[Asker]

He could be thinking the same with me as well. He might even think I’m still hung up on my ex too.

[SphynxUK]

Sound like he’s just fishing to see if you’re single.

[Asker]

Are you sure? I’m worried if he’s still not over his ex.

[SphynxUK]

If he wasn’t over her you would know about it. He’s speak about her all the time.

[Asker]

I wouldn’t say all the time. She did come up a few times though.

[Guy13]

Not if he is smart…outside of knowing you two were a thing.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Guy13]

To confirm.

[Asker]

Confirm what though?

[Guy13]

Just ask him…

[exitseven]

He is still hung up on her and is still trying to make sense of it.

[Pinay_ako]

Coz he’s still not over his ex…

[Iron_Man]

Just making conversation about your past

[Asker]

Do you have an idea as to why exactly he is doing that?

[Iron_Man]

Maybe he’s trying to compare relationship styles maybe he’s thinking that he had success so he wants to see what kind of success that you had maybe he wants to match things up a little bit

[Asker]

He did talk a bit about his previous relationship after he asked me.

[In_Trance]

Because he wants to know about your ex

[Asker]

But why?

[In_Trance]

ask him why

[Anonymous]

Be careful.
U may be a rebound

[NotFunny]

i think he is still love ex girlfriend